This week I have been gifted with some amazing clarity on how important mothers really are in the role they play in the raising of their children and running a household. I guess I sort of knew this before, but I can now see how I failed to fully grasp it.
For me this raises the question, if we as mothers (using me as a prime example) are not really valuing what we do, then how can we expect others to support this belief?
At my yoga class this week I tuned into my aching right hip and asked what I need to do to support it to feel good and healthy. The answer I got was to slow down. This really surprised me because I already think my life is fairly relaxed and calm. What I am slowly realising is that because I don’t count the housework, shopping, cooking and child transporting as ‘productive activities’, I am rushing to do all the things I feel are more worthwhile in between these tasks and I am actually feeling under pressure to meet my own unrealistic expectations.
This is really quite funny because this is a topic I have written about in my book and yet I still don’t get it. I love being creative and serving others through my work but I have to admit I don’t acknowledge myself for what I do as a housekeeper and mother nearly as much as when I am earning actual money or making progress with my writing. What sort of a world were we post-feminist era girls raised in?
The Philotheca Essence is wonderful for enhancing our ability to feel and receive acknowledgment for what we do and who we are. It also allows us to accept praise graciously.
Whether we work full-time, part-time or do no paid work at all, mothers are amazing for how we juggle all the jobs that must be done to keep a house functioning smoothly, look after our children and get them to school on time every day, play with our children and talk to them, support our friends and wider family, be loving partners, etc, etc, etc…
I love my role and the freedom and flexibility I have in the working week but perhaps it’s time to be a little kinder to myself when I vacuum the living room and hang a load of washing. I started this new practice this morning by having some of Harry’s birthday cake from yesterday and a cup of tea once my cleaning effort was done.
Did you do something nice for yourself today?
Love and appreciation to you all