Quite a few years ago I realised there is a small collection of activities I love doing that help me to feel balanced, calm and healthy. I’ve known for ages that doing a little of most of these things, most days, makes my life flow with ease, joy and productivity.
They are yoga, walking, singing, dancing, meditation and writing.
Notice how none of these things need cost a cent?
Why is it then that so far, I have only managed to achieve very patchy success with incorporating these rituals into my routine? Yep, it’s only been in the past couple of weeks that I have made a fresh commitment to making these activities a part of my daily life and I have actually been doing it.
The irony of hearing myself making suggestions to this effect to the people I see every week in my counselling practice has not been lost on me. After all, one of my life mantras is, we teach what we most need to learn.
My feeling is that self-sabotage might be playing a role here.
I recognised a couple of years ago that I have been carrying a mild fear of success through my adult life. With a history of being sensitive to disapproval, rejection and exclusion, I’ve been playing it small for the past twenty years or so. I have a feeling that fear of success may be just as prominent in many people’s lives as the fear of failure. Put them both together and you have the perfect recipe for stunted development and self-sabotaging behaviours.
How does this relate to us committing to daily habits and activities that nurture and support our well-being? Well, just think about it, if we are feeling emotionally balanced, physically strong, calm, energised and joyful then we have no excuse for not fully expressing ourselves in the world.
No excuse at all!
But hey, this is just a normal part of our development. Recognising how we self-sabotage is a really great start.
What is needed is a big injection of self-love and gentle nurturing. Simple practices like this gem from Louise Hay can work miracles:When you first get out of bed in the morning, go to a mirror and look yourself in the face and say, I love you -(your name) – three or four times. If this feels silly or false do not fear. Do it anyway and remember that the old advice, “fake it till you make it” works wonderfully for things like this.
Come to think of it, I also love, drawing, painting, baking and swimming. So many choices, so little time.
Do what makes you happy every day!