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Full Moon Reinvention and Renewal

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Happy full moon!  I hope you all saw it last night, so mesmerisingly beautiful.  Before I go on though, my apologies for the lateness of this blog.  We were at Rottnest Island for a family holiday last week and I missed my usual Thursday blog session.  We had a lovely relaxing break with some great friends and all our children.  Much swimming, cycling, reading, laughing and eating was done and we are now making the adjustment back to normal life.

Harry in quiet repose at sunset on Rotto

During our holiday I finished reading Eat, Pray, Love. I think I was probably the last woman aged between 30 and 50 in the developed world to have read it but I feel everything happens in perfect time.   I loved this book and took a lot of comfort from Elizabeth Gilbert’s starkly honest portrayal of her travails, both geographical and emotional.  I took comfort because the book I have written (although yet to be completed or published) about my life as a new mother facing the challenge of reinventing myself to live a life that reflects who I truly am, has meant sharing some pretty brutal facts about who I was, in order to flesh out the changes I have been through.  What I love about the process of revealing oneself in the written form though, is knowing that the less perfect we are, the better others can relate to us and connect to our story.  I have found this again and again in the massive array of self-help and spiritual books I have read in the last 20 years.  When authors such as the inspiring Miranda Holden, share the essential human-ness of themselves by describing the low points in their lives, as well as how they recovered and moved forward, we as readers can offer our silent compassion and feel a connection to this person though their pain.  Let’s face it, we’ve all got stories.

One of the personal development tools I have used over the years is journal writing.  There are many ways of keeping a journal.  Most people do it sporadically, when they are going through a difficult time or during a wonderful time such as on a holiday.  Another approach to take, and one recommended by Julia Cameron in her book The Artist’s Way (click to go to her website), is to use journal writing as a gradual process of uncovering one’s true self.  Julia recommends writing three pages upon waking every morning, preferably for months at a time.  Her approach is based on the concept that the first two pages are filled with the ego-based nonsense that keeps us stuck in repetitive patterns of self-doubt and self-defeating behaviours.  It is in the third page of writing that the conscious mind, having vented all the pain and frustration held there, relaxes and the soul gets to have its voice.  I did this for only a short time (I’m sorry to admit) when I first read this book about five years ago, and found it very useful.  This practice inspired me to enrol in my first creative writing course and I have been enjoying writing on and off ever since.

The times of the full and new moons are a wonderful opportunity to begin a new practice or let go of an old habit.  I’m feeling that it’s time for me to reinstate this ritual in my morning routine.

Happy writing and reading,






The Benefits of Heart-Felt Living

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Hello!  It’s good to be back home from my little sojourn in rainy Noosa.  The course was really worthwhile and I met some amazing and lovely women.  So much fun for me to be in a room with so many like-minded souls who don’t bat an eye if you tell them one of your spirit guides was with you in meditation that morning.  Heavens, that sort of information is quite pedestrian.  The teacher asked for a show of hands to establish how many people in the group can see auras and around a third of the class indicated in the affirmative.  I am really excited about these sorts of skills and loved hearing the channeled information some of the women received in our group meditations.  Lots of fun.

The decision to spend the money to travel to Noosa from Perth to do this course brought up some conflicting feelings in me.  My ever-supportive husband said, “if you want to go, go”.   And at first it felt like a no-brainer.  After all, I have had the intuitive knowledge that I would become a Bush Essence teacher for 18 months.  But then my logical, over-analytical mind kicked in with messages like, “well, you know you haven’t been earning any money lately, how can you justify this spending?” and “do you really have what it takes to promote yourself and deliver these courses?”.  Hmm, does your mind sometimes do this to you?  Even though I live mainly by following my intuition these days, old habits are very hard to break, and when I am under stress (did I mention I’m a nervous traveller?), the shy, cautious, wall-flower in me tries to pull me back into line.  I am so very glad I overcame this limiting voice inside me, because  as soon as I settled into the training room with my fellow students last Friday morning, I felt a sense of belonging and my heart said, “YES! These are my people!”

This week has been a very busy week, getting back into mum mode and seeing more new clients.  Ha! My income is growing every week now.  Finally, it feels like my four year apprenticeship is over and I can truly step into my power to be of service to others.   It is a wonderful feeling to be aware that you are aligned with your true purpose in this lifetime and to have the freedom to live it.  I feel so very grateful.

Tuning into your intuition can be as simple as sitting quietly with your breath.  Take some deep breaths down into your tummy and gently tell yourself to “let go, let go, let go”.  This takes some practice, but once you are familiar with your body and your breath, you will experience distinctly different feelings in your body when you contemplate certain decisions you would like to make.  For most of us there is a particular area in the body we could describe as our feeling centre.  For some it is around the heart, it could also be beneath the ribs in the solar plexus or down in our lower abdomen.  When you are connected to your feeling centre, it will let you know by a tensing or relaxing of muscles in that region, how you really feel about any topic you care to think about.  Give it a try, it’s sometimes a scary way to live but ultimately more rewarding than being slaves to our pre-programmed minds.

The Bluebell Essence is a wonderful heart-opening and expanding flower essence and is a stunning flower too!

Love and learning


Mum Breaks Free! (it’s just four nights)

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Bottlebrush in Fremantle

I’m writing my blog early this week, as early tomorrow morning I hop in a taxi and zoom to the airport to fly to Noosa in Queensland to attend three days of training to become a teacher in Australian Bush Flower Essence courses.  I’m stuck somewhere between: Yay!! and Oh, my golly gosh, this sort of solo travel to somewhere I have never been sort of scares me!  Ah well, I’m on the home stretch to take off now and I’m pretty excited to be getting away on my own and to learn about stuff that I really, truly love.

In preparing for little trips like this it always amazes me how complicated running a household and getting two kids to school and home each day suddenly seems when the person who normally does it all is absent.   The amount of brain power that has gone into ensuring (fingers crossed) the next few days run smoothly for the family has been about the same as organising my whole trip!  The strain has come from having to think analytically about what I actually do and what needs to be arranged to keep everything happening as per usual.  In one slightly surreal moment I had to phone my friend who is having my daughter after school tomorrow to ask her what street number her house is, as my husband hasn’t been there before and he is picking her up.   I have been there many times in the two years she has lived there, but I didn’t have the number written down anywhere.  Removing myself from my children’s lives for even four days is a very odd experience and makes me feel like I have been living in a sort of alternate universe where what I do for the family is now so much a part of me, it is taken for granted even by me.  Of course, I happily choose this role and my husband works hard at his job.  This time away just highlights how firmly delineated our roles are at the moment.

The Bush Essence for mother/child bonding and adapting smoothly to change as our children grow, is the Bottlebrush  Essence (photo above).  This week I have been taking the Gymea Lily Essence to help me to step forward confidently in following my life purpose.

February was a lovely month for me as I came to the end of my recent ‘new client drought’ and saw a new client every week.  I actually earned some money and it feels really good.  March has begun well too as I saw another new client today.  What triggered this new influx of people to my door was a visit from Adelaide of a good friend from mothers’ group who, while she was here, recommended me to a couple of her friends.  In preparing to see the first of these friends I came to the decision to change the way I would conduct the session and do away with the massage table.   Instead I did the whole session; counselling,  energy work and flower essence selection, with us both seated at my kitchen table and it seemed to work really well.  The funny thing is, I have been toying with the idea of not getting clients to lie down on the table for months now, but didn’t have the confidence to make the change.  It wasn’t until I had had a couple of months over the school holidays of seeing no clients at all that this suddenly felt OK to me.

Also, I have been getting on with finishing my book and writing with greater ease and clarity than ever before.  So, there you are, everything happens in the right way in the right time when we ask for this from God.  It has been a powerful strain on my patience but that again is something I need to learn more about.  I’ll report next week on my time in Noosa and will no doubt have a tale to tell of my further enlightenment.  Travel does expand the mind so!

Love to you all


Wise Women I Have Known

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I’ve just finished listening to a very validating and heart-warming tele-seminar by Christine Kloser  (click here for a link to listen for the next 24 hours) talking about her transformation over the past six months from ego-driven business woman, who thought she was living a spiritually aware life to – via a series of personal and business crises – really, truly living an authentically spiritual life and one that better reflects who she really is.  Wow, that was a long sentence.  I have been observing Christine’s journey from a great distance both geographically (she lives in the United States), and philosophically, as although one of my goals is to one day earn a great living doing work I love, I definitely do not fit the category of “entrepreneur” or even “conscious entrepreneur”, as Christine has described herself in the past.

What has kept me tuned into Christine over the past 18 months via her tele-seminars and email newsletters, has been simply a feeling of resonance with her as a person.  I have benefited from the information she has shared about writing a book in order to share your passion and to be of service to others.  She has inspired me with meditations, interviews with spiritually-minded authors and simply by sharing the ups and downs of her life.  I owe a lot of the confidence I have in writing these blogs to Christine and the other women I access in my on-line community around the world, including my wonderful friend Sue Papadoulis, without whom this part of my journey would not have even commenced.  Sue has also been through a  personal and business transformation (slightly less dramatic than Christine’s) in the past few months and is expressing herself with more ease and authenticity as a result.

My message today is that although both Sue and Christine have been on quite different paths to the one I have traveled, in their generous sharing of their experiences and knowledge, they have shown me how it is possible to be a mother and to also create a successful business which allows you to express yourself and help others to improve their lives.  This is all about gut feeling and leaving judgement (of them and myself) completely out of the picture.  I can feel the sincerity and love in both of these women’s hearts when they speak and I can appreciate that for them, unlike me, achieving in their work and earning money are strong drives.  They are amazing women with more energy than I could hope to have and they have taught me so much.  The challenge for us all in learning from others, is to take on board the information that really resonates with us and to have patience with ourselves when what somebody else is doing looks incredible, and we want what they have, yet we just can’t see ourselves in that role.  Time has shown me that when we ask for what is Divinely right in Divinely right time and then go with our instincts, things all turn out for the best.

Dive in to yourself!



What is Your Therapy?

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I have a confession to make.  Writing this blog is my therapy.  Well, to be honest, it’s just one of my many therapies.  When I write I feel thoughtful, inspired, creative and also relieved to be sharing my thoughts and feelings with you all.  THANK YOU for reading!  If me saying thanks isn’t enough, then feel free to send me an invoice.  I’m joking of course, but take a moment to think about this.  What’s your therapy?  What do you do every day to make you happy?  I get up in the morning, put on a song and have a little dance.  Cue visual image of me dancing around in daggy pyjamas or my underw… No, on second thought, cancel that one.  Dancing makes me feel good and makes for a great start to my day.  Other things I do regularly in my week are;  have at least one coffee and catch up with a friend, meditate, sing, go walking, go swimming at the beach (strictly a summer activity for me), go outside and look at the sunset every night and go outside again each night before I go to bed, to look at the stars and the moon if its around and say a prayer.  Here is a photo I took last year while on holiday in Broome.  Ahhh, breathe it in.

Sunset on Cable Beach, Broome

Lately, I’ve also been going to Song Circle most weeks and I’m working out whether I can also fit in a dance class or get back into yoga, which I’ve let slip since the Summer holidays.  These little practices are things I have realised over time are great for me to do, and easy for me to include in my day because I love them.  Although beware, if you are thinking about an activity or practice you could do to become happier, healthier and calmer and the word ‘should’ pops into your mind, have a really good ‘feel’ (not think – listen to your heart) about whether this is something you would really love doing.  When we take up a form of exercise, interest or spiritual practice that we don’t love, we often don’t get very much benefit from it and we usually fail to stick to our plan of doing it regularly.  Humans are amazing self-sabotagers when the choices we make are not aligned with our hearts.   So, when you get a stirring in your soul to take up latin dance, give it a go, but don’t punish yourself if you decide it’s not your thing.  Want to get fit but hate running, gyms and sport?  Find a way to get the health and happiness you seek while having fun.  You know what it is, you just need to listen to your heart.  Take a moment right now.  Sit with your feet on the floor, close your eyes and take some deep breaths and gently ask yourself, “what would I love to do every day?” The answer may surprise you.

I sat down to write this blog today with a heavy heart and a headache from crying quite a bit this morning at the funeral of little Elliot Parish.  It was a beautiful service but incredibly heart wrenching to witness the despair on the faces of his parents as they walked into the cathedral to farewell their son in the loving presence of their family and friends.  What even his parents are able to see though, is the amazing impact this gorgeous little child had on so many people in his too-short, four years of life.  They are two of the most inspiring people around and to some extent, they have been made so by this terrible experience.  I imagine every person in that church today wishes for them that this tragedy had not occurred but alas, it has.   And we as a part of their community of friends can only watch on with love and compassion, ready to give a hug, a meal or for me, a flower essence, to help ease the pain just a little.  Please hold them in your hearts in prayer before you go to sleep tonight.  Every little light shining in the darkness makes a difference.

Love and light


In Good Times and Bad

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Wow! What a day of contrasts it has been.  This morning I, and all the parents and teachers at my childrens’ school heard the very sad news that one of the precious little sons of one of the families in our school community passed away last night.  He and his family endured 18 long and agonising months of treatment for brain and spinal tumours discovered in his body as a two year old.  Although I feel so very grateful that his soul is now free of the pain and illness he suffered through so bravely, I shed tears of heartfelt loss when I imagine how difficult it must have been for his parents to have had to say goodbye to their beautiful child.  And what a long road they must now walk to begin, however slowly, to move forward with their lives as a family without their littlest brother.

As I digested this news and kept control of my tears while walking home from school this morning, I felt a draining of energy and a kind of heaviness descend over me.  When I got home I  busily hung some washing, put on another load, watered the pot plants and did some tidying up.  Through all this activity I could feel the need to cry just below the surface, but by keeping busy, I was able to block it.

Before I had even got home though, the idea that I needed to get down on the floor and do some yoga stretches had come to me.  So once my chores were done, I got out the yoga mat and stretched out on the floor on my back.  As soon as I had taken my first deep breath, the crying started.  I had a good sob for a couple of minutes and felt the heaviness lift a little.  I’m still feeling weighed down and I’m finding myself frowning as I write, but the intensity of my sadness for this amazing family has shifted into a desire to send them love, healing and compassion.

The Australian Bush Flower Essence that assists in times of great turmoil and crisis is the Waratah (pictured above).  I am imagining a giant Waratah flower hovering above their home, soothing them and reassuring them at this most traumatic of times.

I think many of us fall into the habit of using activity and busyness to push away strong feelings when something upsetting happens.  While this can be functional in the short term, if we don’t eventually stop and consciously devote some time to letting these feelings out, we can end up with mental and physical health problems.  One of the definitions of depression is, sadness turned in on oneself.  Not everybody cries easily but for those of you who do, make sure you allow yourself the time and place to do this when you need to.  If crying is not an outlet for you then work out what is.  It might be yoga, walking, running, writing swimming, talking to a friend, meditating, praying or simply sitting staring out the window.  Ideally, it is something you do alone, or with one other person you can truly open up with.  This gives your inner self the feeling of safety it needs to express itself fully.

While I am still feeling sad, I am also feeling really excited because today I received all the information I needed to book my flights and accommodation for a course to become an Australian Bush Flower Essence teacher in Queensland in a couple of weeks.  When I have finished the course I will be qualified to teach Bush Essence courses in natural therapy colleges in Perth.  This is a goal I have had for more than two years, so it is lovely for me to see it coming to fruition.  Yay!

Something I am gradually learning is that good and bad can come all at the same time, and that we are capable of holding all the feelings that come out of any experience together in our hearts, when we are tuned in to how we really feel.  My kids even know this.  They said to me on the first day back at school last week that they were feeling excited and nervous at the same time.  If it makes sense to them, then I guess it’s OK that today I am feeling so very sad for our friends and happy and excited about my trip all at the same time.

Love and compassion to you all


Mums Rejoice: School is In!

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Good day to you all.  HOORAY!! Please excuse me but I can hardly contain my excitement that the kids are back at school after a very enjoyable but slightly long seven weeks of summer holidays.  Here they are yesterday in their casual finery, ready for their first day back.  Harry’s T.shirt says Believe You Can and You’re Half Way There (Theodore Roosevelt).   What a lovely sentiment to put on a child’s T.shirt.  I tell you, the world is shifting right before our eyes.  Harry picked that one out for himself at the shops over the holidays.

I’m enjoying more time to get on with my various projects and feeling so very grateful that my two kids are healthy and happy to get back to school, and that they go to a school we all love.  I’m also grateful that I get to balance being with them in the mornings and afternoons after school, with doing things I love, getting exercise I enjoy, and having a social life too!

However, all is not perfect.  I have been suffering from itchy, sore and watering eyes for the past couple of weeks.  It’s an allergic reaction to stone fruits which I have experienced for the last few summers.  It’s been bugging me a lot and although I have cut out the fruit and combined taking various flower essences with using antihistamine eye-drops, they are still not great.  Last night I went along to a Song Circle that I have been to a few times knowing this would help.  By the end of the session my eyes were quite bad (a healing crisis?), but I went home and slept really well.  When I woke up this morning they were still very weepy and are watering a bit as I write this, but the itch and redness is gone and they aren’t too puffy at all.

What I am hoping to illustrate here are two separate points.  Firstly, the very real healing power of music and singing in particular.  I have used music in our family to assist in healing for the past three or four years and have noticed some really lovely effects on us all.  When music is played in my daughter’s bedroom over-night when she has a fever, she wakes feeling good, and by simply putting on a healing CD in the living room first thing in the morning or before dinner time we all receive the benefits of released tension and balanced energy flow.  I am currently listening to the new CD from Chris James, Walk With Your Heart. I invite you to click on his name to go to a lovely article titled “The Gentle Voice” in his website, and feel free to listen to his music samples and download his free tracks.

The second point I want to make regarding this eye problem, is that I believe life moves forward in a spiral, not along a straight line.  This means we move through cycles of wellness, illness, emotional balance, confidence, self-doubt and so on, depending on our individual life themes and challenges.  I am convinced that all physical illness has an emotional root, even down to so-called accidents like kicking a toe or burning ourselves on a pot.  I also understand that our bodies kindly hold the emotional tension for us that we are unable to process in the present.  Perhaps for me there is something about this time of the year that triggers a strong emotional charge that I am not conscious of and unable to make sense of, so my eyes carry the burden for my soul.  My intuition tells me it is related to an inner impatience with wanting to make things happen immediately now that the new year has begun, and not seeing the big picture or seeing that everything is unfolding perfectly.

Gosh I find it hard keeping these articles short.  If you are wondering what a song circle is, we all sit together, (in a circle or sometimes not) and a lovely and talented woman leads us in song as she plays a keyboard accompaniment.  We sing ancient Indian mantras and other chants together.  The energy created in the room is joyful, radiant and very healing.  For a taste of the sort of songs we sing click here and go to Deva Premal and Miten’s website.  They have some free downloads of their music there.

Off to do the grocery shopping now, blissfully alone, yay!

A beautiful day to you all


Go with the Flow and Rest in the Ebb

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Phew, it’s really hot today.  I’ve had a couple of low energy days this week and the heat isn’t helping.  After getting off to a great start to the New Year, full of enthusiasm and creative verve, I think I’ve hit the inevitable low after the high.

When I say the low is inevitable, I’m referring to the natural ebb and flow of life that we, as human beings living on planet Earth have always been part of.  Like the tides, the moon, the seasons, night and day, the animal kingdom and Mother Earth herself.  We are all part of a continuum of work and rest, productivity and reflection, planning and acting.

In Chinese Traditional Medicine this cycling between the active and the passive is called Yin-Yang.  This model asserts that we need both Yang – male, active, productive, hot and logical energy, and Yin – female, static, calm, cool and intuitive energy for balanced meridians and good health.  This may sound simplistic, but it really is as straightforward as resting when we are tired and being active and productive when we have energy.

It seems to me that in our western society, we have largely lost touch with this connection to the rest of our planet, particularly with the way animals live.  When was the last time you saw a cat or a dog racing around in the midday heat?  In ancient times, when humans lived within the landscape, not separate from it as we do now, our minds and bodies were impacted more intensely by the moon phases, the shifting planets and the energies present in the earth under our bare feet.  We would rest when it was hot, sleep when it was dark, rise with the sun and gather and hunt for food when it was available.  These days, many of us ignore our body’s signals that we are tired, stressed or unwell, in favour of forging ahead to meet a set of expectations that we as a society have created, often to our collective detriment.

So, enough of the doom and gloom.  I’m writing about this because I am very guilty, when I need some time for rest and regrouping, of giving myself a hard time and feeling very frustrated with my lack of progress.  My advice to myself for next time is to ease up and remember what I have written here.

As the very long summer holidays draw to a close, I am feeling both elated and scared about what I will be doing this year.  Once the kids are back at school I won’t be able to make any excuses for not getting my book finished, starting the process of finding a publisher and pulling together the workshop program I am planning to run for women.  What I hope to remember is that although I will have a lot more time to do these things, I am pretty sure I will not be productive in every moment of every school day and that having down-time is not only OK but necessary for my sanity and health.

Click here to download a a beautiful prayer/meditation with soul song by the wonderful Jennifer McLean to help you remember there is actually nothing at all to be done, you are perfect.

Sending my love


Set an Intention and Have a Good Day

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Ahhh.  I’m feeling good.  I just listened to a lovely guided meditation from Christine Kloser on gaining a greater acceptance of what IS and understanding that whatever is happening in our lives right now, is perfect for our development at this time.

You really know when you are living an intuitive life, in complete alignment with all that is good and right for you, when your plans and hopes for a day go perfectly.  This is a pretty new experience for me and yet, since the beginning of 2011 I am having the pleasure of this occurence more often than ever.

For me, there are a few simple ingredients to create a good day.  First, I have become well practiced in tapping into my inner self to discover what it is that I actually want.  It might sound obvious, but you can’t get what you want without knowing what it is.  When we have absolute clarity regarding what it is we would like to occur in a given day, we are in a much better position to make it happen.

This can be described as setting an intention and if you can understand that thoughts and feelings are energy, and that with energy we can create our experiences, then having a clear positive intention to have a fabulous day when you first wake up in the morning is your first step.

Secondly, I have become well-practiced in becoming more fluid and flexible around how what I have envisaged for my day as it unfolds.  One of my biggest lessons as a mother has been to learn how to ‘go with the flow’.  This is something my Virgoan and number 8 (power and abundance) being has really struggled with in the past, and it has taken many years to get good at it.  What this is about is having an overall plan or intention but also being open to changing direction slightly or altering the timing of what you planned without totally freaking out!

Thirdly, and this tip is another one that can take some time to fully grasp.  It’s all about living in the moment and consciously bringing into sharper focus all that you have in your life and feeling intense gratitude for it.

I am feeling so very grateful in this moment that although my Dad just brought my kids home from their morning swimming lesson, they are playing happily and I am able to continue to write this article as I listen to Jo Dunning‘s healing activation session happening live around the world right now.  I am also grateful that their time with Dad went well, that they have returned happy and healthy and most importantly, that both pairs of goggles made it back into the swimming bag.

Since I have grown accustomed to living in a spirit of gratitude I can make lists as long as my arm, at a moment’s notice on everything I feeling grateful for.  The amazing effect I have discovered from this sort of practice is that holding an attitude of gratitude results in a very real expansion of all that I have in my life to feel grateful for.

Life just gets better and better when we can feel gratitude in every moment.  Well, the majority of moments anyway.  I’ll admit I find it pretty hard to feel gratitude when the kids are arguing, we’re running late to get out the door and I kick my toe on the corner of a cupboard.  The trick is to honour those feels of anger, frustration and pain, feel them, and then move through them quickly back to good humour and gratitude for all you have and all you are.

So, in summary, spend a moment in peaceful reflection each morning, maybe in the shower, setting the intention for how you would like your day to proceed. Secondly, let go and trust that all is well even if things change, and on the outside it looks as if your day is not going to plan.  Finally, as your day unfolds, practice living in the present and be aware of what you are grateful for, from the mere existence of your family and children, through to a lovely cup of coffee or a beautiful tree.

It’s time for me to get organised to take the children to a movie with some good friends. Thanks for taking the time to be with me today.

Love and gratitude


Slow Down and Tune In

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It’s summer here in Australia and while the people in Queensland are experiencing devastating floods, here in WA it’s hot and dry.  I’ve just come home from a lovely swim at the beach.  I’m enjoying some peace and solitude today as my kids are having a day with their grandparents.  Phew!  These seven weeks of summer holidays certainly feel endless some days.

Having a day to myself used to bring up plenty of inner conflict for me in choosing how to spend it.  However,these days I quickly squash any notions of doing housework, grocery shopping or other mother-related chores.  As soon as I waved goodbye to my children this morning I spent half an hour doing some gentle yoga, then I jumped into my bathers and walked to the beach for a swim.  Walking home I spotted a fellow school mum in a cafe, so I stopped to have a chat with her.  I then hurried home to listen to a live web-seminar with healer, Jo Dunning to discover that I was a week early. (Feel free to click on the link and register for this talk with complementary healing activations).  Since then I have been playing around with my new blog site and getting a little uptight, as I am a complete beginner at this stuff.  So I had a shower, hung out some washing (well, OK a little housework), ate some lunch and then sat down to write this blog.

I have shared all these pretty mundane details about my morning to illustrate how whenever I get the opportunity, I slow down and spend time alone, doing things I love.  Time for ourselves is so precious when we become mothers and yet it seems to me that many of us don’t realise we have the power to create this sort of time for ourselves simply by placing ourselves first in our lives.  To me, being a good mother is about feeling calm, healthy, inspired, appreciative and loving around our families at least most of the time.  Of course I still sometimes lose my patience over normal child antics and shout at my kids on the odd occasion.  But overall, I am pleased to report that since realising that making time to exercise, meditate, take a yoga class, attend a song circle, put on some music and dance or do some writing, I am much more happy within myself and therefore healthier, more energetic and more creative.

I love spending time alone and I understand that many women find this idea challenging.  However, even if you are a dyed-in-the-wool extrovert, the benefits of being alone and sitting in silent meditation or prayer for even ten minutes a day, can offer you a window into a whole new part of yourself that you may not have previously known.  The Black-eyed Susan Essence supports us in slowing down and taking the time to relax and recharge each day.

I believe happiness and fulfillment in life comes from understanding yourself intimately and following your heart.  So why not give yourself this gift of self-discovery? Once you make a start down this road, you will discover it gets easier and easier to look after your well-being and do things you love.  And you can let go of feeling guilty about taking this time because not only will you feel better, your family will really enjoy having a calmer, happier mum too!

Love and blessings for the new year