When we’re in the habit of constantly comparing ourselves to others and making snap judgments about how we measure up in comparison to ‘her’, we can never be in our true power and feel truly at peace.
And we must realise something. This behaviour can sometimes be very subtle. We may not even think we’re doing it. But know this, the more vehemently we deny that we’re competitive, the more underground and insidious it is.
Our need to compete even a teensy bit must be owned and integrated in order for us to make peace with it and get it under control. It’s not always bad, it’s just that cultivating an attitude of oneness is a more productive way to function.
We’re at our most creative, loving and joyful when we live from the belief that we’re all equal.
How does this play out in your life? Here I am revealing my personal struggle with competition…
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What if the obstacles we notice in life are borne out of a belief that life is a struggle and the truth is, we have far more support than we realised?
It’s been a long year for many of us. There’s been a feeling of slow progress for many of my clients and for me as well.
If you’re familiar with numerology, you’ll know that 2016 is a year nine for the planet.
This means we’re at the end of a nine year cycle and next year a new cycle begins.
It’s a personal year nine for me as well because if you add my birth date and month to the year 2016, you get nine. Neato!
So, being the end of a cycle, this year has been all about completion, release and endings. And since ‘nine energy’ is all about integrity, ambition, idealism and disillusionment (among other things), we’ve been seeing these sorts of themes come up on the world stage just a little….ahem, need I say ‘election’?
I’ve been slogging away selling what I do on Facebook and wondering when that constant stream of suitable and willing clients will finally appear….
I’ve been delivering my women’s sacred dance class in a variety of formats and venues throughout the year and I still can’t crack eight or nine participants per class…..
I guess the story I’ve been telling myself is very focused on the obstacles, the blocks and the challenges of reaching my audience and making this work I do into a proper income. What to do?
Well I reckon it’s time I changed my perspective and got real about everything that’s working in my favour.
We’ve been living in this amazing part of the planet for almost five years – dream fulfilled
I’ve been leading my women’s meditation circle for three and a half years
I’ve made some of the most gorgeous friends of my life – they are my tribe
I love my work and I have so much gratitude for the freedom I have in this lifestyle we’ve created
I’m constantly challenging myself to follow my creative inspiration, to enjoy life more and be more fearless
Many people support me and praise my work every week
My relationship with my husband and kids is on a firm footing – we love each other a lot
I’m in good health and I have tons of energy
So really, I don’t have an awful lot to complain about do I?
Those funny moments where the venue falls through, there’s no power supply for the music, the people don’t enroll in high numbers, I run late because of a family crisis or the elderly lady insists on barging into the hall before my class has finished are really just minor hassles, rather than substantial barriers to my success.
All in good time my child, all in good time.
We’ re all being supported by life much more than we realise.
Are you ready to take off in a bigger way in 2017?
The rain is falling. Autumn has settled in and before we know it there’ll be a fire in the hearth and extra blankets on the beds. The seasons, as they play out in the natural world, bring us vivid demonstrations of change, renewal, stagnation, decay and growth.
As I see the world outside my window change, I also feel I must be changing too.
Nothing stays the same, everything must change
How do you handle change?
Do you seek it out eagerly with an optimistic grin?
Do you pretend it’s not happening and drag your heels every step of the way?
I guess we all do a bit of both. Some change we beckon with open arms, other change (when it’s not what we’d expected), requires a little more time and adjustment before we fully accept it.
The change of season encourages us to get out different clothes, maybe buy some new things, and clean out and organise our wardrobe. We exercise, eat and entertain ourselves differently from Winter to Summer. It’s fun right? Nice to mix it up, have a change?
As a result of my passion for being connected to nature, I respond to the changing seasons with excitement and wonder. The first rains turn the brown earth into a barely-there green tinge and then a lush carpet of grass for our local kangaroos to feast on. Locals who depend on rain for their water supply clap their hands together in glee and we town dwellers enjoy turning our garden reticulation off for a few months.
So, whether you’re in northern, southern or tropical climes, nature shifts and aspects of your life shift with it.
For me, noticing nature helps me to be in deeper contact with myself. I’m calm when I’m outdoors and I gain lots of insights and inspiration as I walk and sit among the trees or upon the granite rocks by the water.
Nature heals us and brings us home to ourselves.
And nature isn’t just what’s here on Earth. The natural world includes our moon, the sun and all the stars and planets. The vast cosmos influences and changes us day by day, year by year.
The two eclipses we’ve just witnessed created some beautiful energetic openings for us to release the past (yes, again) and shift anew into the lives we’ve dreamed of and planned for over the last few years. Each morning since the lunar eclipse on Saturday night I’ve woken from dreams that have flushed out old fears, pulled together past and current relationships and revealed remnants of deeply held insecurities.
I’ve found it hard to stick with my meditation routine and have felt the need to clear out cupboards, put together the photo book from our holiday to Spain and take a break from my work schedule.
Early this morning I went for a grey-skied walk to the ocean and sat with shoes off on a rocky outcrop above the water. I chanted the Om mantra, stared at the sea and drank in the clear, cool air. And I felt new.
You’re new too, just take a moment to pause and feel it.
What I’ve noticed is that when a big change is around the corner for me, the little changes that precede it often turn from molehills into mountains right before my eyes.
This is what happened last weekend when, with the help of a very handy techie-woman from Fiverr.com I transferred my website from the WordPress.com platform to WordPress.org.
The reason for doing this is so I can do more businessy type stuff on my site and have more control over how I use it.
Well I won’t go into the details, but it would seem the universe conspired to add some twists and turns to this seemingly straightforward process just to test my mettle, or was it to help me to fully embody my commitment to this business of mine? I don’t know.
All I know is that as a result of me zigging, and undoing what my techie-woman had zagged for me, I completely erased my website – containing four years of blog posts – from visible existence. And so it stayed for three long days while I waited for her to come back to me over the weekend.
My natural urge to keep working away at it (in complete ignorance) came rushing forward and it took all my deeper awareness and intuitive insights to prevent me from making the problem even worse by trying to fix it myself.
I have to say, this is where my morning meditation practice saved the day. Getting up each morning to meditate on those difficult three days allowed me to:
Be present with how I was feeling
Be in a reasonable level of acceptance around what had happened
Be open to however it was going to work out in the end
My intuition kept telling me all was well and that the website would be restored but gosh it was hard to let go and trust this would really happen.
So I’m on the air again with all my posts and most of the images intact and I’ve learnt a lot about trusting universe, feeling helpless and letting go of the past. Ahh, the benefits of a tricky experience, they’re so much richer than the easy ones.
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Come on, play along with me here, use your imagination…
Ask yourself this:
What would it mean to me if I suddenly felt that there is nothing wrong with my life, with me, with anyone else or with the world?
Breathe it in. Just breathe in that imagined possibility. How does it make you feel?
Excited, relieved and joyous or, tense, worried and concerned about my sanity?
If you find it hard to even contemplate this, do not fear, you’ve got plenty of company. How do you think we all got to believe in this falsehood of duality in the first place? It’s because the majority of people across the developed world all think in much the same way. We pass judgement on all experiences (and people) as right or wrong, good or bad and for some reason, mainstream culture has placed a big emphasis on what’s wrong, rather than what’s right.
If you watch any news broadcast you’ll know what I mean.
So seriously, what if it’s our perspective that’s flawed, rather than our whole species?
Here’s where I’m heading with this: There’s this universal law of energy some people have described as the Law of Attraction. What it means for us in three dimensional, human reality is, what you focus on expands.
For the past few hundred years or so, we humans have been ever so slightly focused on making the self wrong, making the ‘other’ wrong and turning our attention to outward pursuits like work to distract ourselves from the pain of this separation from ourselves and one another.
What if, just what if we began right now, seeing and appreciating what’s right within all of us and letting go of our attachment to looking for what’s wrong?
Let’s try something, because like the little boy who shouted, “Look, the emperor has no clothes!”, I want to shout, “Look, everything is good and we are all okay!”
How about this:
Right now in this very moment of your life on this amazing planet of ours, what’s good?
Are you comfortable in your body? Now now, don’t go looking for a problem here, just notice that your body feels more good than bad right?
Yes? So now you can expand this notion out further into your life to see all that is good or at least reasonably acceptable in your life right now. Just this small action of feeling a little gratitude for what you have, who you are and who you’re with can lift your mood, open your heart and raise your chances of feeling happier in the next moment, then the next and so on…
It’s catching people! Find yourself talking about good stuff instead of bad, happy stories instead of depressing ones and you carry forth a new energy of having more trust in life. Life is good, mostly, for most of us.
When we feel this and begin living as though it were true, we lift the collective energy of the planet. So to help others, lighten up, see what is good and give up the habit of ‘wrong-making’ that has gotten us all so confused and upset.
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Madonna got it right all those years ago when she sang that we are living in a material world. I’m not an especially ‘material girl’ and yet I can look back to my later twenties and early thirties when I had myself convinced that if only I had…
That house in that neighbourhood
That dress, etc, etc…
then and only then would I be completely happy and satisfied. And then…
I got some of the things I desired and guess what, I still wasn’t happy.
Everyone knows happiness comes from within and what I’m discovering is that it’s a lifelong process to build the deep sense of self-love and trust in life necessary to truly live it in every moment.
We can be distracted from living our true and natural expression in the world when we think we need something outside of ourselves to be complete. And that includes other people. The trick is to be less attached to all of it and realise that we are always making progress towards a better life. That’s just how we’re designed. Here’s some wisdom I’ve picked up along the way and I’ve shared with many of my beautiful clients:
“Just when you’re feeling like everything in your life is truly crappy and you feel you’ve really messed it up. When you feel you’re in the wrong relationship, wrong job, that you’re the worst mother ever or that you’ve not made any progress in your personal growth at all….Celebrate! Yes, that’s right, celebrate because everything you’ve been asking for (provided you’ve been asking) is about to begin flowing your way.”
Honestly, I’ve experienced this time and time again in my own life and I’ve heard many a client say it’s been their experience too.
The night is darkest before the dawn (old proverb)
It seems that just before we shift, life hands us all we’ve been labeling as wrong, substandard, flawed or broken in our lives in an exaggerated, soap opera-style series of happenings as if to give us one final look before we let it all go.
The key to capitalising from these endings when they show up is to acknowledge them as such and not feel attached to how they make you feel. To be able to step back and view the upset from an objective stand-point is a sure sign you’re ready for something different.
When it comes to the material things we would like to have in our lives, because yes, it’s okay to want stuff, the same process applies. The moment we give up on getting something we’ve been dreaming of and let it go, or simply hold the perspective in all matters that all we need and want flows to us effortlessly, it often comes to fruition with very little effort.
The point I’m trying to pull together here is that it’s all one energy and all one outcome. Whether it’s money, love, a home, a new pair of runners, a career you love or a healthy body. It’s all in your reach once you release the need to focus on what is wrong or what is missing in your life.
That’s it, it’s that simple.
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Can you be spiritually aware and also a real person?
Well can you? It seems to me there’s some confusion here born out of the ‘new spirituality’ and ‘law of attraction’ movements.
How do we reconcile love and compassion for All with our natural human feelings of frustration, anger, grief, disappointment and irritation. Not to mention those moments when you blurt out a hurtful comment or completely fail to empathise with someone else’s situation. Yes, that was me (on both counts) with a couple of my nearest and dearest in just the last few weeks.
How we recover from and make sense of these moments is what sets us apart from those who unconsciously waltz on through life without so much as a backward glance or worse, who defend their behaviour by making those around them wrong and themselves right.
And no I don’t mean we’re better, I just mean we’re awake in our intention to be the best we can be and to continue to grow in our capacity to be a beacon of love and acceptance to all around us. Isn’t that what you want? It’s what I want.
So as we surge forward into this new year, filled with gratitude for all we’ve experienced and been present to in 2014, I just want you to know, it’s okay to be a regular, normal, up and down, wrong and right, happy and sad human being while travelling your semi-enlightened path.
“The enlightened are not perfect, they just know how to follow their inner wisdom and to trust that whatever unfolds in their personal relationships and interactions with the general public is happening for deeper and more magical reasons than any of us are meant to understand.”
Even though our intentions may be pure, we will still stuff up occasionally and hurt those we love. It really is all good. Say sorry, bless the moment with love and light and move on knowing that all have benefited in some way from what happened.
A New Year Blessing
“I intend for you to forgive yourself as you would a little child as you say farewell to this year. You are innocent, you are doing your best and you are always loved, no matter what.”
A new year is a fresh start. Make sure you devote some time in the next few days to sit in a meditative state and visualise an eternal violet flame shining within your being. This is your true essence and your gift from Spirit.
I can’t wait for 2015. I have big visions for expanding my successful inner guidance coaching business, publishing my book on how to access your inner guidance and offering a series of meditations featuring the chakras as they relate to our natural world. Not to mention the continuation of my local women’s meditation circle and my new women’s healing dance class. I’m going to be busy, happy, healthy, balanced and prosperous. How about you?
If you’d like some spot-on help with creating your vision for 2015, contact me to talk over investing in one of my coaching programs. I’d love to connect with you. <3
We’re coming to the close of 2014 and this is our opportunity to reflect, release and realise how far we’ve come this year.
Celebrate that you are still here and breathing. Breathe in, breathe out…
Go softly into the coming year. Be gentle on yourself and know that as you grow into greater love with who you are, your world will expand and your potential for your bigger life will be realised. Allow that this may happen quickly or slowly, in a steady or a stop and start manner, or for a long while it may feel as though nothing is happening at all…
Be assured, all that you need is present in your life in every moment: That problem with the computer, the package that hasn’t arrived, the friends running late to meet you at the restaurant, the lack of energy just when you had a long list of tasks to get through. It’s all there for you.
When we embrace the truth that life is always guiding and gifting us with precisely what we are ready to face, it all feels so much more calm and easy.
See if you can look at whatever you are presented with on Christmas Day with this kind of open-hearted trust. And you know I’m not talking about the presents you unwrap, I’m talking about the people you spend the day with and how they present themselves from your perspective.
Remember, we all are here with our own pathway to travel, they’re not deliberately trying to upset or annoy you, they are your wonderful family and they are part of your life for very mysterious and magical reasons. We all serve one another in many ways as we work through (or even settle into) our own dysfunction.
Also, please remember, you have free will. You may feel obligated to spend time with certain people at this time of year and if that leaves you feeling drained, triggered or angry and resentful, then perhaps you’ll make a different choice next time. You have the power to choose who you socialise with, no matter what the occasion.
So here are my three simple tips for being in your own integrity and staying calm this festive season:
Number one – Be mindful of who you commit to spending time with and find a positive reason to be with those whom you choose. If you can’t find a good reason to be there, bow out graciously. Feelings of obligation and guilt have no useful role in our lives (thank you Anita Moorjani).
Number two – Allow that if tensions are high in certain family dynamics, that others (and even you), may end up expressing some long-suppressed truths in what look and feel like arguments. These moments, while unpleasant can be very cathartic and be catalysts for healing and reconciliation. When we hold fear around them happening we may contribute to the intensity rather than prevent them. Being outdoors for at least some time during the day together can help to calm everyone down. Perhaps you could suggest a stroll after lunch?
Number three – Set some loving intentions for the group, for yourself and each individual prior to arriving or greeting your guests. While we are not responsible for any other person’s behaviour, we may set the energetic tone by holding ALL in light and compassion as the day commences.
Be yourself and be kind to you. That is your Christmas gift to your soul.
I’m available this week for appointments to help you get your year started with enthusiasm and direction. To learn more, take a look at my Inner Guidance Coaching page and contact me for a chat.
It’s the end of 2014 and I’m feeling aligned with this strong surge of energy to get organised, get moving and set plans in place to make the most of early 2015.
In November I ran two sneak preview women’s healing dance classes at a great venue a short bike ride from my home. I had a lovely response, people came along and they all seemed to connect with what I was offering.
So why is it that I’m wasting so much energy in pondering what time and day and even what venue to offer this class at on a weekly basis in the new year? The obvious answer would be, the same time and the same place as the preview classes because they worked really well. Yes Tricia, people came along and enjoyed it so why change?
It’s not our first instinct to keep it simple though is it?
My perfecting nature combined with my fear of success/self-sabotaging nature brings up all sorts of barriers and questions to prevent me from settling with the reality that the first and most obvious option is actually the best option for right now.
I go off into grandiose fantasies about what this dance class could be in the future if only I had the perfect schedule, venue or class program. What’s real though is that I’m still at the beginning of this new venture and I need to allow myself a settling in time before it gets bigger and (possibly) better.
So thankfully, I’ve taken time to gather my thoughts before I launch into creating timetables and big plans for 2015.
Just slowing it all down and listening within can be of great help to us all when we are feeling confused or conflicted over a set of decisions.
Life/God/Universe/Spirit is always there with unfailing patience and love showing us the way via the unfolding of events, relationships, tiny little moments and our own physical senses, how we may move forward into greater fulfillment, joy and peace.
It’s really not as complicated as our all-too clever minds try to make it.
If you’ve worked yourself into a lather over the next step forward in your life and have no idea what choice would be best, go into a meditative state and ask yourself these four simple questions:
What am I really worried about?
What’s the outcome that I’m seeking and is it realistic?
Where is the evidence that what’s worked before will not work again?
If I knew the best option right now, what would it be?
This little technique will serve to return your emotions to a balanced state, allow for the intuitive self and the mind to work in cooperation, not competition and give you greater confidence in your own personal power to direct your path.
It’s not about avoiding trial and error or mistakes, it’s just about moving through it ALL more efficiently and gracefully because although there’s no finish line or summit to conquer, it’s more fun if we’re aligned with what’s real and true.