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How to Stay Grounded in your Spirituality

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

I once thought that cultivating my spirituality would solve all my problems. I just had to become all loving, joyful and angelic and then whoosh! Life would be eternally wonderful. Unfortunately it’s not this simple.

There’s certainly a strong appeal to wanting to escape from the world into an airier, more transcendent state. But what if we could expand our spiritual awareness without running away from the physical realities of this earth-bound life?

crystals on beach

The most difficult part is knowing when we’re ungrounded and then realising the value in coming back down to earth. There are certainly times when we intend to leave the density behind as we meditate, pray, sing mantra, use a substance of some sort, or get all carried away with a new spiritual learning. But there are also times when we’re simply going about our daily lives and we realise that we’re completely away with the fairies.

Both of these situations can lead to an ungrounded state of being and if you have anything resembling a regular life such as a family, car, home, job, pet, friends and actually, even just a physical body, both are problematic.

So what do we mean by ‘ungrounded’? It means that our awareness is focused outside of our physicality and our earth connection. We’re lost in thoughts, ideas, worries, creative inspiration, philosophical meanderings or spiritual devotion. We may even be giving a large chunk of our awareness to another person such as a lover, guru, teacher or author, giving our power and sense of self to them.

Being ungrounded creates a scenario where we’re not able to be fully present and healthily engaged with life. Here’s seven nasty side-effects:

  1. We become accident prone, forgetful and vague
  2. We’re not able to communicate effectively or consider other people’s needs properly
  3. We make poor choices around money, caring for our health, substance use and who to trust
  4. Our intuition becomes faulty because mental chatter interferes
  5. We get carried away with newly formed beliefs, business schemes and creative projects and fail to take practical matters into consideration
  6. We distance ourselves from anyone who doesn’t support our new world view
  7. The general feel of life becomes stressful and frustrating and we become disconnected from the people we love

So that’s the downside of being ungrounded. Here’s some suggestions for how we might strike the right balance between inspired and functional:

  • Get into your body with yoga, dancing, walking in nature bare-footed, beating a drum, swimming, sitting on the ground outdoors to meditate and leaning against and hugging trees
  • Pay attention to your breathing. Each time you become aware of getting carried away with your thoughts, place your hand on your stomach and consciously breathe in and out a few times
  • Use moments of eating and drinking to be fully present with what’s going into your mouth and give thanks for what you’re receiving
  • Practice active listening when talking with the people in your life. Look at them, take note of their body language, be curious about how they’re feeling and ask questions to clarify what they’re saying and reflect your understanding of what they’ve said, maybe like this: “So it sounds like your saying….”
  • Cultivate an awareness of having your feet on the earth at all times. Take your attention to your feet multiple times a day and notice how they’re making contact with the ground
  • Start the day with a visualisation of beams of light or roots coming out of the bottom of your feet and travelling down into the earth beneath you. Consciously anchor yourself to the planet and know that you’re always supported by that earth energy

When we’re grounded we’re calm, wise and thoughtful. All of the qualities that I reckon might just bring us a better world. Don’t you agree?

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Four Steps to Coaching Yourself to Greatness

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

You know you’re being called to step up and into the next brilliant chapter of your life right now don’t you?

Anything holding you back?

If you’re like me and have been on the so-called, “spiritual development” pathway for a few years, I’ll bet you’re completely fed up with overcoming yet another self-limiting belief, squashing those pesky self-sabotaging behaviours and uncovering those ancient fears that pop up every time you feel like you’re finally making progress.

We’re full of it aren’t we?

Well yes, and no. Yes because we are complex, flawed and multi-layered and no because we are amazing, resilient, here for a reason and it really is all good.

Enjoying an Autumn beach visit with my daughter.
Enjoying an Autumn beach visit with my daughter.

What’s required here is a shift of mindset around what it truly means to be a moderately enlightened person who has a great life, lots of friends, fun times, good health and laughter.

I’ve made some rapid and much appreciated leaps forward within my inner landscape these past few weeks and then more stuff rises to the surface right?

My dreams have been showing me a glitch that needs fixing before I can move ahead properly into my expanded business, my book being published and my face being on the cover of…well maybe not that.  But anyway, in these dreams, I’m attending events with my current mentors, having a great old time and then my children appear in the dream and they’re all thin and undernourished, or a washing line appears in front of me and I begin unpegging the washing. Strange? Well not really.

What I feel these dreams were revealing was a belief at the unconscious level that motherhood and career are incompatible.  I say ‘were’ because this morning on my beach walk I clarified it and transformed it. I used a technique created by the wonderful Dee Wallace where you simply claim out loud from your ‘I AM’ presence (higher self), whatever it is you would like to create.

I said something like this:

“I claim from my I AM presence in this moment of now that I am fully balanced, free, joyful and successful in my roles of mother, teacher, healer, wife, daughter, friend and in myself free of all roles. And so it is. Thank you”.  

Sound easy enough?

Here are some steps to get you there:

  1. Begin with an attitude of loving kindness for yourself. Try Louise Hay’s mirror exercise where you look into a mirror first thing in the morning and gazing into your eyes say, “I love you your name” at least three times. Keep this up until it feels true and then do it some more.
  2. Get to know what you really want to create in your life from what you most love doing.
  3. Know yourself well enough to be able to read your own dreams, listen to insights from within while meditating, or use journalling, painting, singing, dancing or walking as self-exploration tools.
  4. Understand and accept that you are the most powerful person in your life and if you want to make changes in how you live, then simply begin claiming want you want to create as a reality in the present moment.

That’s it for now lovely people. And remember, I love helping women get to know themselves better and deeper because I know it leads to a happier life.  Consider booking a phone or in-person coaching and healing session with me and you’ll see quick results.

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