We are such creative and imaginative beings!
The good part of this is that we can imagine up new ways of living, working, relating, looking and feeling in our world and then shift our lives in that more rewarding direction. The not so good part of the power of our imagination is that we create beliefs, feelings and attitudes toward particular events or outcomes, and then when they don’t meet our pre-conceived imagining, we are disappointed, sometimes devastatingly so.
I experienced this strongly after the birth of my first child, when the way the delivery panned out fell way short of my expectations. My disappointment and indeed, grief over this event lasted for years but the upside is, it triggered the gradual shifting of many of my unhelpful and self-defeating beliefs.
Yeah, I suppose you could say this is just a part of the daily human experience. The ups and downs of life, you win some, you lose some.
What I reckon though, is that we put ourselves through far too much of this pain and that it is more pervasive than you might realise.
How many of us let little irritations like a less than satisfactory coffee, no parking spots in the shopping centre car park or a lost set of car keys when we are running late affect our mood?
I certainly believe that to a large extent, we get out of life what we expect to get out of life. The law of attraction and all that.
However, we are not in complete control of everything around us. We are co-creating our experience with universal energies/love/God/the Divine, call it what you will. Also, we are playing our role in the Divine dance of life on this planet with many other beings who have their own unique pathways to tread and their own human expectatations.
Many of our not-met expectations (disappointments) arise from other people not doing, saying, giving us what we hoped, darn it, EXPECTED they would. This is where expectation is coming from a need to control our experiences so we feel safe.
I’ve observed that the happiest people around aren’t necessarily those who have lower expectations of life than the rest of us. In fact, these people live in a constant state of joyful anticipation. Doesn’t that sound good?
The difference in my mind between joyful anticipation and set expectations is in the detail. When we hold the over-arching belief that life is full of good things for us but that we are not necessarily the best judge of what is good and what is bad, we can see pretty much any experience as being beneficial and we can release our feelings of disappointment that much quicker.
So, yes, feeling disappointed from time to time is a natural human reaction. Developing the ability to let it go and see the good in every situation is to feel always blessed.
The Australian Bush Flower Essence, Freshwater Mangrove helps us to release pre-conceived beliefs and prejudices, freeing us up to appreciate the vast variety of beauty all around us.
Love and lightness,