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How Are Your Adrenals? Four Tips For Slowing Down

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

We live in a pretty crazy world don’t we?

I mean honestly, what’s with all this rushing around, moving and shaking, getting the job done?

We’re not designed to live at the pace we have deigned (in the west at least) to be “normal modern life”. Anyone remember the “slow food revolution”?  What we really need is a ‘slow life’ revolution.

And I’m not sure if you’ve heard about the unhealthy imbalance this racing about can cause in our bodies, but it’s real, it’s widespread and the implications for how our bodies will function into older age and how that will impact our enjoyment of life are concerning.

So dear sisters, if you are in your thirties or forties and maintaining a life where you are often heard to say, “I’m so busy, I haven’t got time to scratch myself”, or something similar, then I’m guessing, you’re not devoting enough time to relaxing, sleeping well, or you know, just sitting down and doing nothing for a little while every day.

I’m a recovering ‘rush-around woman’ myself, so I know what this sort of life feels like. Even nowadays, in our more relaxed country lifestyle, I still occasionally get pulled back into that old pattern of “so much to do, so little time.”

Our bodies, minds and emotions need regular down time.  Daily rest is not a luxury, it’s a necessity for each and every one of us.

What’s happening is that by placing all this pressure on ourselves to:

  • Be productive
  • Do everything well
  • Be infallible and perfect
  • Be a support for others
  • Be approved of by others etc, etc…

…we are burning out our endocrine system, starting with our adrenal glands.

You’ve all heard about the fight or flight response? Yes? Well here’s a recap; you see we humans were designed to be in the stress-response state for around maybe thirty seconds per day. You know, walking through the jungle and, “Oh hell, there’s a leopard over there, RUN!”….(thirty seconds later)…”Phew. That was close, wow, my chest is pounding hard.”

May the animals be our teachers.
May the animals be our teachers.

These days, due to our modern lifestyle, we are placing ourselves in the fight or flight state on and off all day long and our adrenals, which secrete many essential hormones including cortisol which helps us recover after stress or crisis, are just plain over-worked.

Here are my top four suggestions for changing our ‘rush fast’ mindset to something more gentle and nurturing:

  1. Release the need to be approved of by others in every moment of every day.
  2. Redefine your idea of the word ‘selfish’ and realise that good self-care benefits everyone around you.
  3. Stop obsessing about what’s next and how long your ‘to do’ list is and just BE in the present moment – when we do this and then ask ourselves if everything is actually okay right now, the answer is usually ‘yes’.
  4. Remember to breathe and enjoy your life. There’s no point in putting yourself last for the twenty years or so it takes to raise children and then look back with regret and resentment AND have to live with the legacy of chronic ill-health caused by stress.

So take it easy this weekend, slow down, do less and take stock of how you might re-jig your weekly routine so you have more space, ease and even some help from the other people in your life.  Delegation is not a dirty word 🙂

Here’s what medical intuitive, Caroline Sutherland has to say on the matter: Adrenal Fatigue – The 21st Century Disease (click to read more).

I love helping people navigate these sorts of changes in their lives. I’m available for sessions on either a single session basis, or you can buy a three session package.  Read more here and phone me for a chat.

Much love to you all, Tricia

I Woke Up (A Bit More) – How I Did It

Posted in Live Your Passions, and Self-Care and Self-Healing

The energies of transformation I’ve written about in recent posts have been turned up a notch or two the past couple of weeks. The Aries energy of right now combined with a Cardinal Grand Cross (for you astrology experts), and some eclipses coming next week and later this month, make for a heady cocktail of aha!, oh no! and ah yes! moments galore.

I’ve had the sensation in the last few days of coming out of a fog, seeing the exceptional in life and especially in nature all around me.

All of a sudden I marvel at every bird, kangaroo, tree, flower and leaf.  Formerly I would devote less attention to the birds I see in great numbers such as the willy wagtails, New Holland honey-eaters, magpies, and kookaburras and only be stopped in my tracks by the less common scarlet robins, splendid fairy wrens and the stunning golden whistler.

New Holland honeyeaters. The commonplace is special too
New Holland honeyeaters. The commonplace is special too

Nowadays I’m finding myself filled with joy and wonder at just about everything and it feels nice.  A weight has been lifted and I’m finding myself feeling aghast at how little I appreciated my amazing existence up until now.

Our daily companions are just as valuable as occasional visitors
Our daily companions are just as valuable as occasional visitors

Okay, so what’s happened.  Some simple things.  I’ve been setting an alarm for the first time in years and getting up early to walk, meditate and journal.  I’ve been listening to my intuition and using essential oils in my burner, lighting an inscense stick now and then and utilising my flower essence stash with greater joy and appreciation than ever.

I’ve consciously slowed down again, more, because what I thought was slowing down a year ago was barely breaking a fast clip. And it’s all divinely right timing, I’m ready for this new phase.  Cause if I wasn’t ready I wouldn’t be doing it.

To put it in a nutshell, I’ve created more time for quiet contemplation, creative expression and following my heart.

What I’m still getting used to is the novelty of these stronger, more passionate feelings of connection and appreciation.  There’s something slightly scary in loving more because perhaps there’s a tiny part of me that believes the more you love, the greater the potential for pain and loss.  Does that make sense?

On the human level I think it makes infinite sense because our first and most basic urge is to keep ourselves safe from harm. Moving into the higher understanding that we are eternally safe because we are divine beings of light that will endure any earth-bound experience, even death makes it seem a little silly, but therein lies the complexity of our human being-ness.

Just about all of us unconsciously hold back from feeling all we can feel out of fear of making ourselves vulnerable.  I’m an expert at this, remember in life, with regard to comparing yourself with others or standing in judgment of another, “it takes one to know one”.  This is true in every instance.

So finding myself drawn into new, more loving friendships and stronger connections to the people already in my life who give more and feel more than me is a natural step on this new path.  We surround ourselves with those whom we both admire and can see a little of ourselves in.  This is another way I’m letting my heart rather than my head guide me into greater joy, freedom and peace.

Slow it all down and be your own best friend first. <3