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Seven Steps to Facing Fear and Getting on Your Path

Posted in Live Your Passions

We all let fear hold us back from time to time. 

If it was easy, everyone would be doing it right?

It’s true though.

The roles we’re here to fulfill are usually hard won.  And hey, if you’ve always found life easy (that includes nobody I know), then you’re probably bored with where you’re at and not on your true path. Yes?

Your true path is a job or creative vocation that challenges you, pushes you right to the edge of your comfort and then over it and makes you feel excited and energised when you imagine doing it.

So, do we play it safe and avoid the bigger game, or do we risk it all for love? You know. love for yourself and the entire planet – no big deal.

And let me tell you, this is quite a tough decision – because from what I’ve experienced and helped many clients with – life doesn’t really allow us to sit in fear as the lesser of two evils.

Oh no, if you’re thinking you can just keep it low key – cower to the fears and let them call the shots – then I’m sorry, I don’t think you’ll find it that simple.

Oh and by the way – If you’re over 40 and still not on your path, then pay close attention…

                    Fly free like a bird

Why?

Well because life will eventually find other ways to get you moving….

You may be criticised by family, rejected and abandoned by your friends or partner, bullied by workmates or made redundant from your job.

You may also feel untold discomfort in the form of envy, dissatisfaction, frustration, compulsive complaining, judgement of others and self-criticism.

Not to mention the de-railing of your health and peace of mind by the behaviours you adopted to avoid getting on your path such as addictions to alcohol, other drugs, food, shopping, television, social media…the list goes on.

Phew!  It all sounds exhausting right?

Well yes, because you’re not here to play it small and deny your gifts.

Once you get moving in the direction of your gifts and passions though, that’s where the magic happens and things slowly begin to fall into place. You get a sparkle back in your eye and a spring in your step.

Although I’m sorry to say, the nudges and prods won’t necessarily end there.  Once you begin the work of getting on your path, you’ll most likely experience a whole lot of resistance emerge from within you and sometimes from outside of you.

Don’t worry though, this is just your ego trying to protect you from changing too fast.  The ego believes we need to stay the same in order to stay safe.

Where I see many clients delay their progress is right here, when the first round of resistance shows up.  It’s very understandable.  Some very intense emotions can come to the surface and a big steaming pile of FEAR is at the front of the assault.

Sometimes we need a few run ups before we sail over the ditch between us and our brighter future. That’s okay, there’s no hurry.

Here’s what I suggest:

  1. Start something – read a book, do a short course, talk about your dreams and aspirations with someone you trust. Just make a small start.
  2. Notice the feelings as they emerge and allow yourself to feel them. Once felt, they naturally dissipate.
  3. Tell yourself it’s natural to experience anxiety or dread, or heart-stopping fear when you’re stretching out of your comfort zone.
  4. Find your tribe of people who love the stuff that you love and who speak your language, seek out local groups, Facebook groups, workshops and classes.
  5. Allow yourself to stumble, trip or completely fall. Failure is a wonderful way to build resilience and lighten everything up.
  6. Realise that even though it’s hard, it’s better to be living full out than hiding from your truth and walking through life at half-pace with a fake smile plastered on.
  7. Keep on going – this is a wonderful adventure, it’s not supposed to be straightforward, easy or fast. Keep following your heart to the activities that make you feel more YOU.

Book a session with me and I’ll help you get on track. Especially if you don’t even know what you want to do, one of my super-powers is career guidance. Just click here

Start Living Your Passions and Watch Freedom Blossom

Posted in Live Your Passions, and Uncategorized

How important is it for you to have a clear plan and sense of purpose each day?

Do you seek structure, routine and responsibility to help you to feel safe, supported and worthwhile?

Has it occurred to you though, that the very structures, rules and conventions of a ‘normal life’, might actually be holding you back from real achievement and fulfillment?

Let’s peel back a layer or two and have a close look at what we create in order to feel safe.

I used to think my value as a person was completely enveloped in what I did, created and achieved.  Who would I be if not for my qualifications, job title, relationship with another or earning capacity?

Who indeed?

My working life before I had children was a complex web of illusion and projection with regard to who I thought it made me.  And then becoming a mother I was gifted a new role I could cling to like a flimsy raft on the ocean of uncertainty that is real life.

But when we peel away all the roles and concepts of who we are that are bound up in serving others, keeping others happy or protecting our own fragile ego, who are we?

Scary isn’t it?

The older I get, the less I am distinctly this ‘me’ I once thought I was.  It’s at once a return to who we were as little children and also a complete release from all that we have evolved into from the moment we were conceived in flesh and blood.

It’s a coming home to the soul’s desires.

When we connect with simple pleasure to what we most love doing and we surrender to our own inner song and rhythm, we melt into this new type of existence that demands less of us and more of us at the same time.

The demands of maintaining false-feeling beliefs, protective facades and self-deluding roles are lessened.

The demands of being truthful, authentic, patient, generous and loving to ourselves and ALL others are increased.

So please…let me lay it on the table nice and simply.

Spend more time every day doing what you love and sooner or later, you will feel that ALL you are doing every day is what you love.

So hold on people, I’m not suggesting you quit your job, go on strike from household or family responsibilities or drop everything and disappear into the wilderness….

What I AM saying is that when you spend even 30 minutes each day engaged in something that is your passion and absolute pleasure to do, you make yourself happier and then all the other stuff that needs to be taken care of doesn’t seem like such a burden anymore.

This is where I began eight years ago and my evidence for how this simple-sounding act can change your life is the blessed life I have now where I get to choose my daily activities and spend more and more time doing what I love.

Having no set plans for a day ahead used to make me feel anxious and unimportant, now it feels like a precious gift of freedom and creative possibility.

My sweet husband bought me a fancy new camera for my birthday last week and yesterday, I followed my intuition and devoted an hour in the middle of the day to wandering around a local patch of forest looking for native orchids to photograph.  There weren’t many orchids out yet, but it felt really magical to just be on my own in the bush taking it all in and enjoying the silence of my mind.  This for me, is bliss.

Donkey orchids
Donkey orchids

I realise that for some of you, even knowing what your passions are feels like a puzzle because you’ve been separated from that deeper experience of yourself for quite a while.  It’s okay, help is here:

Four Steps to Finding Your Passions

  1. Meditate each day to get in touch with your deeper self.
  2. Spend some time journaling or talking to someone close to you about what you loved doing as a child.
  3. Ask the universe for guidance and begin noticing what activities you feel most drawn to you that gradually begin presenting themselves via emails, suggestions from friends, invitations and community newspapers and notice boards.
  4. Try something new or pick up an old hobby but most of all be open to new experiences and approach them all with fun and lightness in your heart.

Alternatively, make a booking with me and I’ll provide you with my intuitive guidance to assist you in gaining true clarity about your natural gifts and talents.  Click here for more information...

Love whatever you are doing and it will love you back. Blessings, Tricia

Just Begin…

Posted in Live Your Passions, and Self-Care and Self-Healing

Springtime wisteria at my parent-in-law’s house

Ooh, I love this time of the year.  The sun is coming up earlier and shining stronger,  I seem to need at least one hour less sleep each night than I do during the winter months, I am waking naturally at around 6.00 and feeling ready to get up at 6.30 (it takes me a while to get motoring).

And…for the first time in my fifteen years of being a yoga devotee I am doing a bit of yoga when I first wake up (most days). This has been a goal of mine – well, maybe a vague desire – for ages and ages but I never seem to feel like doing yoga first thing in the morning.

I now realise why this has never happened for me until now.  My mind had created all these over-the-top expectations of what “Tricia’s home yoga practice” should look and feel like.  I was missing the whole point of yoga.  For me, yoga is gentle, meditative and a part of my spiritual life.  I wonder how I allowed my mind to turn it into something hard, demanding and unpleasant? Oh the wondrous ways we get in the way of our own health and happiness!

What I have discovered is that if I just go and roll out my yoga mat and go into a gentle pose of the child with my arms outstretched in front, the next move just seems to flow from there.  It’s quite intuitive – being half asleep helps with this – I just move from one pose to another smoothly and slowly.  I may spend ten minutes or thirty minutes doing this, the time doesn’t matter.  What matters is that I enjoy this time and I start the day feeling more relaxed in my body and calm in my mind.

The key is, just make a start.  Release expectations, goals and pressure to perform.  Just begin….see where it leads.

This applies to anything we have an inkling we might like to start doing more of, or begin learning for the first time in our lives.  BEGIN.

Nothing is truly difficult when we have a passion for it.  Sure, it takes time to become an accomplished musician, painter, writer, dancer, athlete, or cook.  When it’s enjoyable, the time slips away effortlessly.  Be child-like in your innocent endeavour.

Lovely weekend to all,

Tricia

Shine like a Little Child

Posted in Live From Intuition, and Live Your Passions

April at four, all dressed up to wave to the crowds in the Fremantle Festival Parade

It’s been raining here in Dunsborough today.  Our first proper rainy day since moving to the south west.  The Easter weekend is almost upon us and that also means the end of term one for the kids.

This afternoon April’s class held a little talent show with the kids coming up with their own acts.  Our natural performer daughter featured in four items including a solo dance and a solo song.  She loves the experience of putting on a show and although was a little nervous about singing solo in front of a crowd for the first time, she stood up, took a deep breath and plunged in.

I wish for her that she retains this self-confidence and joy in doing what she loves as she grows older.

Do you remember having that sort of confidence in doing what you loved as a child?

I used to love singing and dancing on my own or with a girlfriend in our lounge room when I was April’s age but I would have sooner died than performed “Dancing Queen” in front of an actual audience!

I continued to enjoy dancing and music all through my school years but as a young teenager became painfully aware that if I let my light shine too brightly, I would attract the attention of the nasty girls at school and that I would be bullied.  So, I still performed with my friends when we had the opportunity but I learned to tone things down, to play it safe, not stand out too much.

This must be a really big life lesson for me because I feel I am still learning it through April.  I love her exuberance and spirit and I’m proud of how confident she is and yet at times I also internally cringe just a little when she stands up the straightest and sings the loudest.  My heightened sensitivity to what other people might be thinking kicks in super-strong and I worry that the other girls won’t like her if she is always the “star” of the show.

What I realised watching her today is that all the kids just accept her as she is.  Her Dad and I keep her grounded by not making too big a deal of it and subtly mentioning that everyone is good at different things.

Her teacher was generous in letting her perform in so many different acts. Her words when I thanked her were:  “Well, it was up to the kids, it was her chance to shine”.

It seems to me that for many of us adults, life has dulled our shine and has even caused us to forget what our gifts and talents are.

I feel that finding our way back to our child-like, joyous selves through remembering what we love to do and doing it brings all the meaning and pleasure back into our lives.  Sonia Choquette teaches this in her work.

I love to dance, sing, draw, bake and write so that’s what I make sure I do, often and with joy in my heart.

What have you left behind in childhood that you used to love?

Stomp in a puddle today!

Love to you all,

Tricia