If you’ve ever seen a brilliant counsellor, gifted massage therapist, devoted yoga teacher or compassionate family doctor, you’ve been in the presence of an energy healer. That’s right, energy healing is not just the domain of Reiki masters, acupuncturists, kinesiologists or other practitioners with varied certifications such as Quantum Touch, The Bars, Feldenkrais, Bowen Therapy… The list is long. I’ll cut to the chase.
Here’s my humbly proposed definition of energy healing:
Energy healing happens in any interaction where there is the presence of genuine empathy, love, compassion and the intention to be of assistance. This effect is enhanced when there is no attachment to a specific outcome or to a rigid idea of success for all involved.
(Our pets are marvelous energy healers)
When more than nine years ago I began my studies in kinesiology, I was unconvinced that this was the right path for me. I knew that I loved receiving the benefits of kinesiology, but the decision to study it felt more like stepping onto a barely-discernible path of vague possibility rather than striding confidently onto a smooth road of career certainty. But hey, most of my study choices have felt like that.
When I chose psychology for my second university degree, it was only after failing to get into a course in occupational therapy and then exploring options as varied as nutrition, speech pathology, health promotion and social work that I finally and fairly half-heartedly settled for psych. But then, that was more than twenty years ago….anyone else have any idea what they wanted to do when they were 22?
The purpose of this tale is twofold. Firstly, I want to demystify what it is that I do, because amid the constantly evolving range of techniques and processes I use, what I’m essentially tapping into is a calm field – or channel if you like – of healing energy, that we all have access to.
We can all feel it when healing energy is present in an exchange with another person and it feels good to both parties. That’s another secret I want to share: When we access this type of energy, the healing flows both ways. The giver is the receiver and vice versa. Nice huh?
What I’m saying is that when I do my work, I’m recruiting divine assistance and accessing a wellspring of higher intelligence and healing powers beyond the physical realm.
At the same time though, I don’t want to understate the necessity of those of us working in the healing arts, to have studied a modality of some sort and to have honed a set of skills. If it weren’t for my kinesiology training and the years I spent faithfully treating people using these skills, I wouldn’t have developed the powerful intuitive abilities I now use daily in my work and that I follow in every moment of my life.
Which brings me to the second purpose of this article, and that is to describe as best I can, how it feels to live completely from intuition.My style of intuitive awareness is based in a knowingness which shows up as words or phrases that arrive unbidden in my body-mind. I say body-mind because I don’t hear them like a regular thought. I ‘hear’ them or sometimes ‘see’ them in my heart space.
Some people’s intuitive gifts (we all have them), are more visual or feeling-based.
I listen within, I trust what I hear and I’m prepared to change my mind, my plans and my driving route at a moment’s notice when urged from my intuition.
I’ll leave you with a neat little example:
My son came home one day with a completely seized up neck. He was in a lot of pain and was very distressed. I immediately did what I could to help him feel better and then I realised why, that very afternoon I’d felt the urge to phone our local osteopath and book an appointment. She gets completely booked up each week and I’d been able to secure a session the following afternoon. So my son got to receive some amazing help the very next day.
Now you might say, “Phew, that was lucky!”
What I say is, “Phew, thank goodness I listened to my intuition.”
One session with our wonderful osteo and he’s on the road to recovery. We all have these moments don’t we? Just imagine how it would feel if life always flowed like this. Sure, crappy things still happen, but we move through those challenging times all the better when our intuition is firing and being utilised.
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What if the person you thought you were, was just an illusion?…….Just a mask or overlay, and there was a whole different YOU that you needed to get to know?
Let me explain:
Who I thought I was and what I valued about ‘her’ as a person is slowly dissolving before my eyes.
Uh, hold on, that sounds a little melodramatic. What I’m about to describe is more about full integration than dissolution.
It all began quite recently when I received my first ever astrological reading. I’ve always been intensely interested in astrology and numerology but for some reason, it took me until now to get a birth chart done.
And as my learned astrologer Renee said; “Maybe there’s a reason for that”, because what I discovered about my chart, totally destabilised who I thought I was.
First things first, I’m a Virgo with my Moon in Cancer, and Mars and Black Moon in Leo…. but enough of that.
Now, I thought that as a Virgo, I had all the Virgo qualities and nothing else. Turns out it’s not that simple, there’s so much more to discover when you take a proper look.
In fact, despite thinking I was a model Virgo – oh so methodical, organised, health-conscious, discriminating, neat, caring, analytical and wise – when Renee told me my birth chart reflected quite a chaotic set of influences, I was floored!
Then over a period of weeks, it slowing began dawning on me and settling into my core…..
I’ve been battling against my true nature ever since I was a small child and it’s all related to my anxious personality, which when I look deeper, was a coping mechanism I created to hide from my natural gifts of sensitivity, creativity, empathy and intuition.
Many of us with these gifts face challenges around anxiety and depression due to our fears of being discovered, exposed. We come to believe that it’s safer to withdraw, keep our perceptions and wisdom to ourselves and be isolated in our awareness, than it is to speak up or respond to the guidance we are receiving.
This is nobody’s fault, life just seems to do that to many of us, no matter the circumstances, and in my belief system, I feel these fears are based on experiences we’ve been through in other lifetimes. I believe it’s my journey in this lifetime to consciously reclaim these parts of myself and to use them in the service of others.
I’ve always had a feeling of confidence when with I’m with people I know and trust. But as child I would completely shut down and panic if I was taken somewhere new and forced to interact with strangers, even if they were other children. I was chronically shy.
In my childish efforts to handle my nervous disposition I focused on being as good and as nice as I could at school and at home and prioritised creating harmony, approval and peace around myself.
I also got good at doing things well and gained self-esteem from my school and sporting achievements. Oh, and my Mum and Dad loved and supported me as well. That helped 🙂
It was only when I finished high school and stepped nervously out into the wider world, that my confidence and faith in my abilities started to wobble. My twenties were a very uncertain and bumpy time as I discovered that the ‘Tricia’ I had created as a child didn’t readily translate into the ‘take charge’ kind of woman I longed to be.
I was too concerned with keeping others happy and not assertive at all in expressing my needs.
Thank goodness that’s all over!
The fact is we change. We’re constantly changing and the more consciously open to change we are, the faster it happens. What I’ve recently bumped up against is the reality that my perceptions of who I am are out of date.
I’ve been faithfully (more like doggedly) clinging to quite a few traits that are wearing thin from overuse and masking the deeper me.
Let me give you an example; feeling attached to the qualities of being organised and punctual has left me in denial of my natural tendencies to reject routine and repetition and run five minutes late to just about everything.
Anyone else with me here?
I’m ready to own my shadow qualities so I can relax more and just be myself.
It’s in the shadow qualities of selfishness, greed, envy, chronic tardiness, arrogance, nastiness and the gigantic catalogue of fears most of us have, that we find some of our deepest, most rich and fascinating experiences, opportunities for growth and creative ideas.
Don’t you think?
Anyway, I’m putting it out there for you to take a look at your shadow side and allow the darkness to balance the light. I’ll be right there with you.
And it’s all there within each of us anyway, so we might as well acknowledge it fully and embrace the contrasts.
So much more to say here but that’s enough for now.
Much love, Tricia
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Our expectations of upcoming events set up how our reality unfolds…in a very real way.
“Are you looking forward to it?” This is what everyone says when I tell them our family is about to take off on a holiday to France.
And sure, we’re looking forward to being there. Yes, it’s going to be great….do I seem less than excited?
Hmm, I guess I do. But try as I might, I just can’t seem to get myself buzzing and leaping around with glee about our wonderful upcoming holiday.
Am I depressed? No, quite the opposite….I’m really quite happy and at ease in my daily life, so the prospect of flitting off on an amazing journey through France feels great and I’m so grateful we’re able to do it, but it’s not like I’m hanging out for it as an escape from ‘normal’ life.
Because my everyday life is pretty awesome (sorta like a holiday half the time), I’m not putting a stack of expectations on how our trip is going to give me a break from normality or compensate for an unhappy existence.
And that feels like kind of a relief because expectations can be problematic can’t they?
I’ve lived through some serious ups and downs (haven’t we all), and I’m learning more and more, that the less developed – or indeed completely absent – my expectations are, the better I end up enjoying myself.
When in the past I’ve built up a coming event to be the most fabulous, amazing time ever! I’ve often ended up feeling let down by the reality. Anyone else? It might be just my personality type, but I prefer the gently undulating ride of the walking pony to the thrills and speed of the galloping stallion.
Here’s some more context for you:
My husband and I set a goal back in 2012 to do an overseas holiday with our children every couple of years until our oldest has finished high school. So in 2014 I took a crash course in Airbnb and Rail Europe and we took a family holiday to Spain. It was wonderful. We saw lots of amazing places and enjoyed some really memorable moments together as a family.
But I’m sure I don’t have to tell you, it’s not all sunshine and roses when travelling abroad as a family. Ordinary life has a habit of creeping in:
We all came down with colds
We had a few tense moments standing outside restaurants trying to pick a suitable venue for dinner
We got lost trying to drive through the city of Malaga because we had no idea how to use the GPS (more tension)
Sometimes we got tired of being around one another 24/7
One night we had to create a meal from very little because none of the shops were open
Yes I know, it’s a feeble list of slight inconvenience and mild hardship. It was indeed a wonderful holiday with nothing much to complain about and also, it was just life for me, life in a fascinating, foreign-speaking, unfamiliar place.
We loved it and we were thrilled to arrive home when it was over.
So of course I’m looking forward to our holiday (in only two days!). I’m sure it’s going to be mind-expanding, exciting, wonder-filled and delightful. But it’s also going to be tiring, stressful and overwhelming at times.
My expectations are simple and vague…there will be a bed to sleep in, food to eat, people to meet, air to breathe and new sights to see. Beyond that, I don’t want to imagine and set forward desires. I just want to wait and see.
Hey, wish me bon voyage won’t you? And check out my Facebook page here for the photos next week.
How would a younger you feel about the way you live your life right now? Is what’s ‘normal’ for you now the same as it was ten or fifteen years ago?
During a very enlightening astrology reading the other day, I was drawn back in time to when I was 31.
I remembered in a new way what I was like at this age and how different I am now…
At 31 my first child was born and my whole life changed…in a good way but also in a very unexpected and challenging way. You see the birth was nothing like I’d hoped it would be and it threw me the biggest curve ball in my life to date.
My two day labour ended with a C-section and although our beautiful baby son was perfectly healthy and seemed none the worse for wear, it was an intense experience for us both.
Who I was before his arrival, and who I was after, and indeed who I am now almost 14 years later, are vastly different.
What I thought was normal at 31 resembles nothing like what I feel is normal now…
When I was 31, normal felt like this:
Work hard and you will succeed
Deny your feelings, be sensible, be realistic
Set high standards and try to meet them every day
Don’t let anyone down, even if you are unhappy with the status quo
Maintain a persona that is compliant and non-threatening so people like you
Use your powerful mind to analyse, weigh up the pros and cons and make logical decisions
Adhere to society’s idea of success and focus lots of energy on financial security and ‘getting ahead’
And hey, in the grand scheme, my life was actually pretty darn good. I was stressed, dissatisfied, longing for more meaning in my life and not particularly grateful for what I had, but yeah, I was an averagely happy 31 year old white Australian mother.
So you know, time went on, another beautiful child arrived into our family and I slowly began to wake up…
The road was pretty long and yes, it absolutely winds on into the distance to this day. But boy have I changed!
Now that I’m 45, this is my new normal:
My own health and happiness are my highest priorities
My personal standards have relaxed and I’m much more loving and forgiving to myself
I treat work as a gift and know I will succeed because I’m living my passions
I’m more comfortable to assert my point of view and not so scared that people will reject me
I listen to my inner voice, value my feelings and respond to their guidance every day
I live from intuition and although my mind is still a powerful force, it plays second fiddle to my heart.
I value friendship, family, love, creativity, freedom, service, nature and community much more highly than material wealth or career success
We all change, grow and evolve through our lives. That’s a given.
Well, that’s our choice. The sky’s the limit people. There is no ceiling to how much happier, healthier, more free, more creative, more generous, more loving, more open-minded, more forgiving, more abundant… we can become.
It’s all about acceptance and gratitude. Bless it all and you will find your bliss.
Abundance isn’t about what we have, it’s about how we feel about what we have.
There was this lonely lemon sitting in the centre of the fruit bowl. It had been there for weeks and was probably past its prime, maybe no good at all, but I was saving it for when I really needed a lemon.
The day finally came when I thought, “yes, I’m going to use that precious lemon, I’m ready.”
The lemon was over-ripe and squishy. I threw it in the bin.
Believing that all of life is a metaphor for our inner world, I thought:
“Well now, what does this little moment of domestic banality say about me?”
Perhaps nothing, if it was an isolated incident, but it wasn’t.
I’ve always been a saver. I worry that if I use it now, when I genuinely need it, I’ll regret the premature use and have to go without.
I save clothes that seem too good to wear on just an ordinary day, I save food just so I know it’s sitting there, available for us to consume another time, I hold back from sharing affection, compliments, kind thoughts, just in case, you know, there’s a more appropriate moment to offer them just around the corner.
I resist spending money on frivolities because my eye is on the bigger picture. What if that money is required for something we really NEED some other time and I just spent it on a magazine, T.shirt or pretty candle holder?
But lemons bring out something in me that’s unique.
You see, I know something… I know there are many trees in our town right now with lemons hanging from them, ripe for the picking. They’re tucked away in the front and backyards of rarely occupied holiday homes. I have my favourite lemon harvesting targets (I only sneak one or two at a time), and I simply will not buy a lemon from Coles. Supermarket lemons are nothing like freshly picked, real lemons. You know what I mean.
So this issue isn’t about an actual lack of lemon availability, no no, this secret little obsession of mine comes from the awareness that I should have plentiful lemons at my finger tips because in my mind, there is an endless lemon supply all around our neighbourhood.
The clincher is, I just never seem to have enough. It can be tricky swiping lemons from private property even when nobody is there and even if the lemons will only rot on the ground if no-one takes them.
Despite this rationale it does feel a little bit criminal to take them, so I only take one or two every week or so and then I don’t want to use them because they seem so precious and hard-won. Or, perhaps I don’t feel I deserve them at all?
Do you see what I’m getting at and what this little tale might be revealing about my abundance status?
It gets even weirder, my parents have lemon trees in their yard and every so often Mum arrives at our place proffering a big bag of lemons, my heart jumps, I feel blessed and abundant. But do you know what I do? I place them lovingly in a bowl and I admire them.
I still don’t use them will nilly, I save them because you never know when I might need six or seven lemons in one day. Right?
The funny thing about this abundance gig is that, you use it, you get more, you save it and universe responds with a similar energy, something we like to call lack.
Way back in the 1920’s Florence Scovel Shinn wrote about this very topic in her book, The Game of Life and How to Play It.
She described that there is a universal “Law of Use” where what we have should be used or given to another and that when we hoard or save items, we eventually experience loss and lack.
This is very similar to our modern day “Law of Attraction” is it not? Here’s what I think:
If I believe I always have everything I need and go about my day happily using what I have and spending money as I feel I would like to, then I am in flow with universal infinite supply.
How did this statement make you feel? Where did your body contract or tighten?
I feel it in my solar plexus and abdomen.
All we need to do is go to the body area that feel resistance to this truth and love it, reassure it and take it step by step.
Spend a little money when you feel you shouldn’t, pull those ‘special’ ingredients out of the fridge and enjoy them in one meal, buy someone you love a little gift on a whim…get the picture?
I happened across this lovely lemon while walking yesterday and I’m determined to use it right away…anyone for lemon-iced cupcakes?
The year has begun in earnest, get yours off to a wonderful start by having a healing and intuitive guidance session with me. Read about my session work here and give me a call for a pre-booking chat.
I think I’ve finally kicked the habit. For many years I’ve been placing an enormous amount of pressure on myself to begin each new year soaring…achieving, pushing, working and striving to make it all happen and make it happen NOW.
And I can safely say, it never works. All that happens is I end up with lots of neck and shoulder tension and this annoying itchy eye condition that I’d rather not experience.
What is it about January that makes me feel this way?
Being quite fascinated with numerology, I guess it has something to do with the energy of the number 1.
‘One’ energy resonates with achievement, singular focus, new beginnings, creativity and confidence. It reflects the masculine traits of action, ego and individual success. Aha, my urge to get working suddenly makes sense.
The contrast to this ‘1’ energy is that January is summer holiday time for us here in Australia. The necessities of entertaining children, taking a break from routine and actually enjoying our glorious summer weather means not a lot of “real work” gets done.
This is the first year since our children started school that I’ve been able to let go of the need to “chop chop”, be productive, get on with the business of the year and simply embrace the reality that yes, I can do a little bit of work here and there, but primarily, January is a holiday month for our family and I might as well enjoy it.
Staying with the numerology theme, this is a universal year 9 which means it’s the final year in a global nine year cycle. A year 9 is a good time to complete projects, begin and end relationships, start new businesses and jobs, move house and reflect upon how far you’ve come over the past eight years.
Nine energy is also about taking action on humanitarian fronts, looking after and being responsive to others and creating a vision or set of ideals about how we would like our lives to progress as we begin a new cycle later this year. It’s also a great time to cleanse, release and de-clutter in all life areas.
So, now that the new year has begun, how do we create a balance of forward momentum and relaxed living?
Here are my top 5 ways you can begin the new year feeling more relaxed (and still get stuff done):
Take the pressure off – we have a whole 12 months ahead of us, think of January as your launching place and use it to set intentions and goals for the coming year. No need to get it all done this month.
Honour your intuition – I’ve learned to respond to my intuitive urges each day and do what feels good. When I’m aware that there’s something I need to do such as making a phone call, paying a bill or going to the shops, I wait until the timing feels right and I flow with that energy. This approach always serves me better than forcing myself to tackle a job when it’s feeling like a burden or an effort.
Set up good self-care rituals – the start of a year is a wonderful time to release old habits and begin new and ones. I had a massage on Christmas Eve which I really enjoyed so I booked another for this week and I’m really looking forward to it. This year I’m committed to looking after my own well-being even better than I did last year.
Embrace the value of blank space – we all need time away from our achievement-focused selves. Despite having strong desires for my personal life, business, relationships and family for this year, I can drop it all in the moment of diving into the ocean, walking in the bush or reading a novel. Seek out some blank space moments and enjoy them.
Acknowledge how far you’ve come – we’re all completing a nine year cycle of existence this year so create a spirit of celebration around all the progress and positive changes you’ve made in your life over this period. It’s been an amazing time for you, I know it has. Take a breath at the summit and enjoy the view.
May this January deliver a gentle start to the year for you and I. Go softly and listen within for your path forward and it will be SO.
I’m available for appointments this month so check out my session work info here and give me a call to make your booking to bring a sweet, loving and fresh focus to your life.
We think we’re aware right? We think we know ourselves and all our foibles pretty well by now. Yes?
Well I’m sorry to say this, and of course I’m speaking just for myself here 🙂 , but I feel many of us still have a long way to go before we can claim any sort of seniority in the AWARENESS stakes…
Find yourself complaining about certain people in your life?
Still have one or two family members that really know how to push your buttons?
Get so caught up in your reaction to what someone has said or done that you aren’t able to be the compassionate person you are deep down?
Welcome to humanity, I guess…AND also, we are making some progress aren’t we?
Well you know and I know that this month of December right here, right now, is THE month of the year for family get-togethers and family explosions (either silently muffled or loudly proclaimed). Bring it on I say.
What I find in my sessions with the gorgeous humans who come and sit with me each day, is that while we may understand we are always an active participant in any unhappy happenings between ourselves and others, it’s far easier to just want the other person to change.
True growth and freedom begins with the realisation that in some way or another, that person you are cursing and criticizing is actually being of service to you via their behaviour. And it’s often those we love the most and have most meaning to us that have the power to really tick us off.
What they are showing us is usually one of the following things:
An aspect of ourselves that we may benefit from embracing and loving instead of denying and condemning.
An unmet need from long ago that we can most often meet for ourselves rather than demanding they meet it.
A strong fear or belief we are suppressing and projecting onto them as an excuse for not confronting it. For example; “Oh no, we couldn’t possibly go on an overseas holiday, Mary is such a scrooge.”
A demonstration of how we don’t honour and respect ourselves enough with regard to speaking our truth, looking after our own well-being or saying ‘no’ to the things we don’t want to do.
A need of theirs to feel heard, more valued, acknowledged or forgiven by you. Maybe this will smooth the way?
Here’s a little exercise we can all do this holiday season to bring a greater sense of peace and calm to every interaction: Notice how you are feeling, acknowledge it and ask yourself this beautiful question posed by Neale Donald Walsch.
“What would love do now?”
Coming from this perspective can only soothe us and return us to our gentle selves where we are more able to breathe, welcome the realities of others and bless them for their humanness.
Also, make time and space for yourself in the coming weeks to go outdoors alone, take a rest during the day or just doing any small or big thing that makes you feel nurtured and relaxed.
Being in nature is my best therapy, just look at this cute ball of fluffy baby bird I photographed just outside our home this morning. So sweet.
When all is said and done, just be yourself and let others be themselves and love will be the victor.
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You’ve done the work, the inner searching, healing, and forgiving. So are you ready? Ready to really start living as though you are free, courageous and bold?
Read on and I’ll share my 5 signs you are ready to live your truth, for real!
I know how it is. Some days it’s a resounding YES! Then some days I just feel like staying home and retreating from the world completely. That’s normal and to be expected. We can’t always be forging ahead, torches blazing, hearts on fire…
It’s the natural flow of things to have those quiet, introspective days. Days for reflection, catching up on all the changes that have happened within and gathering strength for the next outward expression of who we really are.
We’ve all just been through a big opportunity for shedding old skins and out-moded beliefs. Here’s a magical feather I recently manifested with the assistance of some beautiful red-tailed black cockatoos. I asked them for one and four days later, it materialised in my path.The birds’ message to me was:
“Know your power and live it”.
Have you felt yourself changing?
If you haven’t been letting that over-protective ego of yours hold you back, I’ll bet some of the following shifts have happened and had you dropping your old reactions and ancient stories about lack, victimhood and failure like hot coals from the forge of your soul…
Here are my top five signs you are sooo ready to begin living your truth and your potential for greatness in this here life of yours:
No more drama – quitting creating drama in our lives and relationships as a distraction from facing up to what needs attention within ourselves is a sure sign we are ready to be more honest about what makes us happy. When we have a life full of satisfying activities, loving people and calm, peaceful intentions, we no longer court drama. We’re too busy getting things done and loving our lives.
No more excuses – when we take full responsibility for how we create our lives in every moment from our thoughts, beliefs and choices, we cease making excuses for why we aren’t doing what we know we would like to. Excuse-making prevents us from being healthy in our bodies, facing up to unhappy situations at work and in relationships and tackling the big changes we’d like to see in our lives. When we no longer make excuses for ourselves and others, we can look at what’s really happening and see it for what it is.
No more apologies – finding ourselves constantly apologising to others for our beliefs, short-comings, or behaviour is a sure sign something is seriously out of balance in our lives. When we’re ready to come clean and be our amazing, authentic selves, we get to feel more relaxed with everyone around us. There’s no one on this planet you need to justify yourself to. I give you permission right now (provided your intention is to be loving, respectful and considerate 🙂 ), to stop apologising for who you are.
No more blaming – one of the hallmarks of emotional maturity in a fully grown adult is the awareness that we are all responsible for how we live. Blaming others for what we think we can’t do, have or BE is the ultimate in giving our power away and playing the victim. Oh don’t worry, I’ve done this many times and still play this card on the odd occasion I’m not prepared to own up to my own role in the scenario at hand. Awareness is the key.
No more playing small – when we are ready to really live our true potential as dynamic, creative sparks of the divine, we simply can’t persist with the idea of staying small and unseen. Nope, you’ve got to stick your head above the ramparts in order to shine your light and share your gifts. Just know you are safe. You have many seen and unseen supporters just waiting to share in your jubilation and victory. And the victory doesn’t have to be a leading role in a Hollywood film or a international best-selling novel. No no no, it might simply be joining the local choir, dusting off that keyboard and playing with some creative writing ideas or buying some art supplies and having a dabble.
It’s time. No more delaying or worrying. Just take your first step and feel the magic begin to unfold around you.
My latest painting effort, inspired by the connection I’ve been feeling with the birds in our local bush. Feeling some support might help? You can have a personal session with me. Read more…
I like my body. I can even conjure up a gentle feeling of love for it most days of the week. But you know what? I love it more when I hold my tummy in and when I don’t look too closely at my hips or the backs of my thighs.
I’m really sick of these feelings of judgement and dissatisfaction. It feels nitpicky and petty at my age to be pin-pointing body parts to dislike and wish were different. Haven’t I got more important things to give my energy to?
Well most of the time I do, but then I walk past a window or mirror and accidentally see my reflection and that little voice in my head says; “Oh look how my tummy bulges” or, “Man I’ve got a solid rear” or, “Can I still wear shorts in public?”
You with me?
Just try to imagine right now in this moment, how it would feel to instantly relax and simply know your body is perfect? **(read right to the end to learn about the big benefits of loving your body)
Because as I step into ‘observer’ role and look at myself from the outside, there is absolutely nothing wrong with my body.:
It works well
It fits quite comfortably into all the clothes I own
I feel good most days – that’s my body I’m feeling good in right?
My husband often tells me I look great
So what’s the problem?
I fear the problem is this little thing called social conditioning. I grew up in the era of the super-skinny super-model, the first fashion magazines aimed at teens, a burgeoning weight loss industry and the biggy, AEROBICS. Can we, teens of the eighties blame all of our body image issues on those nasty g-string leotards? Okay, probably not but they were pretty bad right?
I know most of my issues of body dissatisfaction come from my culture rather than my family because food and weight-loss were non-issues for my tall, slim parents. My mother was never on a diet, we always ate hearty meals, had a block of Cadbury’s in the pantry for Friday nights and had takeaway fish and chips every now and then. I’ve always looked after myself fairly well and the largest I’ve ever been is a size 12 (um, that’s about an 8 in the U.S.).
What I’m saying is, my body and I suspect your body, isn’t the issue, the problem is how we feel about them.
We’ve been brainwashed at an impressionable age to believe it’s normal to criticise ourselves and be unhappy about how we look. And it’s all a load of complete nonsense.
All I can recommend is, stop the negative self-talk by monitoring your silent and spoken language about your appearance and cut out the insults. Also, notice how you silently judge others by their appearance and use emotions like envy or disgust to mentally place them in limiting boxes labelled by how they look.
It’s time for a clear out of how we view and rate our own appearance and the appearance of others. How amazing would it be if we were all free of the superficial labeling and assumptions we create about the way we each look?
Here are some truly wonderful benefits you can look forward to manifesting in your life when you make peace with your appearance…
You will fully EMBODY your essence, beauty and divinity and make a deeper connection to your inner wisdom. Our bodies are an extension of our spirit and soul, not separate and not ‘less than’.
You will instinctively begin to look after your body better with the food and exercise it craves
You will feel more confident to be yourself, dress how you like to dress and relax into your own personal style
Your relationships will be richer and more loving because you won’t be holding anything against yourself or others for how you or they look
You will feel free to get on with all the creative and work projects you’ve been procrastinating over because you will be in a state of higher energy, love and respect for yourself.
Told you it was worth reading right to the end.
If you’d like some personal help from me with any of this please feel free to read more here about how I work with people individually or phone me on 0418 698 305 for a chat.