I like my body. I can even conjure up a gentle feeling of love for it most days of the week. But you know what? I love it more when I hold my tummy in and when I don’t look too closely at my hips or the backs of my thighs.
I’m really sick of these feelings of judgement and dissatisfaction. It feels nitpicky and petty at my age to be pin-pointing body parts to dislike and wish were different. Haven’t I got more important things to give my energy to?
Well most of the time I do, but then I walk past a window or mirror and accidentally see my reflection and that little voice in my head says; “Oh look how my tummy bulges” or, “Man I’ve got a solid rear” or, “Can I still wear shorts in public?”
You with me?
Just try to imagine right now in this moment, how it would feel to instantly relax and simply know your body is perfect? **(read right to the end to learn about the big benefits of loving your body)
Because as I step into ‘observer’ role and look at myself from the outside, there is absolutely nothing wrong with my body.:
- It works well
- It fits quite comfortably into all the clothes I own
- I feel good most days – that’s my body I’m feeling good in right?
- My husband often tells me I look great
So what’s the problem?
I fear the problem is this little thing called social conditioning. I grew up in the era of the super-skinny super-model, the first fashion magazines aimed at teens, a burgeoning weight loss industry and the biggy, AEROBICS. Can we, teens of the eighties blame all of our body image issues on those nasty g-string leotards? Okay, probably not but they were pretty bad right?
I know most of my issues of body dissatisfaction come from my culture rather than my family because food and weight-loss were non-issues for my tall, slim parents. My mother was never on a diet, we always ate hearty meals, had a block of Cadbury’s in the pantry for Friday nights and had takeaway fish and chips every now and then. I’ve always looked after myself fairly well and the largest I’ve ever been is a size 12 (um, that’s about an 8 in the U.S.).
What I’m saying is, my body and I suspect your body, isn’t the issue, the problem is how we feel about them.
We’ve been brainwashed at an impressionable age to believe it’s normal to criticise ourselves and be unhappy about how we look. And it’s all a load of complete nonsense.
All I can recommend is, stop the negative self-talk by monitoring your silent and spoken language about your appearance and cut out the insults. Also, notice how you silently judge others by their appearance and use emotions like envy or disgust to mentally place them in limiting boxes labelled by how they look.
It’s time for a clear out of how we view and rate our own appearance and the appearance of others. How amazing would it be if we were all free of the superficial labeling and assumptions we create about the way we each look?
Here are some truly wonderful benefits you can look forward to manifesting in your life when you make peace with your appearance…
- You will fully EMBODY your essence, beauty and divinity and make a deeper connection to your inner wisdom. Our bodies are an extension of our spirit and soul, not separate and not ‘less than’.
- You will instinctively begin to look after your body better with the food and exercise it craves
- You will feel more confident to be yourself, dress how you like to dress and relax into your own personal style
- Your relationships will be richer and more loving because you won’t be holding anything against yourself or others for how you or they look
- You will feel free to get on with all the creative and work projects you’ve been procrastinating over because you will be in a state of higher energy, love and respect for yourself.
Told you it was worth reading right to the end.
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Enjoy your day. Much love, Tricia