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Your Envy is a Call to Action

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

Don’t just sit there in that state of envy. And don’t push it away, smother it or put yourself down for feeling it. If you want what someone else has and it makes you feel bad, then maybe you need to take a closer look at what you really want in this life.

What dream have you been denying?

What gifts within yourself have you been ignoring?

Have you romanticised someone else’s life because you feel blocked in the creation of your own?

I used to envy artists. I felt I wanted the life of a successful artist because I loved the idea of standing at the easel in a well-lit room that looked out over a beautiful garden, creating lovely paintings, on my own, all day long. But you know, I’m not really an artist, I’m a writer.

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I’m also a keen nature photographer.

So what’s the problem? Well it felt to me that it was easy for artists to be artists and that if I became a really skilled painter, then I could create that dream life. But you see, it’s much easier for me to write and the truth is, it’s not easy for anyone to live out their creative gifts to their full potential. Everyone struggles with their process as a maker of anything they feel inspired to create. Any creative pursuit requires hard work and often involves going through a whole heap of self-doubt, fear and self-loathing along the way. 

As Elizabeth Gilbert writes in her fabulous book, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear; 

“Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred. What we make matters enormously, and it doesn’t matter at all. We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits. We are terrified, and we are brave. Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege. Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us. Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise—you can make anything. So please calm down now and get back to work, okay? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.” 

The envy I felt was misplaced because I was envying a fantasy. The person who becomes a good painter does so through lots of practice, many failures and many frustrations and in reality, they’re probably not a whole lot happier with their lives than I am. If I want to become a great writer, I must keep working at it. And bam shazam! The envy dissolves and I feel free to be myself.

See how this works?

Who do you envy? Take a good look at what it is you believe they have. Now ask yourself three questions:

  1. Is what you’re imagining they have really true, and is it the whole story?
  2. Is that what you truly want?
  3. Is what they have in any way realistic or attainable for you, in your current reality?

Because on that last point, if you’re living a pretty regular life with a mortgage and kids and bills to pay then how productive is it to envy a famous celebrity? Let’s bring it closer to home. Who among your friends do you envy, and what specifically do they have that you want? Remember, have a good think about whether they really do have what you think they do. Sometimes the appearance of wealth is actually immense debt, great relationships aren’t such a fairy tale behind closed doors and self-confidence is a mask for debilitating anxiety.

Now I’m not suggesting that we want to poke holes in other people’s happiness or doubt their authenticity but do you see what I’m getting at? It’s easier to sigh and wish we had what someone else seems to have, than it is to take the real action required to go out and create our own great lives.

We must simply begin doing what we want to do and stop making excuses about why we can’t. Because believe me, when we get out of our own way with this stuff, the universe rushes in to help.

What do you want to create in order to step free of the envy trap?

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Your sacral chakra needs you- two ways to help

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

How well do your know your chakra system? You know there’s seven of them, starting at the base of your spine and reaching to the crown of your head right? But did you know that for all seven energy centres to be healthy and flowing with beneficial energy, it’s vital that the lower three are in good shape.

Now I’m not going to get too technical here and bring in lots of Sanskrit language about nadis, prana and kundalini. No, because if you’re anything like me, your eyes will glaze over and you’ll stop reading. All we’re going to focus on here is the beautiful qualities of the sacral chakra known as Svadhisthana or ‘dwelling place of the self’. Okay, I’ll stop it now. Let’s get into the juicy details…

Our sacral chakra is a beautiful swirling energy vortex located in our pelvic region. It’s stimulated and recharged by the colour orange and is deeply connected to the element of water. One of the ways I like to visualise sacral chakra energy is to imagine there’s a glass bowl of water sitting in my pelvis and there’s a bright orange light in the centre of it, radiating out of my body in all directions. How about trying it now? Just sit comfortably and place your left hand over your lower abdomen and create this visualisation: The bowl of water sitting in your pelvis glows strongly at the centre and softer at the edges with a vibrant orange hue, shimmering and swirling in its liquid form.

The qualities governed by the sacral are feminine by nature. After all, it encompasses the female reproductive organs and the womb where babies form and grow. It’s all about creativity, procreation, pleasure and softness.  Well softness but also immense strength and life-giving powers. When we have a healthy sacral chakra we’re in touch with our need for sensual and sexual pleasure, our emotions and our creative urges. We feel calmly grounded in our physical attractiveness, sexuality and fertility – both literally, in our capacity to create new life through pregnancy and figuratively through say, a work of art.

What I’m going to give you now is two simple techniques to open and revitalise your sacral chakra. They’re easy and your physical body will love the benefits they bring.

One involves dancing and one involves stretching: First, let’s dance. Put on some music and put your hands on your hips. Place your feet comfortably apart and bend your knees…rotate your hips in a circle one way and then the other. swing your hips from side to side in time with the music. Just keep doing that, then go freestyle.  Swing, sway, wiggle, shake, hula, whatever feels good. While you’re doing this, breathe deeply, feel into your entire pelvic region and notice what’s there.

You may feel some heat or tingling or not much at all. No judgement. Accept what ‘is’ and try again tomorrow. Just spending three minutes a day, the length of a song, in sensual hip movement is a sure-fire way to liven up your sacral space and get some creative juices flowing again.

Now for the stretch.This is all about opening into the outer hips because if you’re like me and do a lot of sitting in chairs, walking, cycling or running, your hips might be strong, but they may not be very flexible. Our whole hip and pelvic region, inside and out, plays an important role in our sacral chakra function. I’m a big fan of pigeon pose, either on the back or leaning over the bent leg. Simple grab a mat or find a soft carpet and move gently into one of these poses…

Once you’re in the pose, relax and breathe normally for a couple of minutes and then change sides. And here’s my disclaimer, I’m not a yoga teacher, so if you’re not already familiar with these poses from your own practice, wait until you do them in a yoga class before trying them on your own.

Finally, well, I didn’t want to mention it but there it is, staring us all in the face. Of course regular sex is wonderful for stimulating and freeing up sacral chakra energy. Orgasm is the ultimate sacral energiser. There, I said it. Reclaiming and honouring the sacral will open up your capacity to fully enjoy life and take full ownership of your immense creative potential.

Book a session with me and I’ll use my intuitive abilities to do a reading of your chakra health and help you to bring greater energy flow to the ones that aren’t all shiny and bright.

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Can I come out of my box now?

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

I just realised how thoroughly I’ve boxed myself in. I’ve been diligently constructing the box I like to call my identity or perhaps, my personality, my whole life. I thought I liked the box and I guess I thought it was essentially ‘me’. It wasn’t until the other day that I even had the understanding that the box is separate from the actual, real Tricia.

So how do we define or even recognise this box? Our personality is really only our ‘outer self’ or what we might think of as our socially acceptable self.  We only need dig down a little into our inner, darker recesses to observe that many parts of us, including our beliefs, preferences, ideals, habits and prejudices form only the thinnest, most flimsy layer of who we really are. And while this may initially sound shocking and feel very destabilising, when we can get past our attachment to these parts of ourselves, it can be very liberating.

But oh how we cling.

Of course it’s not easy to let go of what we believe is true about ourselves, the world and our place in it. I identify very strongly with many aspects of my outer self, not the least of which is my body and how I feel in it. This is where the experience of being in an earth-bound human body is very instructive. I’m talking about the aging process and what it can do to our sense of self and our ideas of who we think we are over a lifetime. I might cling to the idea that I look a certain way perhaps until my latish fifties, but then, maybe come sixty, the changes wrought will be undeniable and if I’m to enjoy my life and carry on despite ‘looking old’, I must release this care and focus on other things. Goodbye body image box.

One of the other boxes I can now acknowledge and I want to shed is my habit of denying myself pleasure. I’m really good at this. I reckon I’m a bit of an expert…how do I know? Well it’s because I recently began finding ways to bring more pleasure into everyday moments and it made me pause and reflect. I was astonished at how vigilant I’ve been with keeping myself from pleasure.  

It kinda goes with the territory when you’re a Virgo though. We are known for our puritanical tendencies….And it’s not like it’s all bad. There’s a sick type of pleasure to be gained from denying, holding back, going without and then….all of a sudden, yes! I’m going to have a piece of chocolate. What a high!  But seriously, I’m sure my body is grateful for the many years of deprivation I’ve subjected it to. No really. I’ve never been overweight and have had only one hangover. EVER! I know, total square.

The other way self-denial can be a positive is having the discipline to endure long periods of toil in order to accomplish a goal. It probably contributed to my completion of two degrees and a post grad diploma before I turned 28. But….and this is a big but because, to be honest, having two degrees didn’t really equate with happiness and fulfillment for me …. There’s this. From whence we experience pleasure is from whence our creativity springs and from creative expression comes great pleasure. It’s the circle of life. Without creative expression of some kind, we’re kind of stunted in our capacity to enjoy life.

This is sacral chakra energy. Our sacral chakra is the energy centre for our reproductive urges, sexual and sensual enjoyment, feminine power, creative inspiration and integrated emotional expression. So doesn’t it make sense then, that to be creatively engaged with life and to allow pleasure to seep into every moment possible, we will have healthy energy in the sacral? And as women, we really want to be super-engaged with our sacral chakra because it’s the seat of our capacity to nurture ourselves and others, feel our feelings and be stable in our sense of self. Just think about the archetypal womanly figure, rounded hips and soft stomach creating a safe and welcoming vessel for a baby to form and grow. She is stable and strong in her sacral and the powers that dwell there are revered by all, especially herself.

The sacral chakra is all about receptivity.  Can we receive more?  Does it feel safe to open up and be the receiver of life’s abundant pleasures and gifts? Goodbye pleasure-denial box.

The way to nurture our sacral is simply to nurture ourselves. Make life fun, comfortable, sexy, pleasurable, soft, open-hearted and even a little bit naughty whenever you can. Turn music on when you cook and clean, eat some chocolate in the morning, take a bath in the afternoon and always say yes to spontaneous invitations that sound good.  Enjoy your five senses and be open to what life has to offer. For me pleasure is more time outdoors, more music, yoga, dancing and meditation. More time having fun with the people I love.

Pleasure, creativity and feminine wisdom are inextricably linked.  Enjoy. Create. Feel. Know yourself.

Competition, Comparison and Peace

Posted in Trust The Universe

When we’re in the habit of constantly comparing ourselves to others and making snap judgments about how we measure up in comparison to ‘her’, we can never be in our true power and feel truly at peace.

And we must realise something.  This behaviour can sometimes be very subtle.  We may not even think we’re doing it.  But know this, the more vehemently we deny that we’re competitive, the more underground and insidious it is. Our need to compete even a teensy bit must be owned and integrated in order for us to make peace with it and get it under control.  It’s not always bad, it’s just that cultivating an attitude of oneness is a more productive way to function.

We’re at our most creative, loving and joyful when we live from the belief that we’re all equal. How does this play out in your life?  Here I am revealing my personal struggle with competition…

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5 Signs You’re Ready to Live Your Truth

Posted in Live Your Passions

You’ve done the work, the inner searching, healing, and forgiving. So are you ready? Ready to really start living as though you are free, courageous and bold? 

Read on and I’ll share my 5 signs you are ready to live your truth, for real!

I know how it is. Some days it’s a resounding YES! Then some days I just feel like staying home and retreating from the world completely.  That’s normal and to be expected.  We can’t always be forging ahead, torches blazing, hearts on fire…

It’s the natural flow of things to have those quiet, introspective days.  Days for reflection, catching up on all the changes that have happened within and gathering strength for the next outward expression of who we really are.

We’ve all just been through a big opportunity for shedding old skins and out-moded beliefs. Here’s a magical feather I recently manifested with the assistance of some beautiful red-tailed black cockatoos.  I asked them for one and four days later, it materialised in my path.The birds’ message to me was:

“Know your power and live it”.

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Have you felt yourself changing? 

If you haven’t been letting that over-protective ego of yours hold you back, I’ll bet some of the following shifts have happened and had you dropping your old reactions and ancient stories about lack, victimhood and failure like hot coals from the forge of your soul…

Here are my top five signs you are sooo ready to begin living your truth and your potential for greatness in this here life of yours:

  1. No more drama – quitting creating drama in our lives and relationships as a distraction from facing up to what needs attention within ourselves is a sure sign we are ready to be more honest about what makes us happy.  When we have a life full of satisfying activities, loving people and calm, peaceful intentions, we no longer court drama. We’re too busy getting things done and loving our lives.
  2. No more excuses – when we take full responsibility for how we create our lives in every moment from our thoughts, beliefs and choices, we cease making excuses for why we aren’t doing what we know we would like to.  Excuse-making prevents us from being healthy in our bodies, facing up to unhappy situations at work and in relationships and tackling the big changes we’d like to see in our lives. When we no longer make excuses for ourselves and others, we can look at what’s really happening and see it for what it is.
  3. No more apologies – finding ourselves constantly apologising to others for our beliefs, short-comings, or behaviour is a sure sign something is seriously out of balance in our lives.  When we’re ready to come clean and be our amazing, authentic selves, we get to feel more relaxed with everyone around us.  There’s no one on this planet you need to justify yourself to.  I give you permission right now (provided your intention is to be loving, respectful and considerate 🙂 ), to stop apologising for who you are.
  4. No more blaming – one of the hallmarks of emotional maturity in a fully grown adult is the awareness that we are all responsible for how we live.  Blaming others for what we think we can’t do, have or BE is the ultimate in giving our power away and playing the victim.  Oh don’t worry, I’ve done this many times and still play this card on the odd occasion I’m not prepared to own up to my own role in the scenario at hand. Awareness is the key.
  5. No more playing small – when we are ready to really live our true potential as dynamic, creative sparks of the divine, we simply can’t persist with the idea of staying small and unseen. Nope, you’ve got to stick your head above the ramparts in order to shine your light and share your gifts.  Just know you are safe. You have many seen and unseen supporters just waiting to share in your jubilation and victory.  And the victory doesn’t have to be a leading role in a Hollywood film or a international best-selling novel.  No no no, it might simply be joining the local choir, dusting off that keyboard and playing with some creative writing ideas or buying some art supplies and having a dabble.

It’s time.  No more delaying or worrying.  Just take your first step and feel the magic begin to unfold around you.

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My latest painting effort, inspired by the connection I’ve been feeling with the birds in our local bush. Feeling some support might help? You can have a personal session with me.  Read more…

Many blessings, Tricia

Unlock Your Creativity and Find Your Power

Posted in Live Your Passions

I’m not sure what’s happened to me these past few weeks but I think it may have started with getting a new camera for my birthday.  I love my new camera and the much funkier photos it can take compared to those from the compact digital model I’ve used for the past ten years.

I really love my new camera.

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Have I felt like writing a blog post?  No, not at all.  And this feels weird because I’ve written a post almost every week for four and a half years and then nothing. No inspiration?  Well, there were still ideas but they felt old, already covered, not exciting or worth writing.

Then a couple of weeks back I did a painting workshop…

My first ever painting.
My first ever painting.

And bOOm! Suddenly painting is my new passion and the camera’s been left sitting on the shelf.

I got it out today and gave it a pat though because I’m sure photography and painting will become great friends in my life before too long.

Now don’t go thinking this means my aim here is to become a professional artist or photographer, no, that’s not it.  I’m just loving exploring these crafts as mediums through which to experience my world (both inner and outer), and enjoying being immersed in the process of creation.

One of the amazing ways I connect with the women I coach in my individual sessions is to help them acknowledge their creative selves.

I’ve seen so many women instinctively respond with a shake of the head when I talk about creativity.  They tell me; “Me? No, I’m not very creative.”

And yet this is the sort of guidance I receive for so many of them…

Your unique creative energy is the source of your power to make your life better.

This is not about us all becoming professional artists, writers or healers (because healing is a creative art in my world too).

No, this is about each of us embracing the reality that when we are engaged in any creative activity and we open up to all the possibilities that moment of being ‘in the process’ can offer us, we tap into a wellspring of creativity around how we want our lives to feel and look in a more global sense.

I’m pretty sure a lot of my new creative confidence has sprung from the momentum I’ve created this year by running my weekly women’s dance class.  Spontaneous, free-flowing dance is wonderful for the body, mind and emotions.

Any type of creative expression opens our awareness to more of who we are and creates a deeper connection to what we are here to do, be and feel in our lives.

All you need to do is find a creative outlet that appeals to you.  Try something out, see if you like it.  I’ve been recommending those adult colouring-in books to clients for over a year now and suddenly they’re everywhere. Something like this is a great starting point….  You, a cup of tea, a clear table with plenty of light, a colouring page and some good quality coloured pencils. Voilá!  You’ll have made something pretty in no time at all.

Here’s some other ideas:

  • join a local choir
  • learn a musical instrument
  • start writing a daily journal
  • do a painting or drawing workshop
  • dance around your lounge room to loud music
  • take some private singing lessons
  • learn to sew,knit or crochet

Learning something new at any stage of life can be an uplifting and very enlightening experience.  You’ll learn a lot about yourself, how you feel in your creativity and chances are, if you’re learning in a group, you’ll find other like-minded souls to share the journey with.

Taking the first step can be as simple as asking the universe for guidance and then seeing what next pops into your awareness via an email, Facebook post, invitation from a friend or a notice board flyer. Say ‘yes’ and watch the magic happen.

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Activate Your Creativity and Stop the Yearning

Posted in Live Your Passions

We yearn for things, don’t we?

That house: “If I lived there, I’d be truly happy

Her hair/figure/face: “If I looked like that, I wouldn’t have a care in the world

A partner more…you know, just better than the one we have: “If my partner was more romantic/caring/wealthy/sensitive/sexy/all of the above, I would be so much more content

But what if, now stay with me here…What if all of these imagined ideal people, things and scenarios were just signposts, metaphors if you like, for what’s missing within ourselves?

What would that mean?

Let me put it to you like this:

You don’t need much of what you think you need to be happy in this life of yours

The things you desire, want and yearn for are simply invitations to look within yourself and create a life more authentically you from the inside out.

Here’s some evidence: I’m not sure if you’ve noticed this, but how many times have you gotten that new yearned-for thing and then after a fairly brief period of elation, joy and fulfillment, you go back to feeling the way you did before you had it and you begin yearning for something else?

It’s happened to me many times and I’m telling you, it’s better to look within and discover ways you can creatively express yourself in the world.

Find that fulfillment and enjoyment in your work, creative pursuits or in being of service to others rather than turning your attention to the next new purchase, relationship or holiday.

Enough with the writing…

Gift yourself ten minutes now to listen to this very nice guided meditation for activating your creative centre; your sacral chakra.  I recorded it just the other day down by the ocean and the sounds of the water are quite beautiful.

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Go on, Be Bold, Create!

Posted in Live Your Passions, and Self-Care and Self-Healing

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” — Maya Angelou

I love the simple truth of this quote.  Go on, read it again and then breathe in and breathe out.

Last week, after feeling the urge to do some art for quite a few days, I got out the soft (and very messy) pastels and kneeled down with my little girl on the rug at our big rustic coffee table and we did some pastel painting.Here's what we created in about 30 minutes of fun creative freedom

Here’s what we created in about 30 minutes of fun creative freedom.  I’m showing you what we did to demonstrate that the outcome of sitting down to create is less important than the process of doing it. Genius artists we are not.

We seem to have gotten to a place in our society where even small children, by the age of six or seven, have absorbed beliefs about what they are “good at” and what they are “bad at”. And as for us adults, well my guess is that for many of you the words; “draw me a picture”, “sing me a song”, or “get up and dance” are some of the most frightening phrases you could imagine hearing.

So, here’s a newsflash for us all:

Creative expression is not about being an expert! It’s not about getting it right, being the best, being a professional or making it your life’s work.

Creative expression is about being in your body, releasing tension, being completely yourself, allowing something unexpected to appear or happen, having fun and being absolutely, completely in the present moment.

There’s something else here too.  Know that spreading your wings and trying forms of creative expression that are out of your comfort zone can be very therapeutic.

I love expressing myself through the written word and this comes quite naturally for me.  However, I also love singing, dancing, photography, baking, drawing and the occasional painting session because I’ve noticed how all these different activities bring me pleasure and release in very different ways.

We can all play with creative expression and enjoy the benefits.

Make sure you have some basic tools close at hand like music, paper, crayons or coloured pencils.  Then just follow your daily creative urges and allow the process of being caught up in a moment of creation be far more important than the end result.

Be three years old again! Can you remember how that felt?