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Your Envy is a Call to Action

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

Don’t just sit there in that state of envy. And don’t push it away, smother it or put yourself down for feeling it. If you want what someone else has and it makes you feel bad, then maybe you need to take a closer look at what you really want in this life.

What dream have you been denying?

What gifts within yourself have you been ignoring?

Have you romanticised someone else’s life because you feel blocked in the creation of your own?

I used to envy artists. I felt I wanted the life of a successful artist because I loved the idea of standing at the easel in a well-lit room that looked out over a beautiful garden, creating lovely paintings, on my own, all day long. But you know, I’m not really an artist, I’m a writer.

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I’m also a keen nature photographer.

So what’s the problem? Well it felt to me that it was easy for artists to be artists and that if I became a really skilled painter, then I could create that dream life. But you see, it’s much easier for me to write and the truth is, it’s not easy for anyone to live out their creative gifts to their full potential. Everyone struggles with their process as a maker of anything they feel inspired to create. Any creative pursuit requires hard work and often involves going through a whole heap of self-doubt, fear and self-loathing along the way. 

As Elizabeth Gilbert writes in her fabulous book, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear; 

“Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred. What we make matters enormously, and it doesn’t matter at all. We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits. We are terrified, and we are brave. Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege. Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us. Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise—you can make anything. So please calm down now and get back to work, okay? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.” 

The envy I felt was misplaced because I was envying a fantasy. The person who becomes a good painter does so through lots of practice, many failures and many frustrations and in reality, they’re probably not a whole lot happier with their lives than I am. If I want to become a great writer, I must keep working at it. And bam shazam! The envy dissolves and I feel free to be myself.

See how this works?

Who do you envy? Take a good look at what it is you believe they have. Now ask yourself three questions:

  1. Is what you’re imagining they have really true, and is it the whole story?
  2. Is that what you truly want?
  3. Is what they have in any way realistic or attainable for you, in your current reality?

Because on that last point, if you’re living a pretty regular life with a mortgage and kids and bills to pay then how productive is it to envy a famous celebrity? Let’s bring it closer to home. Who among your friends do you envy, and what specifically do they have that you want? Remember, have a good think about whether they really do have what you think they do. Sometimes the appearance of wealth is actually immense debt, great relationships aren’t such a fairy tale behind closed doors and self-confidence is a mask for debilitating anxiety.

Now I’m not suggesting that we want to poke holes in other people’s happiness or doubt their authenticity but do you see what I’m getting at? It’s easier to sigh and wish we had what someone else seems to have, than it is to take the real action required to go out and create our own great lives.

We must simply begin doing what we want to do and stop making excuses about why we can’t. Because believe me, when we get out of our own way with this stuff, the universe rushes in to help.

What do you want to create in order to step free of the envy trap?

One of my special powers is to help people uncover their gifts and to blast away the blocks to their self-confidence and their courage to pursue a more fulfilling existence. Contact me for your free 15 minute chat to discover if you’d like to work with me in a three session process. Click here

Clap Along If You Feel…

Posted in Live Your Passions

Few things make me happier on a summer’s day than being at one my local pristine, near-deserted beaches with my family.

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I love the sight of the crystal clear, aquamarine water, the feel of diving under the surface and being refreshed and invigorated by my favourite natural remedy, and hearing the sound of my children chatting happily together as they spot a fish darting away or wait for the next wave to ride in to the shore. I also enjoy seeing my husband emerge from the water smiling and relaxed, ready for a short walk up the beach with me while the kids play in the shallows.

This is summer holidays for us: mornings at the beach, swimming lessons in the ocean, the skate park, water slides, bakery morning teas, locally made ice-creams, fish and chips under peppermint trees by the bay and watching the local kangaroos make their daily pilgrimage to sip water from our bush-placed bird bath.

Now I don’t mean to boast, really I don’t, and of course you know there’s also the normal arguments, flat days, illnesses and mundanity that we all experience.  I’m simply describing what I’ve chosen for my life at this time and while many of you might be thinking; “yes, that sounds like a life I would like“, just as many will be saying; “how boring and unpleasant, I wouldn’t like to do any of that”.

My point is that at least five years ago I began refining my concept of what makes me happy and when we moved to this beautiful, nature-filled part of the world, my dream came true.  I live in a place I love – it feels like my spiritual home – and truly, all I did to get here was first, believe it was possible and second, allow life to guide me little by little to make it a reality.

We’ve now lived in our beach-side locale for three years and it’s become home for all four of us.

When I talk about wants and desires with my coaching clients there seems to be two main barriers that prevent them from talking openly and confidently about what makes them happy:

One – Not feeling they deserve to even ponder (let alone have) more joy, freedom, love, pleasure or prosperity in their lives.

Two – Not knowing in a clear sense what a happier life might look and feel like for them, perhaps as a result of subscribing for too long to what other people thought was good for them or allowing others to have what they liked in exchange for those people’s approval and support.

I need only cast my mind back seven years to recall how this feels.

When my children were aged five and three, I too had great trouble sorting through the complex network of thoughts and feelings that made up what I thought I needed in my life to make me happy.  I knew I wanted change and a new direction but it was a slow process to unpick the various personas I’d tried on for size since reaching adulthood to get down to the truth of who I really was and what brought me fulfillment and joy.

To be honest, it’s a process still unfolding, as it should be. After all, this life we have is not a journey with an ultimate destination, it’s an ever-evolving adventure where the more open we are to change and new opportunities, the more we get to truly be alive.

So how to start?

Ask yourself this question and write the answer down in as much detail as you can…

When I last found myself feeling free, relaxed, inspired and fulfilled, what was I doing?

Examine the elements that brought these feelings to you and seek them out again as soon as you can.  Keep doing this and you’ll attract more and more opportunities to be in that happy zone, like attracts like and happy breeds happy.

If you’d like some help and intuitive guidance from me with all this, take a look here and contact me for a free thirty minute phone coaching session before you book in.

Much love, Tricia

 

 

Getting On With Life

Posted in Uncategorized

A winter-flowering Silver Princess. The Silver Princess Essence helps to clarify life purpose and direction

I’ve felt a strong sense of ‘getting on with things‘ happening for me in the last couple of weeks.

Anyone else feeling an increase in their momentum, a gentle push forward, an encouraging pull from up ahead?

Since deciding to run my first ever dance class for women and taking action to make it happen, like booking a venue and getting help from my lovely designer Lou to put a flyer together (Aahh! Am I really doing this?!!), other aspects of my life have started to flow better too.

It feels as though now that I am truly doing what my heart desires, the universe, my spiritual supporters and my own inner self are rushing forward to support me and keep me on track.

I feel stronger and healthier in my body, I am more peaceful and easy-going and I feel a strong sense that creating this dance class is an important door to step through along my life’s pathway.

I am still loving seeing clients in my work as intuitive counsellor, kinesiologist and flower essence practitioner.  It feels as though there will now be three components to my working life: Individual client work, dance teaching and writing.  They will all fit together and flow and mingle as my fully expressed, uniquely ‘Tricia Woods’ life.

Many of the women I meet in my practice have an unexpressed inner yearning to do something (usually creative or artistic) in their lives that they are afraid to do.  I’ve been afraid to be a dancer, even though it is one of the first words I have always used to describe myself in private.

I return yet again to the way our children are who they are.  They just are!!

Perhaps by looking into our hearts and feeling into what we loved doing or being as a child, we can reveal our true purpose?

Try this as a meditation and see what comes up.  These deep truths really can set us free because when we do what comes naturally, all of life feels that much easier and sweeter.

More about Red Lily Dance next time…

Love and twirling around for fun,

Tricia