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What if Being Sensitive was Our Biggest Gift?

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

I don’t know about you but I’m really sensitive. And not in the easily offended way, just in the, “your energy is really bugging me” kind of way. I feel a lot and I don’t always get to choose what I feel. Of course I’ve developed strategies over the years to avoid situations and people that cause me stress. Plus I’ve very mindfully created a lifestyle that’s fairly low key and where I look after myself very carefully.

Prior to having this keen awareness, I would get overwhelmed by life and want to hide away. Plus I was highly prone to viruses, muscle tension and allergies. So where’s the upside to being sensitive? It’s certainly hard to see the benefits when we see less sensitive types having more fun and being a lot more reckless, plus having people criticise us for being too sensitive and even boring isn’t fun. But there’s definitely a good side….

We’re the psychics, mystics, healers, artists, counsellors, philosophers, poets, inventors, musicians, yogis, dancers and writers. We’re the environmental activists, the human rights and animal rights campaigners and writers of letters to the editor. We feel more deeply, we see more fully and we care a lot. And sometimes, we actually make a positive difference in the world.

Butterfly cloud in the sky
To be sensitive is to see the pictures in the clouds

To be sensitive is to have empathy and genuine concern for the wellbeing of others and the planet. To be sensitive is to have compassion for those who’ve hurt us and for those who’ve wronged society. To be sensitive is to be able to forgive another for their misdeeds and to forgive ourselves for all the ways we feel we’ve failed. To be sensitive is to appreciate everything we see, such as a newborn baby, a puppy, a wildflower or a tree, with a sense of total and utter awe. To a sensitive person like me, the whole world is fascinating, miraculous and yes, sometimes horrific.

We really shouldn’t watch the news too often. We need to avoid scary and violent films and we need a decent amount of sleep. We benefit from a certain degree of creative stimulation from art, music, books, plays and films but we mustn’t overdo it. Meditation is key. That and plenty of time outdoors in nature. In silence. Of course moving our bodies is essential so activities like walking, swimming, yoga, dance and cycling are marvelous.

Either as children or young adults, many of us have been wounded by life, so we often seek out healing and counselling to help us to learn and grow. Many of us are drawn to career paths where we can help others and we’re usually very good at it. But again, we must carefully guard our energy, lest we overdo the helping and burn out.

It’s good to be sensitive as a parent and we make wonderful caregivers for children, as we adore them and can relate to their innate, less sullied sensitivity. It’s okay for children to be sensitive. It’s harder to be a sensitive adult. It’s not something to be proud of.

Sensitivity is the feminine and we all know what’s been happening to the feminine for too many centuries… And now that the feminine is rising once again, perhaps we can reclaim sensitivity as a super-power. All of the very sensitive children now on the planet need our support. Our planet needs our support.

Our sensitivity isn’t to be grown out of, hidden or crushed. It’s what brings beauty, feeling and appreciation to our lives and to the lives of others. So I say we band together and start highlighting the gifts us ‘sensitives’ are bringing to the planet. You with me?

 

Seven Steps to Facing Fear and Getting on Your Path

Posted in Live Your Passions

We all let fear hold us back from time to time. 

If it was easy, everyone would be doing it right?

It’s true though.

The roles we’re here to fulfill are usually hard won.  And hey, if you’ve always found life easy (that includes nobody I know), then you’re probably bored with where you’re at and not on your true path. Yes?

Your true path is a job or creative vocation that challenges you, pushes you right to the edge of your comfort and then over it and makes you feel excited and energised when you imagine doing it.

So, do we play it safe and avoid the bigger game, or do we risk it all for love? You know. love for yourself and the entire planet – no big deal.

And let me tell you, this is quite a tough decision – because from what I’ve experienced and helped many clients with – life doesn’t really allow us to sit in fear as the lesser of two evils.

Oh no, if you’re thinking you can just keep it low key – cower to the fears and let them call the shots – then I’m sorry, I don’t think you’ll find it that simple.

Oh and by the way – If you’re over 40 and still not on your path, then pay close attention…

                    Fly free like a bird

Why?

Well because life will eventually find other ways to get you moving….

You may be criticised by family, rejected and abandoned by your friends or partner, bullied by workmates or made redundant from your job.

You may also feel untold discomfort in the form of envy, dissatisfaction, frustration, compulsive complaining, judgement of others and self-criticism.

Not to mention the de-railing of your health and peace of mind by the behaviours you adopted to avoid getting on your path such as addictions to alcohol, other drugs, food, shopping, television, social media…the list goes on.

Phew!  It all sounds exhausting right?

Well yes, because you’re not here to play it small and deny your gifts.

Once you get moving in the direction of your gifts and passions though, that’s where the magic happens and things slowly begin to fall into place. You get a sparkle back in your eye and a spring in your step.

Although I’m sorry to say, the nudges and prods won’t necessarily end there.  Once you begin the work of getting on your path, you’ll most likely experience a whole lot of resistance emerge from within you and sometimes from outside of you.

Don’t worry though, this is just your ego trying to protect you from changing too fast.  The ego believes we need to stay the same in order to stay safe.

Where I see many clients delay their progress is right here, when the first round of resistance shows up.  It’s very understandable.  Some very intense emotions can come to the surface and a big steaming pile of FEAR is at the front of the assault.

Sometimes we need a few run ups before we sail over the ditch between us and our brighter future. That’s okay, there’s no hurry.

Here’s what I suggest:

  1. Start something – read a book, do a short course, talk about your dreams and aspirations with someone you trust. Just make a small start.
  2. Notice the feelings as they emerge and allow yourself to feel them. Once felt, they naturally dissipate.
  3. Tell yourself it’s natural to experience anxiety or dread, or heart-stopping fear when you’re stretching out of your comfort zone.
  4. Find your tribe of people who love the stuff that you love and who speak your language, seek out local groups, Facebook groups, workshops and classes.
  5. Allow yourself to stumble, trip or completely fall. Failure is a wonderful way to build resilience and lighten everything up.
  6. Realise that even though it’s hard, it’s better to be living full out than hiding from your truth and walking through life at half-pace with a fake smile plastered on.
  7. Keep on going – this is a wonderful adventure, it’s not supposed to be straightforward, easy or fast. Keep following your heart to the activities that make you feel more YOU.

Book a session with me and I’ll help you get on track. Especially if you don’t even know what you want to do, one of my super-powers is career guidance. Just click here