Hot crossed buns don’t really agree with my tummy. For the first time this Easter I thought I’d managed to steer clear of those yeasty, fruity, doughy treats until wandering through town on Saturday morning, seeing others walk by with their half-dozen buns, I could no longer resist.
Nobody else in the family enjoys them, I know they’re not good for me, it’s just that hot crossed buns are a fondly remembered part of my childhood Easters. Toasted or warmed in the oven and slathered with butter. It’s that cinnamon and nutmeg aroma as much as anything. Aren’t the scents sometimes the most evocative aspects of any deeply held pleasant memory?
Anyway I ate a couple, felt the not-so-nice effects later on and threw the rest in the bin. So, this post isn’t actually about sticky buns. What I’m wanting to share this week is the complexity of choice in this human experience.
I’ve been re-reading Eckhart Tolle’s book, A New Earth and enjoying being reminded about presence, awareness and being fully conscious in daily life. Tolle’s writing is so helpful in its simplicity and clarity of message.
What I’ve noticed so much over the years of more fully absorbing the teachings of Tolle, Neale Donald Walsch, Caroline Myss and many others is that the more present I am, the better the choices I make for myself. In Tolle’s words:
“There are three words that convey the secret of the art of living, the secret of all success and happiness: One With Life. Being one with life is being one with Now…Life is the dancer, and you are the dance”
Sounds simple huh? It is provided we are prepared to cultivate and then practice being in complete acceptance of every moment, in every moment. Another way of putting it is; saying a great big YES to life no matter what occurs.
The more aware or if you like ‘awake’ we are, the more aligned our choices are with what Life desires for us and then when the proverbial does hit the fan, as it still does even in the lives of the most spiritually advanced souls, we can move that much more swiftly from distress, shock, grief, anger or victim-hood into acceptance and grace-filled forgiveness.
When we live from a foundation of peace with all, and the understanding that our inner wisdom is there to guide us in every moment to our best physical, emotional and mental function, life gets a whole lot simpler and much more enjoyable.
Coming back to choice now, what exactly is it that leads us to repeatedly make poor choices for our health, finances, relationships, sanity and general sense of well-being? I think it’s many things and one thing. The many things first:
- Low self-worth
- Self-sabotage related to fear of failure or success
- Unconscious, inherited behaviours learnt in childhood
- Using the mind to rationalise the choice or blame others for it, thereby minimising or explaining away its ill-effects
- Choosing to fill life with distractions, complaints, criticism and excuses rather than choosing to be responsible for one’s own happiness.
- Etc, etc…
Now the one thing:
Not being fully present and embodied in the physicality, truth and divine potential of the human experience.
My hot crossed bun episode is just one tiny example of how I’m still on my learner’s permit with this stuff. Ah well, here’s to the journey ahead.
Want to share it with me? Learning’s easier in a group 🙂