You can feel something shifting, can’t you.
We’re coming to the close of 2014 and this is our opportunity to reflect, release and realise how far we’ve come this year.
Celebrate that you are still here and breathing. Breathe in, breathe out…
Go softly into the coming year. Be gentle on yourself and know that as you grow into greater love with who you are, your world will expand and your potential for your bigger life will be realised. Allow that this may happen quickly or slowly, in a steady or a stop and start manner, or for a long while it may feel as though nothing is happening at all…
Be assured, all that you need is present in your life in every moment: That problem with the computer, the package that hasn’t arrived, the friends running late to meet you at the restaurant, the lack of energy just when you had a long list of tasks to get through. It’s all there for you.
When we embrace the truth that life is always guiding and gifting us with precisely what we are ready to face, it all feels so much more calm and easy.
See if you can look at whatever you are presented with on Christmas Day with this kind of open-hearted trust. And you know I’m not talking about the presents you unwrap, I’m talking about the people you spend the day with and how they present themselves from your perspective.
Remember, we all are here with our own pathway to travel, they’re not deliberately trying to upset or annoy you, they are your wonderful family and they are part of your life for very mysterious and magical reasons. We all serve one another in many ways as we work through (or even settle into) our own dysfunction.
Also, please remember, you have free will. You may feel obligated to spend time with certain people at this time of year and if that leaves you feeling drained, triggered or angry and resentful, then perhaps you’ll make a different choice next time. You have the power to choose who you socialise with, no matter what the occasion.
So here are my three simple tips for being in your own integrity and staying calm this festive season:
Number one – Be mindful of who you commit to spending time with and find a positive reason to be with those whom you choose. If you can’t find a good reason to be there, bow out graciously. Feelings of obligation and guilt have no useful role in our lives (thank you Anita Moorjani).
Number two – Allow that if tensions are high in certain family dynamics, that others (and even you), may end up expressing some long-suppressed truths in what look and feel like arguments. These moments, while unpleasant can be very cathartic and be catalysts for healing and reconciliation. When we hold fear around them happening we may contribute to the intensity rather than prevent them. Being outdoors for at least some time during the day together can help to calm everyone down. Perhaps you could suggest a stroll after lunch?
Number three – Set some loving intentions for the group, for yourself and each individual prior to arriving or greeting your guests. While we are not responsible for any other person’s behaviour, we may set the energetic tone by holding ALL in light and compassion as the day commences.
Be yourself and be kind to you. That is your Christmas gift to your soul.
I’m available this week for appointments to help you get your year started with enthusiasm and direction. To learn more, take a look at my Inner Guidance Coaching page and contact me for a chat.