Here’s something we never realised in the ‘new age nineties’: All we have to do, is work on ourselves!
An aspect of the new age movement in the 1990s that didn’t sit comfortably with me, was the exercise of confronting the people in our lives with our so-called, truth: our versions of how they’d hurt us and our how they must change. Yuck! So messy and so much opportunity for power plays, manipulation, ego-defence reactions and resistance.
It was the ‘live and let live’ message of Annette Noontil in her book Your Body is the Barometer of your Soul, that really resonated with me, and it’s a practice that I find myself coming back to again and again. Another way of putting it was recently conveyed by Oprah Winfrey in a podcast:
There’s three kinds of business, my business, other people’s business and God’s business.
It’s so important we remember that anything outside our own control, meaning our own thoughts, feelings and behaviours, is not our business. Now, before you get all worked up about the importance of calling out bad behaviour, political and social activism and what-not, I’ll address it right now. These actions can in some situations, be described as ‘my business’, but on a strictly spiritual level, whenever we are very attached to fighting against something, we’re adding a lot of energy and therefore solidity and power, to its existence. And I’ll leave it there.
There’s someone else here…
What I’m really interested in telling you, is how I’m becoming increasingly amazed to see how I can be sitting with a client and they might have a tricky relationship or a very stressful situation connected with a person in their life, such as an ex-partner, parent, friend or boss and low and behold, I become aware that an energetic aspect of that person shows up in the session!
Don’t ask me to clearly articulate how I know this, my best explanation is that I get a sense of another person’s presence in the space around us and I can ‘feel’ them. I can feel their emotional state and aspects of their personality, and I just sort of ‘know’ who they are. I confirm this by asking internally, and feeling a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ response within myself. What I feel is essentially happening, is that via their energy connection to my client, an aspect of the person’s higher awareness feels there is an opportunity to share in the healing energy that’s being offered and so they join in.
This idea takes me very deeply into the understanding that we’re all connected. How often have you heard that term, and yet not really understood it? And also, that only one volunteer in a system of a family, a partnership, a workplace or a friendship group, need come forward to do their inner work on a conscious level. The other people connected to this person, who aren’t in a mental space to go and see a counsellor or an energy healer, will benefit from the one who does.
So this happens in a few ways. Firstly, in the case of other people’s energy signatures showing up during a session, they can receive healing in a direct way, because I’m willing to give them my attention and include them in the healing process as another client, so to speak. And I’ll explain all of this to the person I’m with. They often just want their emotional wounding to be acknowledged, or a part of their back story to be brought out, so that my client can gain a fresh perspective on them. In other examples, they get to receive their own energy healing, because I will facilitate an energy integration or release of some sort, simply by being a channel and giving them my full attention for a few minutes.
Secondly, these individuals receive an energy upgrade simply as a result of my client healing themselves and then creating a new reality around them. This effect is real as can be, and I’ve seen it for myself. Just when we think another person will never change and we’re completely fed up with their behaviour, we do the inner work of changing our feelings and expectations about that person and quite magically, they change. First we must let go of our need for them to change, and then we must take full responsibility for our historical need for them to behave in the ways that have bothered us so much. There must have been a higher reason for them playing that role for us.
We honestly do have the power to change the world around us by improving our own attitude and by becoming more disciplined with our thoughts and beliefs regarding what we pay attention to. We can put a lot of energy into seeing the worst in the world or in seeing the best. This can be the difference between feeling calm, happy and fulfilled and being constantly disappointed and depressed.
This is such an empowering concept, I just had to share it. Do your own inner work and do yourself a favour, and let go of what you believe others need to do. It’s that simple.
Enjoy your day, Tricia x