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Six cool ways to turn a walk into a moving meditation

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It’s all very well to hop off the bolster and take our spiritual practice on the road with a moving meditation, but with all of the distractions out there and within, how do we quiet the mind?

I do a lot of solo bush walking. It’s a passion for me and I get my best writing and business ideas, plus a super-clear head while out on the trails. I walk in silence, no headphones or music blaring from a phone. And I pay attention to how my body feels, to the plants and trees, the birds, the ocean and the ground I pass over. But then, I often discover there’s another layer of mental activity happening that’s beneath my surface awareness. There’ll be a pop song on a loop, various random thoughts, memories or plans floating through, or a heavy emotion creating a dense backdrop.

What I’ve realised, is that although it’s important to have time where we let the mind wander freely, it’s better to do it with intention, rather than in an unaware way. In other words, it’s better to bring some discipline to the process.

Intention setting

Before we start walking, we might set a clear intention about what we’d like to get out of the journey. Sometimes it’s obvious because we’re feeling undeniably angry, sad, frustrated or confused. In these cases, we might create an intention to honour and work through the strong feeling and perhaps come to a decision, receive guidance about the issue, or simply feel soothed by walking it out.

Other times we’re feeling okay, perhaps just mildly flat or restless, so we might have the intention of feeling calmer and more connected by the time we return. The key is to begin in a state of awareness and presence and to have a goal to cultivate that presence while we’re walking. To me, it’s one of the best and easiest of therapies to access. It’s something I often talk about with clients and it’s a key feature in my women’s retreats.

Walking as therapy

If you come on retreat with me this September, we’ll be doing a couple of long walks in silence, and in order to get the most out of these potentially magical experiences, it’s ideal if we can be lovingly present with ourselves. The following suggestions on how, are based on the reality that the mind needs to be doing something as we walk, so we might as well give it something useful to do.

My favourite thing to do while walking is to imagine my energy field is expanding larger and larger around me, encompassing every bush, stone, tree and creature. When I do this, I feel the deepest sense of peace and connection to ALL. It’s intensely healing, but that’s just one idea…

Here’s six more ways we can use the mind in an intentional and meditative way.

  1. Look around for a precious item to pick up such as a pretty leaf, feather or stone
  2. Listen to all of the layers of sound around you, searching for bird song, reptiles rustling in the leaves, the wind in the trees and your footfalls on the ground
  3. Be fully in your body, notice how it feels to move your legs, feel your feet hitting the earth, feel yourself breathing, focusing especially on the exhalations
  4. Alternate between looking up at the sky, to your left, to the front and then to your right and to the ground, in a slow motion cycle
  5. Sing or chant a simple mantra such as Om (pronounced auummm, the universal sound of creation) or Aham Prema (I am divine love). You can let the mantra roll silently through your mind or sing it out loud
  6. Use moments of pause such as stopping to look at the view, or releasing an audible sigh, to snap yourself back into the present moment

You could pick one or two techniques and combine them or just focus on one at a time. Immersing ourselves in the natural world has a powerful healing effect and we get some bonus exercise at the same time.

For more help with cultivating a meditation practice or calming your busy mind, contact me for a guidance and healing session. We can meet online or in-person if you live in the south-west.

Happy walking!

How to be a better energy custodian

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Are you a willing custodian of the energetic frequencies of your home, workplace and body?

This is how I’m the custodian of my home’s energy… Bergamot is wafting from the diffuser, the candle in the entrance is lit, the living room is tidy and there’s a freshly cut orange-becoming-apricot rosebud in a vase on the sideboard. The windows are open just enough to feel a soft breeze and to hear the sporadic calls of many birds…

There is a feeling of peace and softness.

We are also the custodians of our physical and energetic bodies – if the two could actually be separated. In truth, they’re really one body. But first, let’s look at the places we inhabit.

A room people love being in

In every moment of every day, no matter where we work, live or recreate, we have the power to make small, or sometimes significant differences to how these places feel.

Music, silence, fresh air, essential oils, chimes, tinkling water in a fountain or birdsong. Sunlight, artworks, plants, flowers, candles, colour and clear surfaces. The right combinations of these types of elements can make a room feel uplifting to be in. When we get it wrong, the result will be different for each person but the majority of us respond positively to a well decorated and energetically clear space: we feel welcomed, relaxed and happy to be there. It feels like a safe and nurturing sanctuary.

sunlight shining through a tree

Intention is the key

When we enter a home, shop or office where someone has lovingly thought about the energy of the place, it feels different. As soon as we create the intention that we would like a room to feel light, airy and calm, the process begins. We become aware of what must change, what might be moved, removed or added. A potted plant here, a table and lamp over there or perhaps more space, so we’ll remove a chair. Did I just rhyme? Anyway, it’s not about the latest design trends, it’s about how it feels.

We might do a daily cleansing of the room. Not cleaning, cleaning sucks, energy cleansing is much nicer.

A mist of space clearing spray, the burning of sage or incense, ringing around the room with a singing bowl or bell, opening doors and windows to let the air flow through or placing crystals around the space. It all has an impact and we can feel it when we pause and check-in consciously. But how about our own individual soul dwelling, our body?

Being the custodian of our body

The body I’m talking about here isn’t so much the physical one, it’s the energetic one. Our energy field is what we first greet the world with and it has the biggest impact on how we feel and how others feel in our presence.

When it comes to caring for our energy body, it all begins in the mind. What is the general tone of your thoughts? Are you creating a feeling of negativity in your energy field due to your troubling thought patterns? It’s easy to acknowledge this but quite difficult to change.

We become accustomed to negative thoughts because it’s often what we were trained to highlight as children. We absorbed ideas like, “not good enough” or “you got it wrong”. And then in some families, we didn’t hear any clear messages, be they good or bad, so we made our own minds up about how worthy we were of love and good experiences.

As adults, we get to change the soundtrack to suit our energetic desires. I want to feel peace in my heart and love for myself, so over the past fifteen years or so, I’ve trained myself to think thoughts that support those feelings. No more berating myself for minor mistakes, no more looking in the mirror and hating on what I see, no more silent put-downs, no more negative assumptions about my abilities.

We must create a similarly positive outlook about other people and life itself. We can begin with asserting that we exist in a benevolent universe and that all is working in our favour. But actually, just feeling good about ourselves is the one essential key for feeling good about life and creating the high vibrational frequency that we can enjoy and that others can benefit from being around.

Here’s an affirmation from Louise L. Hay that may help:

“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. It is safe for me to enlarge my viewpoint of life. I am far more than my personality – past, present, or future. I now recognise the magnificence of my being. I am willing to learn to love myself.”

So that’s the mental piece and to me, it’s the main focus. However, we can also treat ourselves to some energetic cleansing such as taking a walk in nature or a swim in the ocean, having an energy healing session, meditating, improving our nutrition, breathing deeply, dancing, doing yoga, listening to music or simply by drinking more water. These therapeutic measures are all no-brainers to me these days but I realise they all take awareness and time.

Are you prioritising your role as custodian of your energy? Would you like some help with boosting your sense of power and enthusiasm for this important life task?

I can help with a healing and intuitive counselling session. I’m available for Skype, telephone or in-person treatments each week. Simply click here to read more about my consultations.

Sending you love, Tricia

Our culture wants us to be dissatisfied

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I began my adult life feeling very dissatisfied, and anxious to become someone new. Neither my parents, nor my education had taught me who I was and what I was really good at, and all I could cling onto was the idea that a career, financial stability and maybe even a husband and children could remedy all that uncertainty. I was seeking fulfillment from outside myself and that’s just what our culture wants us all to do.

Why? Because it makes us reliable workers and consumers, and too busy to organise any sort of uprising. We must work and earn in order to buy an identity and that’s what makes the economic wheel turn in every modern country. And since money, with a sprinkle of social status, has become our overarching master, we don’t question it.

So much is changing on our planet: big institutions are being questioned and dismantled, respected public figures are being outed as abusers, and governments are being seen more and more, as failing the average person. The system as we know it, is breaking down.

We’re all, to a large extent, the products of the system we’ve been raised in. Sure, our parents had a big influence on our development but have you ever wondered what’s truly driving your beliefs and aspirations? Because from what I’ve experienced, very few of us have been raised to be independent thinkers and questioners of the status quo. Our culture permeates every choice we make and desire we possess. We’ve kind of been brainwashed.

Our parents and their parents were taught to tow the line, fit in and don’t stand out. Is that what you were taught? Were you also taught that your worth was bound up in material wealth, job status and the success of your offspring? I wasn’t taught any of this overtly but I still somehow managed to absorb it.

boat sailing on the ocean with rocks in foreground.

Escape to the ocean

Seven years ago, my husband and I quit our mainstream, mortgage paying lives, and moved to the country. We have much less income than we used to but we also have virtually no debt, and that’s where we’re different to the majority of Australians under the age of 70. Just recently, we went through the slightly stressful experience of having even less income, and it raised all sorts of questions for us. We’re both self-employed so when things go quiet on the work front, we feel it instantly and must adjust our spending. We normally have savings in the bank but as luck would have it, we’d spent the majority of them on a garage build and a new car, right before the slow down.

So what did we do? We allowed life to flow on around us and trusted that either some fresh inspiration, or new work would flow in, and after a couple of months, it did. The reason we have the luxury to not freak out and overreact to these financial fluctuations, is that firstly, we’re not especially identified with our work roles anymore and secondly, no one can take our home away from us. Furthermore, we’re satisfied with life. We’re no longer searching outside ourselves for validation, recognition or indeed permission, to be who we really are.

Any hey, our lives aren’t perfect. We’re just muddling along, trying to do our best to raise two teenagers, keep ourselves fit and healthy, earn some dollars and keep up with the housework and gardening. We’re just like everyone else, we just have a bit more freedom. Just no money for a holiday this year, that’s all. And that could change. I’m an optimist.

So, how much of your deep rooted dissatisfaction with yourself and with life isn’t really yours? Have you unknowingly been striving for things that don’t really make your heart sing? Because over the last seven years, there’s something I’ve discovered about following your bliss. It’s that when we prioritise the basics like health, relationships and our creative path, life supports us. And even when there’s a wobble here and there, if we stay true to what makes us happy each day like a walk on the beach, a phone call to a friend or a yoga session, things are never as bad as our imaginations might lead us to think.

It’s my passion to help people discover theirs and to help them cultivate more self-confidence and belief in themselves.

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How to live a more spiritual life without fear

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Are you holding back from developing your most powerful gifts and abilities because you’re afraid of them?

I was really frightened of my spirituality and my spiritual abilities. The exact nature of these fears was unclear and they would show up only fleetingly, at the very edge of my awareness, or in my nightmares. I guess I somehow felt that by opening up, I would be taken over by bad spirits. Yes, that was the crux of my terror. That by opening a window into the unknown, a host of evil energies would either pull me away into their world or kill me.

Six years ago I had a very full-on dream where I did battle with some nasty spirits that were trying to take over my home. I saw me and my family sitting on the floor in a circle and as a whooshing darkness surrounded us, I shouted for us to all hold hands and command the spirits to leave.  I felt them pulling us into their spinning vortices as we shouted in unison for goodness to prevail. We won the battle and I woke up feeling shaken and exhausted.

What was this? Are dark forces real? And if so, can they actually take us over or kill us?

I don’t have proper answers to these questions and I don’t care so much anymore because the one thing I’ve discovered, is that by owning not just our spiritual gifts but all of our special abilities more fully, we no longer fall prey to the fear that we’ll lose control of them.

Since those days of fearing my own spiritual awareness, I’ve worked very hard at cultivating my intuitive discernment and at raising my energetic vibration. I believe these two powerful qualities, discernment and purity of energetic frequency are the keys to feeling safe in a more expanded spiritual and creative existence.

small green feather in the sunlight

When we’re strong in our self-belief and fully integrated in our gifts, whatever they may be, we get to choose how and when they’re used and nothing can encroach on that sovereignty.

Let me tell you how:

  • First we must meditate and I mean do it every day
  • We must seek out moments of silence and reflection at other times of the day as well
  • We must begin cutting away the inputs that distress us and lower our vibration, at least until we can handle them with more detachment. Eg. the ‘news’, violent entertainment, harmful relationships, damaging substances…
  • Pretty soon, we don’t need to make any effort to avoid negative content because when we come across it, we feel only compassion for all concerned and it doesn’t send us down the rabbit hole of thinking the whole world’s gone to hell.

These are the actions that will raise your energetic vibration:

  • Being in nature alone and feeling your true feelings
  • Purifying your thoughts with gentle, compassionate corrections and ceasing identifying with negativity and criticism
  • Improving what you put in your body in the way of foods and fluids but mostly letting go of the judgement of food unless you know there is a definite incompatibility with your physiology
  • Paying attention to your breath and making a practice of taking a few longer, deeper breaths every few minutes
  • Moving your body when it tells you it wants to move, resting when you need to and making a dear friend of your physical self because it’s craving your approval and care
  • Ceasing over-responsibility for the spiritual growth of other people. This is just a distraction from you taking full responsibility for your own path. The people who need your help will ask for it.

This all goes towards freeing us up to begin expressing our version of spiritual awareness and creative liberation to the world. It might take the form of writing a novel, becoming an artist, volunteering in the community, creating an environmental action group, becoming a business owner, becoming a healer, trying a new sport, becoming a better listener or being more patient…

This isn’t about beginning to preach to anyone, feeling superior or making any proclamations of heightened divinity. It’s just about stepping with more confidence and freedom into our God-given gifts. Got it?

You may not be in fear of dark spirits invading your consciousness but I’ll bet you’re afraid of something. Otherwise, you’d already be living that dream-life, wouldn’t you?

One of my sacred gifts is helping people to uncover theirs. Click here to book a no-cost fifteen minute intro chat with me to see if you’d like to have a guidance session. Otherwise, click here to book a session now.

How to Stay Grounded in your Spirituality

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I once thought that cultivating my spirituality would solve all my problems. I just had to become all loving, joyful and angelic and then whoosh! Life would be eternally wonderful. Unfortunately it’s not this simple.

There’s certainly a strong appeal to wanting to escape from the world into an airier, more transcendent state. But what if we could expand our spiritual awareness without running away from the physical realities of this earth-bound life?

crystals on beach

The most difficult part is knowing when we’re ungrounded and then realising the value in coming back down to earth. There are certainly times when we intend to leave the density behind as we meditate, pray, sing mantra, use a substance of some sort, or get all carried away with a new spiritual learning. But there are also times when we’re simply going about our daily lives and we realise that we’re completely away with the fairies.

Both of these situations can lead to an ungrounded state of being and if you have anything resembling a regular life such as a family, car, home, job, pet, friends and actually, even just a physical body, both are problematic.

So what do we mean by ‘ungrounded’? It means that our awareness is focused outside of our physicality and our earth connection. We’re lost in thoughts, ideas, worries, creative inspiration, philosophical meanderings or spiritual devotion. We may even be giving a large chunk of our awareness to another person such as a lover, guru, teacher or author, giving our power and sense of self to them.

Being ungrounded creates a scenario where we’re not able to be fully present and healthily engaged with life. Here’s seven nasty side-effects:

  1. We become accident prone, forgetful and vague
  2. We’re not able to communicate effectively or consider other people’s needs properly
  3. We make poor choices around money, caring for our health, substance use and who to trust
  4. Our intuition becomes faulty because mental chatter interferes
  5. We get carried away with newly formed beliefs, business schemes and creative projects and fail to take practical matters into consideration
  6. We distance ourselves from anyone who doesn’t support our new world view
  7. The general feel of life becomes stressful and frustrating and we become disconnected from the people we love

So that’s the downside of being ungrounded. Here’s some suggestions for how we might strike the right balance between inspired and functional:

  • Get into your body with yoga, dancing, walking in nature bare-footed, beating a drum, swimming, sitting on the ground outdoors to meditate and leaning against and hugging trees
  • Pay attention to your breathing. Each time you become aware of getting carried away with your thoughts, place your hand on your stomach and consciously breathe in and out a few times
  • Use moments of eating and drinking to be fully present with what’s going into your mouth and give thanks for what you’re receiving
  • Practice active listening when talking with the people in your life. Look at them, take note of their body language, be curious about how they’re feeling and ask questions to clarify what they’re saying and reflect your understanding of what they’ve said, maybe like this: “So it sounds like your saying….”
  • Cultivate an awareness of having your feet on the earth at all times. Take your attention to your feet multiple times a day and notice how they’re making contact with the ground
  • Start the day with a visualisation of beams of light or roots coming out of the bottom of your feet and travelling down into the earth beneath you. Consciously anchor yourself to the planet and know that you’re always supported by that earth energy

When we’re grounded we’re calm, wise and thoughtful. All of the qualities that I reckon might just bring us a better world. Don’t you agree?

Need some help with this or something else related to your life path and well-being? Contact me for a free 15 minute chat on 0418 698 305 or click here to read more about my services.

Your Envy is a Call to Action

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Don’t just sit there in that state of envy. And don’t push it away, smother it or put yourself down for feeling it. If you want what someone else has and it makes you feel bad, then maybe you need to take a closer look at what you really want in this life.

What dream have you been denying?

What gifts within yourself have you been ignoring?

Have you romanticised someone else’s life because you feel blocked in the creation of your own?

I used to envy artists. I felt I wanted the life of a successful artist because I loved the idea of standing at the easel in a well-lit room that looked out over a beautiful garden, creating lovely paintings, on my own, all day long. But you know, I’m not really an artist, I’m a writer.

bee on blossoms
I’m also a keen nature photographer.

So what’s the problem? Well it felt to me that it was easy for artists to be artists and that if I became a really skilled painter, then I could create that dream life. But you see, it’s much easier for me to write and the truth is, it’s not easy for anyone to live out their creative gifts to their full potential. Everyone struggles with their process as a maker of anything they feel inspired to create. Any creative pursuit requires hard work and often involves going through a whole heap of self-doubt, fear and self-loathing along the way. 

As Elizabeth Gilbert writes in her fabulous book, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear; 

“Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred. What we make matters enormously, and it doesn’t matter at all. We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits. We are terrified, and we are brave. Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege. Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us. Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise—you can make anything. So please calm down now and get back to work, okay? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.” 

The envy I felt was misplaced because I was envying a fantasy. The person who becomes a good painter does so through lots of practice, many failures and many frustrations and in reality, they’re probably not a whole lot happier with their lives than I am. If I want to become a great writer, I must keep working at it. And bam shazam! The envy dissolves and I feel free to be myself.

See how this works?

Who do you envy? Take a good look at what it is you believe they have. Now ask yourself three questions:

  1. Is what you’re imagining they have really true, and is it the whole story?
  2. Is that what you truly want?
  3. Is what they have in any way realistic or attainable for you, in your current reality?

Because on that last point, if you’re living a pretty regular life with a mortgage and kids and bills to pay then how productive is it to envy a famous celebrity? Let’s bring it closer to home. Who among your friends do you envy, and what specifically do they have that you want? Remember, have a good think about whether they really do have what you think they do. Sometimes the appearance of wealth is actually immense debt, great relationships aren’t such a fairy tale behind closed doors and self-confidence is a mask for debilitating anxiety.

Now I’m not suggesting that we want to poke holes in other people’s happiness or doubt their authenticity but do you see what I’m getting at? It’s easier to sigh and wish we had what someone else seems to have, than it is to take the real action required to go out and create our own great lives.

We must simply begin doing what we want to do and stop making excuses about why we can’t. Because believe me, when we get out of our own way with this stuff, the universe rushes in to help.

What do you want to create in order to step free of the envy trap?

One of my special powers is to help people uncover their gifts and to blast away the blocks to their self-confidence and their courage to pursue a more fulfilling existence. Contact me for your free 15 minute chat to discover if you’d like to work with me in a three session process. Click here

What if Being Sensitive was Our Biggest Gift?

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I don’t know about you but I’m really sensitive. And not in the easily offended way, just in the, “your energy is really bugging me” kind of way. I feel a lot and I don’t always get to choose what I feel. Of course I’ve developed strategies over the years to avoid situations and people that cause me stress. Plus I’ve very mindfully created a lifestyle that’s fairly low key and where I look after myself very carefully.

Prior to having this keen awareness, I would get overwhelmed by life and want to hide away. Plus I was highly prone to viruses, muscle tension and allergies. So where’s the upside to being sensitive? It’s certainly hard to see the benefits when we see less sensitive types having more fun and being a lot more reckless, plus having people criticise us for being too sensitive and even boring isn’t fun. But there’s definitely a good side….

We’re the psychics, mystics, healers, artists, counsellors, philosophers, poets, inventors, musicians, yogis, dancers and writers. We’re the environmental activists, the human rights and animal rights campaigners and writers of letters to the editor. We feel more deeply, we see more fully and we care a lot. And sometimes, we actually make a positive difference in the world.

Butterfly cloud in the sky
To be sensitive is to see the pictures in the clouds

To be sensitive is to have empathy and genuine concern for the wellbeing of others and the planet. To be sensitive is to have compassion for those who’ve hurt us and for those who’ve wronged society. To be sensitive is to be able to forgive another for their misdeeds and to forgive ourselves for all the ways we feel we’ve failed. To be sensitive is to appreciate everything we see, such as a newborn baby, a puppy, a wildflower or a tree, with a sense of total and utter awe. To a sensitive person like me, the whole world is fascinating, miraculous and yes, sometimes horrific.

We really shouldn’t watch the news too often. We need to avoid scary and violent films and we need a decent amount of sleep. We benefit from a certain degree of creative stimulation from art, music, books, plays and films but we mustn’t overdo it. Meditation is key. That and plenty of time outdoors in nature. In silence. Of course moving our bodies is essential so activities like walking, swimming, yoga, dance and cycling are marvelous.

Either as children or young adults, many of us have been wounded by life, so we often seek out healing and counselling to help us to learn and grow. Many of us are drawn to career paths where we can help others and we’re usually very good at it. But again, we must carefully guard our energy, lest we overdo the helping and burn out.

It’s good to be sensitive as a parent and we make wonderful caregivers for children, as we adore them and can relate to their innate, less sullied sensitivity. It’s okay for children to be sensitive. It’s harder to be a sensitive adult. It’s not something to be proud of.

Sensitivity is the feminine and we all know what’s been happening to the feminine for too many centuries… And now that the feminine is rising once again, perhaps we can reclaim sensitivity as a super-power. All of the very sensitive children now on the planet need our support. Our planet needs our support.

Our sensitivity isn’t to be grown out of, hidden or crushed. It’s what brings beauty, feeling and appreciation to our lives and to the lives of others. So I say we band together and start highlighting the gifts us ‘sensitives’ are bringing to the planet. You with me?

 

Why do we get so hung up on status?

Posted in Live Your Passions

How much energy do we needlessly devote to building or recouping social status when actually, no one else really cares about what we do?

When my first child was born I suffered a bit of a fall. Not a literal fall, more a drop in how I regarded myself and in how I believed others saw me. It wasn’t a genuine fall from grace, an undoing or a failure. It was what many of us experience when we leave the workforce to be mothers. A loss of status.

I’d established myself in my career as a psychologist and I’d worked long and hard to get there. Next thing, I was folding endless washing, changing nappies and breastfeeding a babe day and night. Hubby toddled off to work early each morning and trudged through the door each night and all it felt I’d done all day was sit, coo, rock and wipe.

And here’s the thing. This is what I’d dreamed of doing for years. I’d always looked forward to having a baby and here I was, living the dream. Only, it wasn’t as fun as I’d thought it would be. Plus, once the first few weeks of celebration and plaudits were over, there wasn’t a lot of good job Trish or, you’re doing brilliantly as a new mum Trish, coming my way. It’s a bit thankless really.

And I want to make a distinction here. This isn’t about fulfillment and appreciation for what I had. No really. It’s simply about status. I missed my status as a professional woman and it did impact on my sense of self-worth. I began questioning whether I was doing a good enough job looking after our baby and I wondered if it was normal to feel a bit isolated and forgotten by society.

And then, not five years later, I threw the renewal form for my registration as a psychologist in Western Australia, in the bin. Quite a lot had changed. I’d taken myself down a new path by studying Touch for Health kinesiology and was launching my new career in the complimentary therapies. It felt very risky to walk away from my professional status as a psych but then, I’d survived five years of full-time ‘home duties’ and in that period, it’d become very clear to me that I was done with conforming to anyone else’s rules on how, when and with whom I should work.

It was actually very liberating. But this is when, by breaking free of one set of restrictions, I placed another yoke around my neck by seeking other ways to reclaim my social status. It was subtle because in truth, I’m fairly down to earth and humble but I definitely put pressure on myself to create a successful business, raise my children impeccably, have a lovely home and look fabulous doing it. It’s a little bit insidious isn’t it? Damn you Country Style Magazine!

Tricia in the trees

I’m ready to let it all go now. Call it maturity, call it middle-aged nonchalance, call it laziness, I don’t care, I simply don’t want to waste anymore energy on worrying about what anyone else thinks of me. Because what I know now is that nobody is thinking anything about me. They’re mostly thinking about themselves. We’re all mostly thinking about ourselves.

The social media world that I happily inhabit every day, is rife with people spruiking their businesses and personal brands in a one-way fashion and not interacting with anyone else. I certainly use these platforms to promote what I do but I also love commenting and applauding other people in their endeavours. That’s what makes it feel like a true community to me. Plus I learn things, enjoy a laugh and gape in wonder at what others share in images and words, every single day.

This status thing is purely and simply a mirage. No one is truly as they seem online or in the media and what a relief it is to be among the millions of little-known people on the planet just going about my day. I guess it’s true that the higher my profile, the more of a positive impact I can have but hey, I’m not going to make that the main game. Being sane, authentic and relaxed are far too important.

Are you ready to relinquish your need for status?

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