How would a younger you feel about the way you live your life right now? Is what’s ‘normal’ for you now the same as it was ten or fifteen years ago?
During a very enlightening astrology reading the other day, I was drawn back in time to when I was 31.
I remembered in a new way what I was like at this age and how different I am now…
At 31 my first child was born and my whole life changed…in a good way but also in a very unexpected and challenging way. You see the birth was nothing like I’d hoped it would be and it threw me the biggest curve ball in my life to date.
My two day labour ended with a C-section and although our beautiful baby son was perfectly healthy and seemed none the worse for wear, it was an intense experience for us both.
Who I was before his arrival, and who I was after, and indeed who I am now almost 14 years later, are vastly different.
What I thought was normal at 31 resembles nothing like what I feel is normal now…
When I was 31, normal felt like this:
- Work hard and you will succeed
- Deny your feelings, be sensible, be realistic
- Set high standards and try to meet them every day
- Don’t let anyone down, even if you are unhappy with the status quo
- Maintain a persona that is compliant and non-threatening so people like you
- Use your powerful mind to analyse, weigh up the pros and cons and make logical decisions
- Adhere to society’s idea of success and focus lots of energy on financial security and ‘getting ahead’
And hey, in the grand scheme, my life was actually pretty darn good. I was stressed, dissatisfied, longing for more meaning in my life and not particularly grateful for what I had, but yeah, I was an averagely happy 31 year old white Australian mother.
So you know, time went on, another beautiful child arrived into our family and I slowly began to wake up…
The road was pretty long and yes, it absolutely winds on into the distance to this day. But boy have I changed!
Now that I’m 45, this is my new normal:
- My own health and happiness are my highest priorities
- My personal standards have relaxed and I’m much more loving and forgiving to myself
- I treat work as a gift and know I will succeed because I’m living my passions
- I’m more comfortable to assert my point of view and not so scared that people will reject me
- I listen to my inner voice, value my feelings and respond to their guidance every day
- I live from intuition and although my mind is still a powerful force, it plays second fiddle to my heart.
- I value friendship, family, love, creativity, freedom, service, nature and community much more highly than material wealth or career success
We all change, grow and evolve through our lives. That’s a given.
Well, that’s our choice. The sky’s the limit people. There is no ceiling to how much happier, healthier, more free, more creative, more generous, more loving, more open-minded, more forgiving, more abundant… we can become.
It’s all about acceptance and gratitude. Bless it all and you will find your bliss.
Enjoy your day. Much love, Tricia