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Your sacral chakra needs you- two ways to help

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

How well do your know your chakra system? You know there’s seven of them, starting at the base of your spine and reaching to the crown of your head right? But did you know that for all seven energy centres to be healthy and flowing with beneficial energy, it’s vital that the lower three are in good shape.

Now I’m not going to get too technical here and bring in lots of Sanskrit language about nadis, prana and kundalini. No, because if you’re anything like me, your eyes will glaze over and you’ll stop reading. All we’re going to focus on here is the beautiful qualities of the sacral chakra known as Svadhisthana or ‘dwelling place of the self’. Okay, I’ll stop it now. Let’s get into the juicy details…

Our sacral chakra is a beautiful swirling energy vortex located in our pelvic region. It’s stimulated and recharged by the colour orange and is deeply connected to the element of water. One of the ways I like to visualise sacral chakra energy is to imagine there’s a glass bowl of water sitting in my pelvis and there’s a bright orange light in the centre of it, radiating out of my body in all directions. How about trying it now? Just sit comfortably and place your left hand over your lower abdomen and create this visualisation: The bowl of water sitting in your pelvis glows strongly at the centre and softer at the edges with a vibrant orange hue, shimmering and swirling in its liquid form.

The qualities governed by the sacral are feminine by nature. After all, it encompasses the female reproductive organs and the womb where babies form and grow. It’s all about creativity, procreation, pleasure and softness.  Well softness but also immense strength and life-giving powers. When we have a healthy sacral chakra we’re in touch with our need for sensual and sexual pleasure, our emotions and our creative urges. We feel calmly grounded in our physical attractiveness, sexuality and fertility – both literally, in our capacity to create new life through pregnancy and figuratively through say, a work of art.

What I’m going to give you now is two simple techniques to open and revitalise your sacral chakra. They’re easy and your physical body will love the benefits they bring.

One involves dancing and one involves stretching: First, let’s dance. Put on some music and put your hands on your hips. Place your feet comfortably apart and bend your knees…rotate your hips in a circle one way and then the other. swing your hips from side to side in time with the music. Just keep doing that, then go freestyle.  Swing, sway, wiggle, shake, hula, whatever feels good. While you’re doing this, breathe deeply, feel into your entire pelvic region and notice what’s there.

You may feel some heat or tingling or not much at all. No judgement. Accept what ‘is’ and try again tomorrow. Just spending three minutes a day, the length of a song, in sensual hip movement is a sure-fire way to liven up your sacral space and get some creative juices flowing again.

Now for the stretch.This is all about opening into the outer hips because if you’re like me and do a lot of sitting in chairs, walking, cycling or running, your hips might be strong, but they may not be very flexible. Our whole hip and pelvic region, inside and out, plays an important role in our sacral chakra function. I’m a big fan of pigeon pose, either on the back or leaning over the bent leg. Simple grab a mat or find a soft carpet and move gently into one of these poses…

Once you’re in the pose, relax and breathe normally for a couple of minutes and then change sides. And here’s my disclaimer, I’m not a yoga teacher, so if you’re not already familiar with these poses from your own practice, wait until you do them in a yoga class before trying them on your own.

Finally, well, I didn’t want to mention it but there it is, staring us all in the face. Of course regular sex is wonderful for stimulating and freeing up sacral chakra energy. Orgasm is the ultimate sacral energiser. There, I said it. Reclaiming and honouring the sacral will open up your capacity to fully enjoy life and take full ownership of your immense creative potential.

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Can I come out of my box now?

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

I just realised how thoroughly I’ve boxed myself in. I’ve been diligently constructing the box I like to call my identity or perhaps, my personality, my whole life. I thought I liked the box and I guess I thought it was essentially ‘me’. It wasn’t until the other day that I even had the understanding that the box is separate from the actual, real Tricia.

So how do we define or even recognise this box? Our personality is really only our ‘outer self’ or what we might think of as our socially acceptable self.  We only need dig down a little into our inner, darker recesses to observe that many parts of us, including our beliefs, preferences, ideals, habits and prejudices form only the thinnest, most flimsy layer of who we really are. And while this may initially sound shocking and feel very destabilising, when we can get past our attachment to these parts of ourselves, it can be very liberating.

But oh how we cling.

Of course it’s not easy to let go of what we believe is true about ourselves, the world and our place in it. I identify very strongly with many aspects of my outer self, not the least of which is my body and how I feel in it. This is where the experience of being in an earth-bound human body is very instructive. I’m talking about the aging process and what it can do to our sense of self and our ideas of who we think we are over a lifetime. I might cling to the idea that I look a certain way perhaps until my latish fifties, but then, maybe come sixty, the changes wrought will be undeniable and if I’m to enjoy my life and carry on despite ‘looking old’, I must release this care and focus on other things. Goodbye body image box.

One of the other boxes I can now acknowledge and I want to shed is my habit of denying myself pleasure. I’m really good at this. I reckon I’m a bit of an expert…how do I know? Well it’s because I recently began finding ways to bring more pleasure into everyday moments and it made me pause and reflect. I was astonished at how vigilant I’ve been with keeping myself from pleasure.  

It kinda goes with the territory when you’re a Virgo though. We are known for our puritanical tendencies….And it’s not like it’s all bad. There’s a sick type of pleasure to be gained from denying, holding back, going without and then….all of a sudden, yes! I’m going to have a piece of chocolate. What a high!  But seriously, I’m sure my body is grateful for the many years of deprivation I’ve subjected it to. No really. I’ve never been overweight and have had only one hangover. EVER! I know, total square.

The other way self-denial can be a positive is having the discipline to endure long periods of toil in order to accomplish a goal. It probably contributed to my completion of two degrees and a post grad diploma before I turned 28. But….and this is a big but because, to be honest, having two degrees didn’t really equate with happiness and fulfillment for me …. There’s this. From whence we experience pleasure is from whence our creativity springs and from creative expression comes great pleasure. It’s the circle of life. Without creative expression of some kind, we’re kind of stunted in our capacity to enjoy life.

This is sacral chakra energy. Our sacral chakra is the energy centre for our reproductive urges, sexual and sensual enjoyment, feminine power, creative inspiration and integrated emotional expression. So doesn’t it make sense then, that to be creatively engaged with life and to allow pleasure to seep into every moment possible, we will have healthy energy in the sacral? And as women, we really want to be super-engaged with our sacral chakra because it’s the seat of our capacity to nurture ourselves and others, feel our feelings and be stable in our sense of self. Just think about the archetypal womanly figure, rounded hips and soft stomach creating a safe and welcoming vessel for a baby to form and grow. She is stable and strong in her sacral and the powers that dwell there are revered by all, especially herself.

The sacral chakra is all about receptivity.  Can we receive more?  Does it feel safe to open up and be the receiver of life’s abundant pleasures and gifts? Goodbye pleasure-denial box.

The way to nurture our sacral is simply to nurture ourselves. Make life fun, comfortable, sexy, pleasurable, soft, open-hearted and even a little bit naughty whenever you can. Turn music on when you cook and clean, eat some chocolate in the morning, take a bath in the afternoon and always say yes to spontaneous invitations that sound good.  Enjoy your five senses and be open to what life has to offer. For me pleasure is more time outdoors, more music, yoga, dancing and meditation. More time having fun with the people I love.

Pleasure, creativity and feminine wisdom are inextricably linked.  Enjoy. Create. Feel. Know yourself.

Give Yourself Permission to Enjoy Life

Posted in Live From Intuition

How were you raised to feel about concepts like work, productivity and achievement?

Were some activities deemed a waste of time while others were held up as being worthwhile, good and useful?

And, last question, how do you feel about work and leisure now, do you have clearly defined boundaries around these two types of activity, or do they cross over, intermingle and blur?

Having lunch with a friend.
Having lunch with a friend.

How we judge the ways we spend our time and how sensitive we are to our own needs to do certain activities on a regular basis, are major determinants of happiness.

A key to achieving this is identifying and releasing any of the unhelpful beliefs we learned about work and our worthiness as people outside our work roles as we grew up.

We are not what we do.

Here’s an example: I got a new book in the post today.  It’s Sarah Powers’ book, Insight Yoga and ever since I attended a very inspiring yoga and meditation workshop with her in January, I’ve been really looking forward to getting it.  As I glance at the enticing cover right now, a part of me wants to stop what I’m doing and spend the rest of the day reading it.

But I won’t.

I won’t because at this moment in time, sitting down to read a book on two of my very favourite topics, yoga and meditation, doesn’t match my criteria of how a ‘working day’ should be spent.  It’s 1.00 pm, the children are at school, my husband is upstairs working in his office and I’m feeling this interestingly familiar pressure to be productive.

And it’s all good because I know I’ll make time to read this book at some point today and I’m getting better with every word I type right now with lightening up on this whole productivity caper.

You see I have all this amazing freedom to choose how I spend my time while my children are at school.  In an average week I see few clients, do a yoga class, meet a friend for a cuppa, go for a walk or two, write a blog, listen to a teleseminar or watch a training video, do some housework/washing/shopping and chat with my husband, all during the six hour school day.

I love my life but what I’m to ready to shift into now is a whole new level of creativity, flexibility and freedom. There’s nothing wrong and everything right with going with the flow of what intuition guides us to spend our time doing. Our inner self knows when to work and when to play, that these terms are interchangeable and in fact, all of life can feel like play.

I grew up getting that much lauded (by parents) word on almost every school report; conscientious. Hard to spell and even to say but hey, I was a hard worker, I got good grades.  This quality helped me do well in school and fairly well in the workforce but it also caused me to feel quite stressed and to put myself under a lot of pressure to always achieve.

When I left work and became a mother, I found it very difficult to transfer this mindset to being at home with a baby. A big culture shock!

So what I’ve learnt since then is that when I’m in close connection to my intuitive self, I know what’s best for me to spend my time on in each moment.  We all have choices and sure, sometimes I find myself feeling conflicted.  But what I do now when I feel a clash between what I think I should do and what would be more pleasant, is tune into my heart and listen.

So that’s why I sat on my balcony and ate my sandwich with my magpie friend at lunchtime today instead of sitting at my desk while I ate. Simple.

Give yourself permission to enjoy a moment, don’t taint it with the pressure of getting stuff done.

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