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What is Your Therapy?

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I have a confession to make.  Writing this blog is my therapy.  Well, to be honest, it’s just one of my many therapies.  When I write I feel thoughtful, inspired, creative and also relieved to be sharing my thoughts and feelings with you all.  THANK YOU for reading!  If me saying thanks isn’t enough, then feel free to send me an invoice.  I’m joking of course, but take a moment to think about this.  What’s your therapy?  What do you do every day to make you happy?  I get up in the morning, put on a song and have a little dance.  Cue visual image of me dancing around in daggy pyjamas or my underw… No, on second thought, cancel that one.  Dancing makes me feel good and makes for a great start to my day.  Other things I do regularly in my week are;  have at least one coffee and catch up with a friend, meditate, sing, go walking, go swimming at the beach (strictly a summer activity for me), go outside and look at the sunset every night and go outside again each night before I go to bed, to look at the stars and the moon if its around and say a prayer.  Here is a photo I took last year while on holiday in Broome.  Ahhh, breathe it in.

Sunset on Cable Beach, Broome

Lately, I’ve also been going to Song Circle most weeks and I’m working out whether I can also fit in a dance class or get back into yoga, which I’ve let slip since the Summer holidays.  These little practices are things I have realised over time are great for me to do, and easy for me to include in my day because I love them.  Although beware, if you are thinking about an activity or practice you could do to become happier, healthier and calmer and the word ‘should’ pops into your mind, have a really good ‘feel’ (not think – listen to your heart) about whether this is something you would really love doing.  When we take up a form of exercise, interest or spiritual practice that we don’t love, we often don’t get very much benefit from it and we usually fail to stick to our plan of doing it regularly.  Humans are amazing self-sabotagers when the choices we make are not aligned with our hearts.   So, when you get a stirring in your soul to take up latin dance, give it a go, but don’t punish yourself if you decide it’s not your thing.  Want to get fit but hate running, gyms and sport?  Find a way to get the health and happiness you seek while having fun.  You know what it is, you just need to listen to your heart.  Take a moment right now.  Sit with your feet on the floor, close your eyes and take some deep breaths and gently ask yourself, “what would I love to do every day?” The answer may surprise you.

I sat down to write this blog today with a heavy heart and a headache from crying quite a bit this morning at the funeral of little Elliot Parish.  It was a beautiful service but incredibly heart wrenching to witness the despair on the faces of his parents as they walked into the cathedral to farewell their son in the loving presence of their family and friends.  What even his parents are able to see though, is the amazing impact this gorgeous little child had on so many people in his too-short, four years of life.  They are two of the most inspiring people around and to some extent, they have been made so by this terrible experience.  I imagine every person in that church today wishes for them that this tragedy had not occurred but alas, it has.   And we as a part of their community of friends can only watch on with love and compassion, ready to give a hug, a meal or for me, a flower essence, to help ease the pain just a little.  Please hold them in your hearts in prayer before you go to sleep tonight.  Every little light shining in the darkness makes a difference.

Love and light


In Good Times and Bad

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Wow! What a day of contrasts it has been.  This morning I, and all the parents and teachers at my childrens’ school heard the very sad news that one of the precious little sons of one of the families in our school community passed away last night.  He and his family endured 18 long and agonising months of treatment for brain and spinal tumours discovered in his body as a two year old.  Although I feel so very grateful that his soul is now free of the pain and illness he suffered through so bravely, I shed tears of heartfelt loss when I imagine how difficult it must have been for his parents to have had to say goodbye to their beautiful child.  And what a long road they must now walk to begin, however slowly, to move forward with their lives as a family without their littlest brother.

As I digested this news and kept control of my tears while walking home from school this morning, I felt a draining of energy and a kind of heaviness descend over me.  When I got home I  busily hung some washing, put on another load, watered the pot plants and did some tidying up.  Through all this activity I could feel the need to cry just below the surface, but by keeping busy, I was able to block it.

Before I had even got home though, the idea that I needed to get down on the floor and do some yoga stretches had come to me.  So once my chores were done, I got out the yoga mat and stretched out on the floor on my back.  As soon as I had taken my first deep breath, the crying started.  I had a good sob for a couple of minutes and felt the heaviness lift a little.  I’m still feeling weighed down and I’m finding myself frowning as I write, but the intensity of my sadness for this amazing family has shifted into a desire to send them love, healing and compassion.

The Australian Bush Flower Essence that assists in times of great turmoil and crisis is the Waratah (pictured above).  I am imagining a giant Waratah flower hovering above their home, soothing them and reassuring them at this most traumatic of times.

I think many of us fall into the habit of using activity and busyness to push away strong feelings when something upsetting happens.  While this can be functional in the short term, if we don’t eventually stop and consciously devote some time to letting these feelings out, we can end up with mental and physical health problems.  One of the definitions of depression is, sadness turned in on oneself.  Not everybody cries easily but for those of you who do, make sure you allow yourself the time and place to do this when you need to.  If crying is not an outlet for you then work out what is.  It might be yoga, walking, running, writing swimming, talking to a friend, meditating, praying or simply sitting staring out the window.  Ideally, it is something you do alone, or with one other person you can truly open up with.  This gives your inner self the feeling of safety it needs to express itself fully.

While I am still feeling sad, I am also feeling really excited because today I received all the information I needed to book my flights and accommodation for a course to become an Australian Bush Flower Essence teacher in Queensland in a couple of weeks.  When I have finished the course I will be qualified to teach Bush Essence courses in natural therapy colleges in Perth.  This is a goal I have had for more than two years, so it is lovely for me to see it coming to fruition.  Yay!

Something I am gradually learning is that good and bad can come all at the same time, and that we are capable of holding all the feelings that come out of any experience together in our hearts, when we are tuned in to how we really feel.  My kids even know this.  They said to me on the first day back at school last week that they were feeling excited and nervous at the same time.  If it makes sense to them, then I guess it’s OK that today I am feeling so very sad for our friends and happy and excited about my trip all at the same time.

Love and compassion to you all


Mums Rejoice: School is In!

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Good day to you all.  HOORAY!! Please excuse me but I can hardly contain my excitement that the kids are back at school after a very enjoyable but slightly long seven weeks of summer holidays.  Here they are yesterday in their casual finery, ready for their first day back.  Harry’s T.shirt says Believe You Can and You’re Half Way There (Theodore Roosevelt).   What a lovely sentiment to put on a child’s T.shirt.  I tell you, the world is shifting right before our eyes.  Harry picked that one out for himself at the shops over the holidays.

I’m enjoying more time to get on with my various projects and feeling so very grateful that my two kids are healthy and happy to get back to school, and that they go to a school we all love.  I’m also grateful that I get to balance being with them in the mornings and afternoons after school, with doing things I love, getting exercise I enjoy, and having a social life too!

However, all is not perfect.  I have been suffering from itchy, sore and watering eyes for the past couple of weeks.  It’s an allergic reaction to stone fruits which I have experienced for the last few summers.  It’s been bugging me a lot and although I have cut out the fruit and combined taking various flower essences with using antihistamine eye-drops, they are still not great.  Last night I went along to a Song Circle that I have been to a few times knowing this would help.  By the end of the session my eyes were quite bad (a healing crisis?), but I went home and slept really well.  When I woke up this morning they were still very weepy and are watering a bit as I write this, but the itch and redness is gone and they aren’t too puffy at all.

What I am hoping to illustrate here are two separate points.  Firstly, the very real healing power of music and singing in particular.  I have used music in our family to assist in healing for the past three or four years and have noticed some really lovely effects on us all.  When music is played in my daughter’s bedroom over-night when she has a fever, she wakes feeling good, and by simply putting on a healing CD in the living room first thing in the morning or before dinner time we all receive the benefits of released tension and balanced energy flow.  I am currently listening to the new CD from Chris James, Walk With Your Heart. I invite you to click on his name to go to a lovely article titled “The Gentle Voice” in his website, and feel free to listen to his music samples and download his free tracks.

The second point I want to make regarding this eye problem, is that I believe life moves forward in a spiral, not along a straight line.  This means we move through cycles of wellness, illness, emotional balance, confidence, self-doubt and so on, depending on our individual life themes and challenges.  I am convinced that all physical illness has an emotional root, even down to so-called accidents like kicking a toe or burning ourselves on a pot.  I also understand that our bodies kindly hold the emotional tension for us that we are unable to process in the present.  Perhaps for me there is something about this time of the year that triggers a strong emotional charge that I am not conscious of and unable to make sense of, so my eyes carry the burden for my soul.  My intuition tells me it is related to an inner impatience with wanting to make things happen immediately now that the new year has begun, and not seeing the big picture or seeing that everything is unfolding perfectly.

Gosh I find it hard keeping these articles short.  If you are wondering what a song circle is, we all sit together, (in a circle or sometimes not) and a lovely and talented woman leads us in song as she plays a keyboard accompaniment.  We sing ancient Indian mantras and other chants together.  The energy created in the room is joyful, radiant and very healing.  For a taste of the sort of songs we sing click here and go to Deva Premal and Miten’s website.  They have some free downloads of their music there.

Off to do the grocery shopping now, blissfully alone, yay!

A beautiful day to you all


Go with the Flow and Rest in the Ebb

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Phew, it’s really hot today.  I’ve had a couple of low energy days this week and the heat isn’t helping.  After getting off to a great start to the New Year, full of enthusiasm and creative verve, I think I’ve hit the inevitable low after the high.

When I say the low is inevitable, I’m referring to the natural ebb and flow of life that we, as human beings living on planet Earth have always been part of.  Like the tides, the moon, the seasons, night and day, the animal kingdom and Mother Earth herself.  We are all part of a continuum of work and rest, productivity and reflection, planning and acting.

In Chinese Traditional Medicine this cycling between the active and the passive is called Yin-Yang.  This model asserts that we need both Yang – male, active, productive, hot and logical energy, and Yin – female, static, calm, cool and intuitive energy for balanced meridians and good health.  This may sound simplistic, but it really is as straightforward as resting when we are tired and being active and productive when we have energy.

It seems to me that in our western society, we have largely lost touch with this connection to the rest of our planet, particularly with the way animals live.  When was the last time you saw a cat or a dog racing around in the midday heat?  In ancient times, when humans lived within the landscape, not separate from it as we do now, our minds and bodies were impacted more intensely by the moon phases, the shifting planets and the energies present in the earth under our bare feet.  We would rest when it was hot, sleep when it was dark, rise with the sun and gather and hunt for food when it was available.  These days, many of us ignore our body’s signals that we are tired, stressed or unwell, in favour of forging ahead to meet a set of expectations that we as a society have created, often to our collective detriment.

So, enough of the doom and gloom.  I’m writing about this because I am very guilty, when I need some time for rest and regrouping, of giving myself a hard time and feeling very frustrated with my lack of progress.  My advice to myself for next time is to ease up and remember what I have written here.

As the very long summer holidays draw to a close, I am feeling both elated and scared about what I will be doing this year.  Once the kids are back at school I won’t be able to make any excuses for not getting my book finished, starting the process of finding a publisher and pulling together the workshop program I am planning to run for women.  What I hope to remember is that although I will have a lot more time to do these things, I am pretty sure I will not be productive in every moment of every school day and that having down-time is not only OK but necessary for my sanity and health.

Click here to download a a beautiful prayer/meditation with soul song by the wonderful Jennifer McLean to help you remember there is actually nothing at all to be done, you are perfect.

Sending my love


Set an Intention and Have a Good Day

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Ahhh.  I’m feeling good.  I just listened to a lovely guided meditation from Christine Kloser on gaining a greater acceptance of what IS and understanding that whatever is happening in our lives right now, is perfect for our development at this time.

You really know when you are living an intuitive life, in complete alignment with all that is good and right for you, when your plans and hopes for a day go perfectly.  This is a pretty new experience for me and yet, since the beginning of 2011 I am having the pleasure of this occurence more often than ever.

For me, there are a few simple ingredients to create a good day.  First, I have become well practiced in tapping into my inner self to discover what it is that I actually want.  It might sound obvious, but you can’t get what you want without knowing what it is.  When we have absolute clarity regarding what it is we would like to occur in a given day, we are in a much better position to make it happen.

This can be described as setting an intention and if you can understand that thoughts and feelings are energy, and that with energy we can create our experiences, then having a clear positive intention to have a fabulous day when you first wake up in the morning is your first step.

Secondly, I have become well-practiced in becoming more fluid and flexible around how what I have envisaged for my day as it unfolds.  One of my biggest lessons as a mother has been to learn how to ‘go with the flow’.  This is something my Virgoan and number 8 (power and abundance) being has really struggled with in the past, and it has taken many years to get good at it.  What this is about is having an overall plan or intention but also being open to changing direction slightly or altering the timing of what you planned without totally freaking out!

Thirdly, and this tip is another one that can take some time to fully grasp.  It’s all about living in the moment and consciously bringing into sharper focus all that you have in your life and feeling intense gratitude for it.

I am feeling so very grateful in this moment that although my Dad just brought my kids home from their morning swimming lesson, they are playing happily and I am able to continue to write this article as I listen to Jo Dunning‘s healing activation session happening live around the world right now.  I am also grateful that their time with Dad went well, that they have returned happy and healthy and most importantly, that both pairs of goggles made it back into the swimming bag.

Since I have grown accustomed to living in a spirit of gratitude I can make lists as long as my arm, at a moment’s notice on everything I feeling grateful for.  The amazing effect I have discovered from this sort of practice is that holding an attitude of gratitude results in a very real expansion of all that I have in my life to feel grateful for.

Life just gets better and better when we can feel gratitude in every moment.  Well, the majority of moments anyway.  I’ll admit I find it pretty hard to feel gratitude when the kids are arguing, we’re running late to get out the door and I kick my toe on the corner of a cupboard.  The trick is to honour those feels of anger, frustration and pain, feel them, and then move through them quickly back to good humour and gratitude for all you have and all you are.

So, in summary, spend a moment in peaceful reflection each morning, maybe in the shower, setting the intention for how you would like your day to proceed. Secondly, let go and trust that all is well even if things change, and on the outside it looks as if your day is not going to plan.  Finally, as your day unfolds, practice living in the present and be aware of what you are grateful for, from the mere existence of your family and children, through to a lovely cup of coffee or a beautiful tree.

It’s time for me to get organised to take the children to a movie with some good friends. Thanks for taking the time to be with me today.

Love and gratitude


Slow Down and Tune In

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It’s summer here in Australia and while the people in Queensland are experiencing devastating floods, here in WA it’s hot and dry.  I’ve just come home from a lovely swim at the beach.  I’m enjoying some peace and solitude today as my kids are having a day with their grandparents.  Phew!  These seven weeks of summer holidays certainly feel endless some days.

Having a day to myself used to bring up plenty of inner conflict for me in choosing how to spend it.  However,these days I quickly squash any notions of doing housework, grocery shopping or other mother-related chores.  As soon as I waved goodbye to my children this morning I spent half an hour doing some gentle yoga, then I jumped into my bathers and walked to the beach for a swim.  Walking home I spotted a fellow school mum in a cafe, so I stopped to have a chat with her.  I then hurried home to listen to a live web-seminar with healer, Jo Dunning to discover that I was a week early. (Feel free to click on the link and register for this talk with complementary healing activations).  Since then I have been playing around with my new blog site and getting a little uptight, as I am a complete beginner at this stuff.  So I had a shower, hung out some washing (well, OK a little housework), ate some lunch and then sat down to write this blog.

I have shared all these pretty mundane details about my morning to illustrate how whenever I get the opportunity, I slow down and spend time alone, doing things I love.  Time for ourselves is so precious when we become mothers and yet it seems to me that many of us don’t realise we have the power to create this sort of time for ourselves simply by placing ourselves first in our lives.  To me, being a good mother is about feeling calm, healthy, inspired, appreciative and loving around our families at least most of the time.  Of course I still sometimes lose my patience over normal child antics and shout at my kids on the odd occasion.  But overall, I am pleased to report that since realising that making time to exercise, meditate, take a yoga class, attend a song circle, put on some music and dance or do some writing, I am much more happy within myself and therefore healthier, more energetic and more creative.

I love spending time alone and I understand that many women find this idea challenging.  However, even if you are a dyed-in-the-wool extrovert, the benefits of being alone and sitting in silent meditation or prayer for even ten minutes a day, can offer you a window into a whole new part of yourself that you may not have previously known.  The Black-eyed Susan Essence supports us in slowing down and taking the time to relax and recharge each day.

I believe happiness and fulfillment in life comes from understanding yourself intimately and following your heart.  So why not give yourself this gift of self-discovery? Once you make a start down this road, you will discover it gets easier and easier to look after your well-being and do things you love.  And you can let go of feeling guilty about taking this time because not only will you feel better, your family will really enjoy having a calmer, happier mum too!

Love and blessings for the new year


Why the Red Lily?

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This beautiful photo of the Red Lily was taken by Ian White, founder and creator of Australian Bush Flower Essences in the Top End in the Northern Territory, Australia.  This flower is actually a lotus and is known as the Sacred Lotus, a symbol for spirituality in Buddhism, throughout South East Asia.  It is one of the amazing Bush Flower Essences which have contributed so powerfully to my personal and spiritual journey over the past two and a half years.

The Red Lily Essence supports me as a mother by helping me to keep my feet firmly on the ground and able to attend to the practical matters in my life, while at the same time, enhancing my ability to tune into the spiritual realms and receive guidance.

Since attending my first Australian Bush Flower Essence workshop in 2008 I have been on a fast track to learning so much more about myself, my family, friends and clients and have seen a blossoming of my intuitive abilities, spiritual awareness and confidence in myself.  I have introduced the Bush Essences to many people and enjoyed witnessing the often subtle, yet powerful positive change they have brought to many lives.

Those of us coming from Anglo Saxon roots lost contact with using plants and flowers to heal us many, many years ago.  The exception early in the 20th century, was Edward Bach who created the Bach Flower Essences.  Then in 1987, Ian White made his first Australian flower essence and a new generation of this wonderful form of vibrational medicine was born.

I now use my collection of  Bush Essences to resolve almost every physical and emotional malady that crops up in our household.  We still use western medicine for issues like my son’s suspected broken foot four days before Christmas, and my daughter’s occasional asthma.  But for all the other stuff like blocked noses, rashes, coughs, tantrums, anxiety, tummy upsets and bee stings, Bush Essences do the trick.  They have become my first aid kit and my primary resource for emotional and spiritual support.  I love them!

In my next post I will offer some tips for getting to know your inner, intuitive self.

Be who you are