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How Are Your Adrenals? Four Tips For Slowing Down

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

We live in a pretty crazy world don’t we?

I mean honestly, what’s with all this rushing around, moving and shaking, getting the job done?

We’re not designed to live at the pace we have deigned (in the west at least) to be “normal modern life”. Anyone remember the “slow food revolution”?  What we really need is a ‘slow life’ revolution.

And I’m not sure if you’ve heard about the unhealthy imbalance this racing about can cause in our bodies, but it’s real, it’s widespread and the implications for how our bodies will function into older age and how that will impact our enjoyment of life are concerning.

So dear sisters, if you are in your thirties or forties and maintaining a life where you are often heard to say, “I’m so busy, I haven’t got time to scratch myself”, or something similar, then I’m guessing, you’re not devoting enough time to relaxing, sleeping well, or you know, just sitting down and doing nothing for a little while every day.

I’m a recovering ‘rush-around woman’ myself, so I know what this sort of life feels like. Even nowadays, in our more relaxed country lifestyle, I still occasionally get pulled back into that old pattern of “so much to do, so little time.”

Our bodies, minds and emotions need regular down time.  Daily rest is not a luxury, it’s a necessity for each and every one of us.

What’s happening is that by placing all this pressure on ourselves to:

  • Be productive
  • Do everything well
  • Be infallible and perfect
  • Be a support for others
  • Be approved of by others etc, etc…

…we are burning out our endocrine system, starting with our adrenal glands.

You’ve all heard about the fight or flight response? Yes? Well here’s a recap; you see we humans were designed to be in the stress-response state for around maybe thirty seconds per day. You know, walking through the jungle and, “Oh hell, there’s a leopard over there, RUN!”….(thirty seconds later)…”Phew. That was close, wow, my chest is pounding hard.”

May the animals be our teachers.
May the animals be our teachers.

These days, due to our modern lifestyle, we are placing ourselves in the fight or flight state on and off all day long and our adrenals, which secrete many essential hormones including cortisol which helps us recover after stress or crisis, are just plain over-worked.

Here are my top four suggestions for changing our ‘rush fast’ mindset to something more gentle and nurturing:

  1. Release the need to be approved of by others in every moment of every day.
  2. Redefine your idea of the word ‘selfish’ and realise that good self-care benefits everyone around you.
  3. Stop obsessing about what’s next and how long your ‘to do’ list is and just BE in the present moment – when we do this and then ask ourselves if everything is actually okay right now, the answer is usually ‘yes’.
  4. Remember to breathe and enjoy your life. There’s no point in putting yourself last for the twenty years or so it takes to raise children and then look back with regret and resentment AND have to live with the legacy of chronic ill-health caused by stress.

So take it easy this weekend, slow down, do less and take stock of how you might re-jig your weekly routine so you have more space, ease and even some help from the other people in your life.  Delegation is not a dirty word 🙂

Here’s what medical intuitive, Caroline Sutherland has to say on the matter: Adrenal Fatigue – The 21st Century Disease (click to read more).

I love helping people navigate these sorts of changes in their lives. I’m available for sessions on either a single session basis, or you can buy a three session package.  Read more here and phone me for a chat.

Much love to you all, Tricia

Meditation Saved My Sanity When I Was a New Mum

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

How good are you at making your own health and happiness your highest priority?

I’ve always been fairly focused on looking after my own health and emotional well-being, it’s just something I managed to hone as a young woman. I worked out quite early in my adult life that I’m quite sensitive to stress and that my health goes downhill fast in response to bodily neglect or mistreatment.

I have never been one of those people who can party all night and then with only a glimpse at the pillow, proceed with reasonable normality through the following day.  Okay, I’ll come clean…I’ve only ever had one hangover in my life.  Boring?  Perhaps, but the truth is, I just didn’t like the way it felt and resolved to never do it again.

Simple for me I know but hey, I’m not much of a party animal or risk taker.  I like home, routine, comfort, safety and also… (might as well come completely clean with you), not wasting my money, nor being in vast clouds of cigarette smoke – it was the early nineties and people still smoked in pubs and clubs.

Anyway, fast forward to me in my early thirties and having my first child…

I thought my commitment to good self-care was right on track.  Then I became a mother.  Early motherhood for me was very rewarding, exhausting and emotionally….shall we say, demanding, draining?

Back then I thought getting out for a walk once or twice a week on my own, or getting a haircut, or hold the front page, doing the grocery shop without baby in tow, were living it up.  He was my world and I loved him intensely but I wasn’t so good at spending much time looking after myself or letting others do things for me. And to be honest, my marriage suffered some neglect too.

Not much changed when our daughter came along. In fact with a newborn and a toddler, I found even more to do in my mummy role and found it even easier to push away thoughts about what I wanted and needed for my own happiness and well-being.

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I certainly loved being a mother and felt so grateful for having two gorgeous healthy children but I wasn’t really enjoying my life.  I felt stressed every day, put silly amounts of pressure on myself to keep a perfect home and have perfectly healthy and well-behaved kids, and didn’t really take a healthy amount of time out just for myself.

Things began changing for me a year or so later when my children were both toddlers and bless them, still sleeping in the afternoons. I listened to my inner wisdom and calling on my memories of a Buddhist meditation course I’d done with my mum as a 25 year-old, I began meditating each day for 30 minutes while the children slept.

Hey, it only took me a decade to implement what I’d learned, not too bad.

Here’s what daily meditation gave me:

  • A rest from my over-active mind
  • Connection to my inner wisdom
  • An access point to my own source of peace and calm
  • Renewed faith in my own goodness and adequacy
  • Increased patience with my children
  • Inspiration and guidance regarding who I was at a deeper level and what my true passions were
  • Much needed perspective on my roles of mother and wife in relation to who I am as an individual…

There’s so much more I could tell you and that was just what I noticed in those first few weeks of beginning my daily practice.

If you’d like some help with getting started in your own meditation practice, you might benefit from a session (or three) with me. Click here to learn more or go to my Free audio meditation page and listen to one of my guided processes.

Much love and lightness to you all,

Tricia

Tune Into Your Inner Guidance – Three Tips

Posted in Live From Intuition

Not so many years back I was one of those regular sort of people who thought life was all about working hard, earning rewards by struggling and striving and that it was my mind that would carry me over that far-distant finish line of success.

So much has changed.

Here’s a quick summary spanning twelve years:

  • Motherhood
  • Career confusion
  • Emotional overwhelm
  • Loss of self
  • Marriage strain
  • The discoveries of art, meditation, kinesiology, yoga, my heart and my intuitive gifts…..

I now live my life from my inner guidance.  My mind plays a pretty important role too but it comes a very comfortable second place to my heart.

Being in nature helps me connect with  my inner guidance
Being in nature helps me connect with my inner guidance

You see, the mind actually doesn’t want to be in control, it’s quite happy to play second fiddle.

It’s just that we’re raised in these western cultures of ours to identify with what we know; our academic and work achievements and book learning rather than what we feel.

You know, in your gut, your instincts, your heart.

So what I understand now is that although when my mind was playing at being in the driver’s seat, I made some decisions that weren’t so great, it wasn’t all bad, because there were still moments when gut feeling took over and I listened to that quiet inner voice.  It’s just that I mostly didn’t know that’s what I’d done and I gave my mind the power of thinking it was all knowing and all clever.

Definitely not so.

Since learning to follow my inner guidance and live more from my heart than my mind, my whole life has changed.  I won’t go into it all here, you can read more here.  I’ll just say I feel happy being me and I’m surrounded by more people than ever before who ‘get’ me, love me and who I love back. Yay!

So here’s how you make a start with this inner guidance caper:

Three Tips for Tuning Into Your Inner Guidance

  1. Make space for your inner voice to speak to you – Your inner guidance comes mostly via life happening quite organically around you everyday. And when you make time each day to sit in meditation, you increase your chances of being available to receive the messages from within your heart, both in that moment of stillness and in the wonderful synchronicities and coincidences life presents.
  2. Ask for help Play with the idea that you can ask for guidance on just about anything.  From everyday things like what to eat for breakfast, what colour shirt to buy and whether to make a phone call to someone in particular, to the big ticket items like your life purpose, career direction and relationship quandaries. So in those still moments, ask within and then listen and feel into your heart to start receiving the guidance you seek.
  3. Pay attention to what you see, hear and sense in every moment  Much of what we experience in daily life is there for us to absorb as guidance, feedback and learning.  I’m not saying every situation you find yourself in is all about you and nobody else, I’m just suggesting to not discount that overheard conversation that draws your attention or that chance meeting with a friend from years back as happenings of no significance.  When we allow our heart to guide us into the feelings and deeper messages in each moment, we attract our desires much faster and gentler.

Enough said for now.  If you would like some personal help with tuning into your inner guidance from me, take a look HERE and contact me for your FREE fifteen minute phone session.

 

Mindfulness minus Multi-tasking = Inner Peace

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

On the walk across the golf course to school this morning, my nine year-old daughter asked: “Mum, why do you meditate?”

My reply: “Well, it makes me more peaceful and calm.  Also, it helps me to know myself better and become clearer about how I want to live my life, rather than just rushing around all day focused on what I have to do”.

“Hmmm” she said. “I’m already peaceful, sorta, well not really, but I’m happy (looking up at me with a funny grin).”

We had a little giggle at this because ‘peaceful’ is not a word either of us would often associate with this high energy, singing and dancing, extroverted, firecracker of a little girl.  But yes, she is mostly a pretty happy child.

And I guess, for the most part, I’m a pretty happy adult.  It’s just that since leaving childhood, I seem to have developed some not so helpful habits when it comes to being present, mindful, conscious and focused each day.

7.15am : Enjoying the peace and serenity of sunrise
7.15am : Enjoying the peace and serenity of sunrise

One of these is multi-tasking.  Are you aware of how often in your day you are trying to do more than one thing at a time? Also, are you aware of how sometimes doing more than one thing at a time undermines your enjoyment of both activities?

In my assessment, some multi-tasking works and some doesn’t.  It’s all a matter of being aware of how mindful you feel when combining activities and how you feel at the end of each day when you do it a lot.

For example, this morning I enjoyed listening to Dee Walllace on Masterworks Healing as I folded and hung washing indoors.  This type of multi-tasking feels fine to me as I can remain calm and present when I do it.

A not so healthy habit I recently broke was reading while eating.  When I did this, I found my posture became hunched, my abdomen was tense and I wasn’t really conscious of what I was putting in my mouth.  I think conversing while eating is fine (my husband is always telling me off for talking with my mouth full).  Reading feels different I think because it takes your mind away from the present moment and distracts you from enjoying the food. But hey, maybe that’s just me.

The bottom line is, when we try to do too much, we feel stressed and the notion that we are more productive the more balls we can juggle through our day, can actually be a bit of an illusion.  Slowing everything down allows us to see that a happy life is not about getting through the washing so we can do something more fun or about eating breakfast while reading a magazine because we’ve killed two birds with one stone (but probably enjoyed neither).

This is what I know about myself: I can’t listen to an interview and write emails or a blog simultaneously.  I can’t meditate and compile a shopping list simultaneously and I can’t truly taste my morning cup of tea unless I sit down to drink it instead of sipping it while standing at the kitchen bench filling lunch boxes.

What multi-tasking habits would you like to break?  I love to hear from you…