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No cord cutting required – It’s all in you

Posted in Trust The Universe

I hesitate to be definitive about anything these days. And if I’m honest, I have helped people to visualise the cutting of cords from various ex-partners and ex-friends from whom they wish to create an energetic separation. But you know, it feels like it’s time we moved on. And by moved on I mean, moved IN. But none of this is coming from what I ‘know’, it’s merely a reportage of what I’ve been experiencing in my work over the last couple of years.

Everything we need to know about why we’ve had the experiences we’ve had, why we’ve responded to certain people in particular ways and why we feel repelled by some people, is within us. The access points to integrate all that is fragmented and rejected in our lives are within us. I believe the best and most enduring type of healing does not involve further separating ourselves from the ‘other’ or from the parts of ourselves we don’t like. It’s about drawing it all in, acknowledging it fully and inviting whatever ‘it’ is, to stay or go. If there is a frequency mismatch, it will either lift its frequency or go. And if we approach this task with a pure and open heart, the frequency mismatch will be clear.

Here are some realities as I perceive them:

  • We’re bound to other people in ways we can’t control and for reasons we’re not meant to fully understand
  • We’re bound to bodies of energy – some call them entities – because at some time, maybe long, long ago, we allowed them to merge or bond with our etheric body
  • And still, perhaps paradoxically, we are sovereign beings. We have free will, the ultimate power to choose our experiences from deep within us

I feel it’s time for us to let go of the idea that in order to be free of the past, or of the sucking, draining or dragging energy of others, that we must cut cords, burn ties or create any other illusion of separation and rejection. One of the errors of this approach lies in the energy we then must devote to holding this person to account for their ill deeds, wrongdoing or deficiencies which led to us cutting them off in the first place. We must justify our position internally and for most of us, there lingers the nagging feeling that we’ve done something wrong. The other problem with this tactic is that it rarely works.

What we end up feeling is scattered, splintered and divided against ourselves. But most of all, exhausted, from the effort of running away from a person who despite the cord cutting, continues to trail behind us like a limp balloon tied to our wrist by a string. And what’s worse than the remnants of an old foe lingering on? It’s when into our lives we attract a similar new person to be our mirror since we pushed the last one away.

What I’m getting at here is that every ‘thing’ and person we reject or fear, is a symbol of an aspect of ourselves we’re not at peace with. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating that anyone put up with an abusive friend, partner or family member in the name of self-discovery and spiritual advancement. Not at all. We may choose who we spend our time with, that is our right.

Where we possibly go wrong is by demonising said person after the fact, and as a result, failing to grasp their unique humanity and wounding that lead them to this way of behaving. When we hold the perspective that we need to cut energetic ties in order to feel safe, we end up feeling both disempowered and disconnected from our divinity. We are in unity with ALL and once we can embrace the reality that we don’t get to choose only the ‘light’, we will rise into a new way of existence. It is possible for us to arrive at our own resolution and bring immense forgiveness and compassion to our story with the person concerned, even if they’re no longer in our lives, via a guided spiritual healing process.

That which clings to us which is of a lower vibrational resonance, can only do so via our own corresponding frequency. Once we welcome all that is fearsome, shadowy, dark, dense or indeed, ‘evil’ into our hearts to be fully acknowledged, it either transmutes into a higher vibration to unite with us in the forms of creative inspiration, wildish passion, or gifts of healing and psychic awareness or, it simply slides right off and dissolves before our eyes. The key here is to know when we’re ready to do the work.

When you choose a skilled practitioner to help you through this process, none of it will be confronted until you are ready. In the work that I do with people, these opportunities usually arise spontaneously because the guides perceive that the time is right and it all occurs quite rapidly and with little fuss. It’s a powerful paradox and one worth embracing. Welcome that which you most fear and see it turn into harmless dust.

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Much love, Tricia

 

 

How To Turn Trauma Into Triumph

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

Have you ever realised that your most traumatic life experiences just might be the greatest gifts you’ve ever received?

How we feel about the ‘bad things’ that have happened in our lives has the power to make or break us in ways that are far reaching and sometimes life altering.

When we feel victimised by what life has handed us, we relinquish our power to fully recover and see the gifts in the event.  When we can eventually come to terms with what’s happened and even manage to feel grateful for it, we increase our capacity to bounce back from future crises as well as life’s daily hassles.

Trauma and crisis make us humble, compassionate, grateful and resilient.

The birth of my son more than 13 years ago would rank right up there as one of the most traumatic experiences of my life and yet, it was clearly one of my most treasured gifts because once it was all over…he was alive and healthy, I was alive and fairly healthy considering what I’d endured, and most importantly, I’d become a mother.

Not only that, I’d been humbled and brought into a truer alignment with my soul’s path. Experiencing that very difficult birth allowed me to disassemble much of what I’d previously thought about who I was and how my life was supposed to be and then bit by bit, to create a more authentic and richer version of myself.

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And you know, even though I’ve gotten over the grief, regret and strong sense of failure I felt for a few years (yes years), after the event, this strong memory still has the power to get me fired up.

What makes me cross is that as a society we persist in the belief that all trauma is bad, to be regretted and that if crappy things have happened in a person’s life it somehow means they are faulty or deficient.

One of my very wise and resilient clients who has experienced a difficult marriage separation in the last year says to herself and her children:

“This is just something that’s happening to you it’s not who YOU are.”

I love this because it’s so true and so simple to understand.

We don’t need to identify with or be fully defined by the challenging episodes in our lives. And until we’re ready to see and feel the blessing in what’s occurred, it’s perfectly acceptable and even desirable to express how we feel with honesty and courage.

So here’s what I’d recommend for turning your perspective of loss, failure or resentment over what’s happened into feelings of inner strength, optimism and gratitude:

Step one: Honour the emotions that are there and feel them. Try not to attach any judgments to the feelings as classifying emotions as negative or positive is actually pretty flawed and unhelpful.

We feel what we feel, that’s all.  None of it is wrong or bad.

Step two: Talk, write, sing, dance, cry, draw and paint about how you feel until a feeling of peace and acceptance washes over you and the feelings soften a little (even if only temporarily).

Step three: Look for just one blessing in the event and write it down or tell someone about it.

Step four: Take yourself into a meditative state – just sit down, close your eyes and bring your attention to within the centre of your being – and see yourself being an objective observer of what has happened.  Then try seeing all of the other players in the event and how each of them has had their own experience and received their own gifts.

Ask within yourself to be shown the deeper significance of this experience and hold an intention of wonder and curiosity about what you might discover.

We’re not here to avoid trauma and crisis at any cost because to be quite honest, we can’t. Plus, there is a greater mystery in motion that is completely out of our control. And when we realise that our challenges and crises make us rather than break us, may we bless them all and revel in their divine beauty.

For some personal attention with coming to terms with a difficult time in your life, contact me for a chat and book an in-person, telephone or Skype session with me sometime.  Read more here about how I work…

Blessings abound, Tricia