How good are you at making your own health and happiness your highest priority?
I’ve always been fairly focused on looking after my own health and emotional well-being, it’s just something I managed to hone as a young woman. I worked out quite early in my adult life that I’m quite sensitive to stress and that my health goes downhill fast in response to bodily neglect or mistreatment.
I have never been one of those people who can party all night and then with only a glimpse at the pillow, proceed with reasonable normality through the following day. Okay, I’ll come clean…I’ve only ever had one hangover in my life. Boring? Perhaps, but the truth is, I just didn’t like the way it felt and resolved to never do it again.
Simple for me I know but hey, I’m not much of a party animal or risk taker. I like home, routine, comfort, safety and also… (might as well come completely clean with you), not wasting my money, nor being in vast clouds of cigarette smoke – it was the early nineties and people still smoked in pubs and clubs.
Anyway, fast forward to me in my early thirties and having my first child…
I thought my commitment to good self-care was right on track. Then I became a mother. Early motherhood for me was very rewarding, exhausting and emotionally….shall we say, demanding, draining?
Back then I thought getting out for a walk once or twice a week on my own, or getting a haircut, or hold the front page, doing the grocery shop without baby in tow, were living it up. He was my world and I loved him intensely but I wasn’t so good at spending much time looking after myself or letting others do things for me. And to be honest, my marriage suffered some neglect too.
Not much changed when our daughter came along. In fact with a newborn and a toddler, I found even more to do in my mummy role and found it even easier to push away thoughts about what I wanted and needed for my own happiness and well-being.
I certainly loved being a mother and felt so grateful for having two gorgeous healthy children but I wasn’t really enjoying my life. I felt stressed every day, put silly amounts of pressure on myself to keep a perfect home and have perfectly healthy and well-behaved kids, and didn’t really take a healthy amount of time out just for myself.
Things began changing for me a year or so later when my children were both toddlers and bless them, still sleeping in the afternoons. I listened to my inner wisdom and calling on my memories of a Buddhist meditation course I’d done with my mum as a 25 year-old, I began meditating each day for 30 minutes while the children slept.
Hey, it only took me a decade to implement what I’d learned, not too bad.
Here’s what daily meditation gave me:
- A rest from my over-active mind
- Connection to my inner wisdom
- An access point to my own source of peace and calm
- Renewed faith in my own goodness and adequacy
- Increased patience with my children
- Inspiration and guidance regarding who I was at a deeper level and what my true passions were
- Much needed perspective on my roles of mother and wife in relation to who I am as an individual…
There’s so much more I could tell you and that was just what I noticed in those first few weeks of beginning my daily practice.
If you’d like some help with getting started in your own meditation practice, you might benefit from a session (or three) with me. Click here to learn more or go to my Free audio meditation page and listen to one of my guided processes.
Much love and lightness to you all,