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Your Envy is a Call to Action

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

Don’t just sit there in that state of envy. And don’t push it away, smother it or put yourself down for feeling it. If you want what someone else has and it makes you feel bad, then maybe you need to take a closer look at what you really want in this life.

What dream have you been denying?

What gifts within yourself have you been ignoring?

Have you romanticised someone else’s life because you feel blocked in the creation of your own?

I used to envy artists. I felt I wanted the life of a successful artist because I loved the idea of standing at the easel in a well-lit room that looked out over a beautiful garden, creating lovely paintings, on my own, all day long. But you know, I’m not really an artist, I’m a writer.

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I’m also a keen nature photographer.

So what’s the problem? Well it felt to me that it was easy for artists to be artists and that if I became a really skilled painter, then I could create that dream life. But you see, it’s much easier for me to write and the truth is, it’s not easy for anyone to live out their creative gifts to their full potential. Everyone struggles with their process as a maker of anything they feel inspired to create. Any creative pursuit requires hard work and often involves going through a whole heap of self-doubt, fear and self-loathing along the way. 

As Elizabeth Gilbert writes in her fabulous book, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear; 

“Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred. What we make matters enormously, and it doesn’t matter at all. We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits. We are terrified, and we are brave. Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege. Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us. Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise—you can make anything. So please calm down now and get back to work, okay? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.” 

The envy I felt was misplaced because I was envying a fantasy. The person who becomes a good painter does so through lots of practice, many failures and many frustrations and in reality, they’re probably not a whole lot happier with their lives than I am. If I want to become a great writer, I must keep working at it. And bam shazam! The envy dissolves and I feel free to be myself.

See how this works?

Who do you envy? Take a good look at what it is you believe they have. Now ask yourself three questions:

  1. Is what you’re imagining they have really true, and is it the whole story?
  2. Is that what you truly want?
  3. Is what they have in any way realistic or attainable for you, in your current reality?

Because on that last point, if you’re living a pretty regular life with a mortgage and kids and bills to pay then how productive is it to envy a famous celebrity? Let’s bring it closer to home. Who among your friends do you envy, and what specifically do they have that you want? Remember, have a good think about whether they really do have what you think they do. Sometimes the appearance of wealth is actually immense debt, great relationships aren’t such a fairy tale behind closed doors and self-confidence is a mask for debilitating anxiety.

Now I’m not suggesting that we want to poke holes in other people’s happiness or doubt their authenticity but do you see what I’m getting at? It’s easier to sigh and wish we had what someone else seems to have, than it is to take the real action required to go out and create our own great lives.

We must simply begin doing what we want to do and stop making excuses about why we can’t. Because believe me, when we get out of our own way with this stuff, the universe rushes in to help.

What do you want to create in order to step free of the envy trap?

One of my special powers is to help people uncover their gifts and to blast away the blocks to their self-confidence and their courage to pursue a more fulfilling existence. Contact me for your free 15 minute chat to discover if you’d like to work with me in a three session process. Click here

Look at the pain and you’ll get the gain

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

Are you willing to experience some pain in order to get a healthier body? What about the emotional pain that sometimes accompanies personal growth? Not so much huh. Let’s face it, most of us want to avoid facing our negative emotions and painful memories. But then, sometimes we have no choice. Behold, the crisis.

When I was 24, only 15 months after we said our vows, I quit my marriage. It’s a long time ago now and I’ve never regretted doing it but jeez, it took a while to process the emotional fallout. My initial approach was to get on with my new life and bury the grief and guilt. That got me through the first year but then about six months later, when on the outside, my life looked pretty good, I began feeling really bad inside.

It wasn’t because I was unhappy with how things had panned out. It was because I was harbouring a ton of sadness, regret and guilt, not just about what I’d done but also about having gotten married in the first place. Ugh! I felt so angry with myself and filled with uncertainty about whether I even deserved to be loved by my new partner or anyone.

What really got me was that when I looked back to the lead up to my wedding day and the day itself, I knew I was doing the wrong thing. I knew in my heart that I shouldn’t have been marrying this person and yet I just kept on going through the motions and suddenly it was done. But what’s done is done. And then I went and left him which made me feel relieved certainly but also very wrong. Wrong in my eyes and wrong in the eyes of many people who knew me. Especially since I’d left him for someone else.

So here was my crisis. I was 25 and going through a divorce. And I was the last person anyone would have expected to have found herself in this predicament. This made it a little harder to face. Who was this wild young woman who’d left her husband and hurt him so badly? It wasn’t me. Was it?

For the first time in my life, I had to face my shadow self and she’d been a long time in hiding, so she wasn’t all that cooperative. There were moments during the sessions with my wonderful psychologist, that I observed myself splitting off and becoming the watcher of the ‘Tricia’ who was talking. I dredged up a lot of unpleasant thoughts and beliefs about myself there on that chair, and spent most of every journey home crying my eyes out.

But you know, it helped. It helped me so much and got me through a very tough reckoning that was way overdue. It was time for me to wake up to more of who I really was and to let go of the limited version of me I had so assiduously created from a very young age. I was the good girl. Good at school, good at sport, good at friendship, good at home and good as a girlfriend. Not that good as a wife.

And these counselling sessions were only the beginning. It would take me another decade of life and beyond, to truly grasp how much more there was to me and how I could use what I’d learned to begin helping others.

The emotional pain I felt as I dealt with the aftermath of my divorce was the very balm I needed. I needed to vent, to face up to my flawed beliefs, to admit my failings and to take responsibility for my actions. It was from doing all of this that I gained some wisdom, became more humble, created some healthy coping skills like meditation and yoga and grew in my compassion for myself and everyone else.

What I’m saying is that sometimes we do need to get down into the quagmire of our crap because it’s by shining a light on what’s there, that we’re able to truly acknowledge our immensity as humans. We are so much more than the roles we’ve chosen to play and we can not wake up to this by only looking on the bright side or by emphasising the traits that seem socially acceptable.

When I sit with my beautiful brave clients and we hit a tender spot, the tears may flow and I’m often sitting there in silent tears with them, but they never last for long and the person always feels lighter for the release. What occurs is more than a release though. What’s also received is: clarity on how they’d been feeling beneath the surface, the realisation that this had been holding them back and that they can now move forward, free of that burden. It’s powerful and yes, sometimes it’s painful.

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We’ve grown afraid of emotional pain and the expression of it. The pervasive yet unrealistic expectation, is that if you’re not happy, you’re not emotionally healthy. This is a dangerous lie and one that needs to be corrected. I believe our aim as far as our emotional well-being goes, might be to court peace or neutrality or even at a pinch, contentment. Certainly not the elated, grinning, celebratory form of happiness we’ve been presented with in films and television. It’s all part of the human experience to move through many emotional states in a day and if we’re conscious of the desire to cultivate a particular feeling, then we certainly have something to aim for, but to seek to be happy all of the time is a very big ask.

My vote is for peace within. But first we need to look inside and acknowledge everything else that’s there.

What do you think? I’d love to hear your perspective.

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No cord cutting required – It’s all in you

Posted in Trust The Universe

I hesitate to be definitive about anything these days. And if I’m honest, I have helped people to visualise the cutting of cords from various ex-partners and ex-friends from whom they wish to create an energetic separation. But you know, it feels like it’s time we moved on. And by moved on I mean, moved IN. But none of this is coming from what I ‘know’, it’s merely a reportage of what I’ve been experiencing in my work over the last couple of years.

Everything we need to know about why we’ve had the experiences we’ve had, why we’ve responded to certain people in particular ways and why we feel repelled by some people, is within us. The access points to integrate all that is fragmented and rejected in our lives are within us. I believe the best and most enduring type of healing does not involve further separating ourselves from the ‘other’ or from the parts of ourselves we don’t like. It’s about drawing it all in, acknowledging it fully and inviting whatever ‘it’ is, to stay or go. If there is a frequency mismatch, it will either lift its frequency or go. And if we approach this task with a pure and open heart, the frequency mismatch will be clear.

Here are some realities as I perceive them:

  • We’re bound to other people in ways we can’t control and for reasons we’re not meant to fully understand
  • We’re bound to bodies of energy – some call them entities – because at some time, maybe long, long ago, we allowed them to merge or bond with our etheric body
  • And still, perhaps paradoxically, we are sovereign beings. We have free will, the ultimate power to choose our experiences from deep within us

I feel it’s time for us to let go of the idea that in order to be free of the past, or of the sucking, draining or dragging energy of others, that we must cut cords, burn ties or create any other illusion of separation and rejection. One of the errors of this approach lies in the energy we then must devote to holding this person to account for their ill deeds, wrongdoing or deficiencies which led to us cutting them off in the first place. We must justify our position internally and for most of us, there lingers the nagging feeling that we’ve done something wrong. The other problem with this tactic is that it rarely works.

What we end up feeling is scattered, splintered and divided against ourselves. But most of all, exhausted, from the effort of running away from a person who despite the cord cutting, continues to trail behind us like a limp balloon tied to our wrist by a string. And what’s worse than the remnants of an old foe lingering on? It’s when into our lives we attract a similar new person to be our mirror since we pushed the last one away.

What I’m getting at here is that every ‘thing’ and person we reject or fear, is a symbol of an aspect of ourselves we’re not at peace with. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating that anyone put up with an abusive friend, partner or family member in the name of self-discovery and spiritual advancement. Not at all. We may choose who we spend our time with, that is our right.

Where we possibly go wrong is by demonising said person after the fact, and as a result, failing to grasp their unique humanity and wounding that lead them to this way of behaving. When we hold the perspective that we need to cut energetic ties in order to feel safe, we end up feeling both disempowered and disconnected from our divinity. We are in unity with ALL and once we can embrace the reality that we don’t get to choose only the ‘light’, we will rise into a new way of existence. It is possible for us to arrive at our own resolution and bring immense forgiveness and compassion to our story with the person concerned, even if they’re no longer in our lives, via a guided spiritual healing process.

That which clings to us which is of a lower vibrational resonance, can only do so via our own corresponding frequency. Once we welcome all that is fearsome, shadowy, dark, dense or indeed, ‘evil’ into our hearts to be fully acknowledged, it either transmutes into a higher vibration to unite with us in the forms of creative inspiration, wildish passion, or gifts of healing and psychic awareness or, it simply slides right off and dissolves before our eyes. The key here is to know when we’re ready to do the work.

When you choose a skilled practitioner to help you through this process, none of it will be confronted until you are ready. In the work that I do with people, these opportunities usually arise spontaneously because the guides perceive that the time is right and it all occurs quite rapidly and with little fuss. It’s a powerful paradox and one worth embracing. Welcome that which you most fear and see it turn into harmless dust.

Contact me for a session and we’ll talk it over a little more…Click here

Or, feel free to leave a pithy comment below.

Much love, Tricia

 

 

We see the obstacles but not the support – What’s real?

Posted in Trust The Universe

What if the obstacles we notice in life are borne out of a belief that life is a struggle and the truth is, we have far more support than we realised?

It’s been a long year for many of us.  There’s been a feeling of slow progress for many of my clients and for me as well.

If you’re familiar with numerology, you’ll know that 2016 is a year nine for the planet.

This means we’re at the end of a nine year cycle and next year a new cycle begins.

It’s a personal year nine for me as well because if you add my birth date and month to the year 2016, you get nine. Neato!

So, being the end of a cycle, this year has been all about completion, release and endings.  And since ‘nine energy’ is all about integrity, ambition, idealism and disillusionment (among other things), we’ve been seeing these sorts of themes come up on the world stage just a little….ahem, need I say ‘election’?

I’ve been slogging away selling what I do on Facebook and wondering when that constant stream of suitable and willing clients will finally appear….

I’ve been delivering my women’s sacred dance class in a variety of formats and venues throughout the year and I still can’t crack eight or nine participants per class…..

I guess the story I’ve been telling myself is very focused on the obstacles, the blocks and the challenges of reaching my audience and making this work I do into a proper income. What to do?

Well I reckon it’s time I changed my perspective and got real about everything that’s working in my favour.

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  • We’ve been living in this amazing part of the planet for almost five years – dream fulfilled
  • I’ve been leading my women’s meditation circle for three and a half years
  • I’ve made some of the most gorgeous friends of my life – they are my tribe
  • I love my work and I have so much gratitude for the freedom I have in this lifestyle we’ve created
  • I’m constantly challenging myself to follow my creative inspiration, to enjoy life more and be more fearless
  • Many people support me and praise my work every week
  • My relationship with my husband and kids is on a firm footing – we love each other a lot
  • I’m in good health and I have tons of energy

So really, I don’t have an awful lot to complain about do I?

Those funny moments where the venue falls through, there’s no power supply for the music, the people don’t enroll in high numbers, I run late because of a family crisis or the elderly lady insists on barging into the hall before my class has finished are really just minor hassles, rather than substantial barriers to my success.

All in good time my child, all in good time.

We’ re all being supported by life much more than we realise.

 

Are you ready to take off in a bigger way in 2017?

 

Let me help you get there with a counselling and energy healing session over the telephone, on Skype or in-person.  I love helping others overcome the barriers we all experience from time to time. Click here

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I’d love to hear from you, Tricia

 

 

Could Your Past Lives Be Serving You Better?

Posted in Live Your Passions

Do you believe in past lives?

Have you had momentary inklings of the times and places you’ve been in before you were here in this life?  Ever been to a completely foreign place and felt strangely at home?

Earlier this year when we went on a family holiday to France I was stunned at how completely comfortable I felt in Paris and was even more amazed at the heart-wrenching sensation I felt on the day we left to come back to Australia.

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I usually love it when I’m going home……..And, I’m not even a ‘big city person’!

So what if it’s true that we’ve had all these hundreds (maybe thousands) of other lives and that there are key themes from these times of old that are still playing out in our lives today?

One of the really cool techniques I’ve found myself using with clients for the past couple of years has been past life integrations.

Now this isn’t something I’ve learned or read about, it’s just kind of started happening in some sessions.

I’ll let the video take it from here……

So, what do you think?

I’d love to hear about your stories of past life memories and cool synchronicities and coincidences related to your feelings about some of your specific past lives.

Do you have strong emotional connections to a particular culture, country, region or landscape?

Maybe this is meaningful and just maybe there’s significance here for you to explore further.

When we integrate experiences and themes from other lifetimes into the present, we enrich our understanding of who and what we are and our limitless potential.

I’d be happy to talk it over with you.  Go here to read more about my sessions and please contact me if you feel called to make an appointment.

Enjoy your week everyone. Much love, Tricia

 

 

 

Energy Healing – What’s Actually Happening?

Posted in Live From Intuition

Have you ever been to an energy healer?

If you’ve ever seen a brilliant counsellor, gifted massage therapist, devoted yoga teacher or compassionate family doctor, you’ve been in the presence of an energy healer. That’s right, energy healing is not just the domain of Reiki masters, acupuncturists, kinesiologists or other practitioners with varied certifications such as Quantum Touch, The Bars, Feldenkrais, Bowen Therapy… The list is long. I’ll cut to the chase.

Here’s my humbly proposed definition of energy healing:

Energy healing happens in any interaction where there is the presence of genuine empathy, love, compassion and the intention to be of assistance.  This effect is enhanced when there is no attachment to a specific outcome or to a rigid idea of success for all involved.

(Our pets are marvelous energy healers)

When more than nine years ago I began my studies in kinesiology, I was unconvinced that this was the right path for me.  I knew that I loved receiving the benefits of kinesiology, but the decision to study it felt more like stepping onto a barely-discernible path of vague possibility rather than striding confidently onto a smooth road of career certainty. But hey, most of my study choices have felt like that.

When I chose psychology for my second university degree, it was only after failing to get into a course in occupational therapy and then exploring options as varied as nutrition, speech pathology, health promotion and social work that I finally and fairly half-heartedly settled for psych. But then, that was more than twenty years ago….anyone else have any idea what they wanted to do when they were 22?

The purpose of this tale is twofold. Firstly, I want to demystify what it is that I do, because amid the constantly evolving range of techniques and processes I use, what I’m essentially tapping into is a calm field – or channel if you like – of healing energy, that we all have access to.

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We can all feel it when healing energy is present in an exchange with another person and it feels good to both parties.  That’s another secret I want to share:  When we access this type of energy, the healing flows both ways. The giver is the receiver and vice versa. Nice huh?

What I’m saying is that when I do my work, I’m recruiting divine assistance and accessing a wellspring of higher intelligence and healing powers beyond the physical realm.

At the same time though, I don’t want to understate the necessity of those of us working in the healing arts, to have studied a modality of some sort and to have honed a set of skills.  If it weren’t for my kinesiology training and the years I spent faithfully treating people using these skills, I wouldn’t have developed the powerful intuitive abilities I now use daily in my work and that I follow in every moment of my life.

Which brings me to the second purpose of this article, and that is to describe as best I can, how it feels to live completely from intuition.My style of intuitive awareness is based in a knowingness which shows up as words or phrases that arrive unbidden in my body-mind.  I say body-mind because I don’t hear them like a regular thought.  I ‘hear’ them or sometimes ‘see’ them in my heart space.

Some people’s intuitive gifts (we all have them), are more visual or feeling-based.

I don’t want to keep you much longer because the word count is mounting and I wrote about this in detail in my article, How to Access Your Intuition – Three Steps, but I’ll offer this:

I listen within, I trust what I hear and I’m prepared to change my mind, my plans and my driving route at a moment’s notice when urged from my intuition.

I’ll leave you with a neat little example:

My son came home one day with a completely seized up neck. He was in a lot of pain and was very distressed. I immediately did what I could to help him feel better and then I realised why, that very afternoon I’d felt the urge to phone our local osteopath and book an appointment. She gets completely booked up each week and I’d been able to secure a session the following afternoon. So my son got to receive some amazing help the very next day.

Now you might say, “Phew, that was lucky!”

What I say is, “Phew, thank goodness I listened to my intuition.”

One session with our wonderful osteo and he’s on the road to recovery.  We all have these moments don’t we? Just imagine how it would feel if life always flowed like this. Sure, crappy things still happen, but we move through those challenging times all the better when our intuition is firing and being utilised.

Food for thought? For a personal healing session with me, either in-person, over the phone or via Skype, click here and then give me a call.

Much love to you, Tricia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Unlock Your Creativity and Find Your Power

Posted in Live Your Passions

I’m not sure what’s happened to me these past few weeks but I think it may have started with getting a new camera for my birthday.  I love my new camera and the much funkier photos it can take compared to those from the compact digital model I’ve used for the past ten years.

I really love my new camera.

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Have I felt like writing a blog post?  No, not at all.  And this feels weird because I’ve written a post almost every week for four and a half years and then nothing. No inspiration?  Well, there were still ideas but they felt old, already covered, not exciting or worth writing.

Then a couple of weeks back I did a painting workshop…

My first ever painting.
My first ever painting.

And bOOm! Suddenly painting is my new passion and the camera’s been left sitting on the shelf.

I got it out today and gave it a pat though because I’m sure photography and painting will become great friends in my life before too long.

Now don’t go thinking this means my aim here is to become a professional artist or photographer, no, that’s not it.  I’m just loving exploring these crafts as mediums through which to experience my world (both inner and outer), and enjoying being immersed in the process of creation.

One of the amazing ways I connect with the women I coach in my individual sessions is to help them acknowledge their creative selves.

I’ve seen so many women instinctively respond with a shake of the head when I talk about creativity.  They tell me; “Me? No, I’m not very creative.”

And yet this is the sort of guidance I receive for so many of them…

Your unique creative energy is the source of your power to make your life better.

This is not about us all becoming professional artists, writers or healers (because healing is a creative art in my world too).

No, this is about each of us embracing the reality that when we are engaged in any creative activity and we open up to all the possibilities that moment of being ‘in the process’ can offer us, we tap into a wellspring of creativity around how we want our lives to feel and look in a more global sense.

I’m pretty sure a lot of my new creative confidence has sprung from the momentum I’ve created this year by running my weekly women’s dance class.  Spontaneous, free-flowing dance is wonderful for the body, mind and emotions.

Any type of creative expression opens our awareness to more of who we are and creates a deeper connection to what we are here to do, be and feel in our lives.

All you need to do is find a creative outlet that appeals to you.  Try something out, see if you like it.  I’ve been recommending those adult colouring-in books to clients for over a year now and suddenly they’re everywhere. Something like this is a great starting point….  You, a cup of tea, a clear table with plenty of light, a colouring page and some good quality coloured pencils. Voilá!  You’ll have made something pretty in no time at all.

Here’s some other ideas:

  • join a local choir
  • learn a musical instrument
  • start writing a daily journal
  • do a painting or drawing workshop
  • dance around your lounge room to loud music
  • take some private singing lessons
  • learn to sew,knit or crochet

Learning something new at any stage of life can be an uplifting and very enlightening experience.  You’ll learn a lot about yourself, how you feel in your creativity and chances are, if you’re learning in a group, you’ll find other like-minded souls to share the journey with.

Taking the first step can be as simple as asking the universe for guidance and then seeing what next pops into your awareness via an email, Facebook post, invitation from a friend or a notice board flyer. Say ‘yes’ and watch the magic happen.

For more help and some guidance on your unique gifts and talents, click here and contact me for a session booking.

A New Moon Blessing – Guided Audio

Posted in Trust The Universe

Our words are very powerful.

We create our lives from our word-form thoughts, our written word and our spoken word.

When we utter a blessing for ourselves and others it holds great power and can influence our lives in magical ways.

At every new moon we are given extra support and encouragement from the universe to start again, set some fresh goals and create our very own new beginning.

The silver princess flower essence helps us with life purpose and direction.
The silver princess flower essence helps us with life purpose and direction.

This morning I woke up, sat up on my bed and meditated and then grabbed my journal and wrote out a new moon blessing in honour of this new moon day.

A New Moon Blessing

Dear universe of love and benevolence

Bless my body and bring me bountiful health

Bless my loved ones and bring me harmonious relationships

Bless my home and make it safe, welcoming and beautiful

Bless my work and bring me fulfillment and prosperity

Bless my creative endeavours and help them flow with ease and grace

Bless my daily travels and pave the path I tread with peaceful intentions

Bless all beings and help them see their divinity and perfection

May I be peaceful and joyful

May I be humble and filled with gratitude

May I be of service to others

May I emanate love in all I do

Bless us all dear universe at this new moon

Thank you

Thank you

Thank you

And so it is

I wanted to share it with you in an audio format so here it is dear ones, have a listen. Enjoy this new moon time and every new moon into your sparkling future. Much love, Tricia

A New Moon Blessing – Guided Audio (Click to listen now)