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Your Envy is a Call to Action

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

Don’t just sit there in that state of envy. And don’t push it away, smother it or put yourself down for feeling it. If you want what someone else has and it makes you feel bad, then maybe you need to take a closer look at what you really want in this life.

What dream have you been denying?

What gifts within yourself have you been ignoring?

Have you romanticised someone else’s life because you feel blocked in the creation of your own?

I used to envy artists. I felt I wanted the life of a successful artist because I loved the idea of standing at the easel in a well-lit room that looked out over a beautiful garden, creating lovely paintings, on my own, all day long. But you know, I’m not really an artist, I’m a writer.

bee on blossoms
I’m also a keen nature photographer.

So what’s the problem? Well it felt to me that it was easy for artists to be artists and that if I became a really skilled painter, then I could create that dream life. But you see, it’s much easier for me to write and the truth is, it’s not easy for anyone to live out their creative gifts to their full potential. Everyone struggles with their process as a maker of anything they feel inspired to create. Any creative pursuit requires hard work and often involves going through a whole heap of self-doubt, fear and self-loathing along the way. 

As Elizabeth Gilbert writes in her fabulous book, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear; 

“Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred. What we make matters enormously, and it doesn’t matter at all. We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits. We are terrified, and we are brave. Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege. Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us. Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise—you can make anything. So please calm down now and get back to work, okay? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.” 

The envy I felt was misplaced because I was envying a fantasy. The person who becomes a good painter does so through lots of practice, many failures and many frustrations and in reality, they’re probably not a whole lot happier with their lives than I am. If I want to become a great writer, I must keep working at it. And bam shazam! The envy dissolves and I feel free to be myself.

See how this works?

Who do you envy? Take a good look at what it is you believe they have. Now ask yourself three questions:

  1. Is what you’re imagining they have really true, and is it the whole story?
  2. Is that what you truly want?
  3. Is what they have in any way realistic or attainable for you, in your current reality?

Because on that last point, if you’re living a pretty regular life with a mortgage and kids and bills to pay then how productive is it to envy a famous celebrity? Let’s bring it closer to home. Who among your friends do you envy, and what specifically do they have that you want? Remember, have a good think about whether they really do have what you think they do. Sometimes the appearance of wealth is actually immense debt, great relationships aren’t such a fairy tale behind closed doors and self-confidence is a mask for debilitating anxiety.

Now I’m not suggesting that we want to poke holes in other people’s happiness or doubt their authenticity but do you see what I’m getting at? It’s easier to sigh and wish we had what someone else seems to have, than it is to take the real action required to go out and create our own great lives.

We must simply begin doing what we want to do and stop making excuses about why we can’t. Because believe me, when we get out of our own way with this stuff, the universe rushes in to help.

What do you want to create in order to step free of the envy trap?

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Three Tips For Attracting Your Desires

Posted in Live From Intuition, and Trust The Universe

When we want to see change, big change come into our lives, we can be tempted to fall into the trap of thinking the more thoroughly fed up and disappointed we feel with our current circumstances, the faster we’ll see our desires come to fruition.

Uh uh. Not so (head shake).

Nothing slows our progress in life more than hating where we are right now.

Loving where we are right now opens us up to more of what we love. Railing against where we are right now focuses our energy on what we dislike and the universe gives us more of the same.

It really is that simple.

Allow me to share a little story with you. Three years ago when I knew in my heart that I wanted to move from inner-city Fremantle to the country, I focused on feeling happy every day (well, most days) with my life at the time.  I walked along beaches, drove to bush reserves to walk, developed my healing practice and embraced my local community. And every night I went outside and spoke to the night sky about my dream to move ‘down south’, felt how good I would feel when it had occurred and thanked the universe in advance for my new life in the country.

Fremantle rainbow
Fremantle rainbow

So here’s what happened: Over a six month period my husband joined me in wanting this too, he resigned from his job, we sold our home in four weeks, we found a rental property in our new town, booked our children into the local school and we moved in time for them to commence school at the start of the year. That was at the beginning of 2012 and we’ve never been happier.

Dunsborough rainbow
Dunsborough rainbow

Here are my Top Three Tips for making this process work for you:

  1. Your goal must be in alignment with your true soul path.  Wanting something and knowing it’s serving our highest good can sometimes be quite separate things.
  2. Letting go of the ‘how it will happen’ and the timing are essential.  We tried to make this move two and a half years earlier and it just didn’t happen so I managed (after some tears), to let it go and focus on what I could change within myself and my perspective.
  3. Balancing your focus each day between getting on with daily life with a happy, light-hearted outlook AND spending at least ten minutes each day conjuring, imagining, creating this new life you desire in meditation, prayer, art, or journalling.

The bottom line is, be happy right now, look around you and find something to smile about and then be playful like a day-dreaming child and imagine how it could be EVEN BETTER!

Then watch and allow the magic to come your way.  After all, a rainbow is a rainbow, no matter where we see it <3

 

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