Ten years ago this Mothers Day, my first-born child, a beautiful baby boy emerged into the world. Thinking about my son’s tenth birthday this week, I wondered what advice I would give my younger self prior to his birth if I had the chance.
I wrote my 31 year-old self a letter and listed ten pearls of wisdom I think may have helped me back then.
Here are the first five:
The Top Five Pearls of Wisdom for New Mothers:
1. Relax, breathe and trust that all is well.
You don’t need to be perfect and you don’t need to know it all. Your baby knows he is your first born. The more relaxed and calm you are, the more he will be. Go easier on yourself and make time to be alone with your thoughts. Call it meditation, prayer or just sitting staring out the window. Even the mother of a newborn can find ten minutes in her day to do this. Make this a priority and you will feel calmer and more open to your inner wisdom.
2. Look after your body and your emotional health by exercising and eating healthily.
Get outside and walk with the pram, do yoga or some other activity that stretches your body. Also make time to express your creativity. Writing is great, or drawing, dancing, singing, whatever feels natural to you. Eat something from a plant (fruit, veg, nut, seed, grain) at every meal and be mindful of how much sugar you consume.
3. Make time to see or talk on the phone with friends.
Nurture these relationships for they are sacred and essential to your on-going happiness. Devote time and energy to making new friends among the other mums you will meet. They often end up being your closest and most cherished friends in years to come.
4. Appreciate and support your partner.
He is doing his best to be a good provider and is just as confused about his place in the world as you are. As your children grow, so will the two of you. Talking things over together each day and being honest about your dreams for the future is all you need to do. Patience and compassion are essential.
5. Find your passion and purpose in life while your children are still little.
Motherhood can be so fulfilling but those intense years of parenting are over in the blink of an eye. Find courses, books, people and activities that resonate with you and make your heart sing. Making yourself happy makes everyone around you happy.
To read the whole letter and the last five pearls of wisdom click here.
A lovely day to you all,