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The Truth About Meditation – Sometimes it hurts

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing, and Uncategorized

Want to know why you keep sabotaging your daily meditation practice with distractions and excuses?

I don’t know how to tell you this, but one of the cold hard truths of meditation is that sometimes it really sucks. I mean, it’s mostly a self-nurturing and emotion-soothing activity.  Mostly.

It’s just that one of the most beneficial effects can also be one of the most upsetting and destabilising for those of us who have a past and have emotions.  Oh, that’s you? Yeah, it’s me too.

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Put simply, there’s just no running away from your true feelings about anything when you’re a regular meditator.

And when life is going off the rails and it feels easier to just abandon your meditation practice ’cause you’re “too stressed”, well I hate to sound like your mother, but that’s when you need MORE meditation, not less my dear.

Just because it sometimes makes you feel worse rather than better, doesn’t mean it’s not doing you good.  I sound like a health tonic peddler from yesteryear; “drink it all down now girlie.”

If you’re anything like me, when the stuff hits the fan it gets swallowed down so there’s only the faintest taste left in your mouth. And yet, you think you’re dealing with it and subsequently, you think you’re feeling okay.

Just last month I had to process some sad family news that left me reeling in ways I found quite surprising given my rigorous self-care regime and pretty healthy emotional state.  It was a few days after I was told the news that I woke up feeling very flat and sad.  I knew I had to take some time out to meditate and sit with the feelings that were weighing me down.

So I sat for about 20 minutes.  I later realised that this was nowhere near long enough because upon emerging from the room after my meditation, my husband asked me a simple question and then he responded with mild disappointment to my response and, well, I completely lost it.

There was some screaming and crying.  It didn’t last for long but it was pretty scary and exhausting for us both.

I’m sharing this with you for a couple of reasons.  Firstly to reassure you that I’m just like anyone else when placed under stress (perhaps even more sensitive than the average peep). Secondly to declare that emotional outbursts are sometimes necessary and healthy as a marvelous release of pent up energy.

And also, to acknowledge that had I been a little more in touch with the depth of feeling that was there that day, I would have sat in meditation for much longer and probably accessed the tears that needed to be shed in a much more gentle way.

Which way is better?

As my 12 year old daughter often says, “Meh? (shoulder shrug).”

Who knows.  Nothing we experience is actually wrong or bad, it’s just that with the benefit of hindsight we can reflect on what happened and then make a different choice next time around.

What I want to express here though is that although meditation taps into our deeper emotions which can make us feel less than calm and Zen-like, avoiding feeling them is not a great alternative.

What we’re dealing with here is a genuine human need to slow it all down and be REAL.

Our culture leads us to believe that distraction is the answer to everything that upsets us:

  • Eat something
  • Buy something
  • Watch something
  • Be outraged
  • Be critical of others
  • Talk non-stop
  • Overwork
  • Plan another holiday….

Sound familiar?

These distractions don’t serve us really though do they? They neither heal us, resolve our problems nor make us happy.

I don’t need to outline our mental or physical health stats do I?

They just mask what’s really missing and that for me is; inner peace, trust in a higher power and the wholeness inherent in every moment.  Plus the reality that we humans have emotions like fear, sadness, grief and anger.

How come we can feel it for a television show character but not for ourselves?

Something to ponder <3

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Promote Your Heart to CEO and Give Your Mind a Rest

Posted in Live From Intuition

I’ve got a pretty powerful mind. Heck, I spent years developing it and relying on it to guide me through life. For roughly the first 35 years of my life, my mind was in charge and my heart was relegated to the back seat.

I’d reached my mid-thirties – married, tick, children, tick, respectable profession, tick, mortgage in a nice suburb, tick. But ‘happy and fulfilled’ had gone missing from my life success checklist and I slowly began to realise, the path I was on wasn’t going to deliver the truly great life I was yearning for.

I’d been reading about this other way of life for oh about 15 years, but my clever mind still had me convinced I could think and problem solve my way through any challenge or dilemma.

But it wasn’t working, I’d become a victim to constant over-analysis, circular thinking and that head-achingly troublesome habit, worrying. And it wasn’t helping me move forward.

So what was ‘this other way of life’?

It involved learning to trust life despite the obstacles in plain view, the barriers created from the mind and the messages broadcasted from mainstream society.

It meant surrendering to the idea of there being a bigger picture in place for us all. That we are being looked after, guided and constantly and supported by a divine intelligence or power greater than ourselves.

And the big news flash I took quite some to accept:

Divine intelligence doesn’t connect with us through the mind, it communicates with us via the heart.

Now, I know many of you will want to conduct a thorough mental analysis of what ‘the heart’ actually means, so I’ll indulge you for a moment…

It’s that central place of peace within our being, somewhere physically between the heart and navel, a little back towards the spine. For me it feels like an open space in the region of my solar plexus and slightly up and back. Does that help at all?

This is where my intuitive or heart wisdom resides and it’s where I direct my awareness whenever
I find myself in over-thinking or worry mode. I also consciously take myself here when I’m working with clients, meditating, shopping, socialising, walking, doing yoga, cooking, eating… um pretty much all the time then.

Okay, so you get good at dwelling in the heart by meditating and getting comfortable with accessing this place of wisdom as much as possible in daily life. Check out my article, How To Access Your Intuition – Three Steps for help with this.

What I want to share with you here is how to tell the difference between the information that comes to you from the mind and that which is coming from your heart so you can begin living from this powerful place of discernment and deeper truth.

Here are some messages you will only receive from the mind, never the heart:

  • I must work harder
  • I’m not good enough
  • I hate that person
  • It’s all their fault
  • They are wrong and need to change
  • Life is hard/boring/unfair/lonely/scary

And so many more, but I think you get the gist. Our minds, slash egos are super skilled at running scare campaigns about how tough life is, how other people are to blame for our unhappiness and how much easier it would be maintain the status quo rather than push ourselves outside our comfort zone to improve our lives.

Now this doesn’t mean our hearts will always feed us strawberries and lollipops and it also doesn’t mean our minds don’t have an important role to play but be aware, your mind want you to stay the same, your heart wants you to grow.

The mind is great for organisation, planning, mathematics, keeping score, logical reasoning and scientific assessment and comparison.

However the mind should always play second fiddle because the heart is the master of everything else:

  • Accurate discernment and wise choices encompassing all available information
  • Creative and emotional expression
  • Our gut instinct to stay physically safe
  • Our ability connect with others authentically and feel love
  • The ability to take calculated risks and feel completely safe
  • Our connection to divinity, our unseen supporters and all other beings on our planet such as plants and animals and even rocks…

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Sound good? All I can tell you is that since my heart’s been running the show, things have improved significantly and I’ve seen it happen for others too.

It may feel like a big shift at the start but really, the mind never actually wanted to be in charge, we just pushed it there and downgraded the power of the heart. We are designed to function from our centre, not our head, so how about you give it a try?

For personal sessions with me, I invite you to check out your options here . Otherwise, enjoy your day.

Much love, Tricia

How To Access Your Intuition – Three Steps

Posted in Live From Intuition

Wouldn’t it be cool to know and I mean know with strong certainty, precisely what your body needs in any given moment?

What to eat and drink.

Whether to be active or take some rest.

What vitamin or mineral supplement to buy, how much to take and how often.

I can access this information daily and I use it with pleasure to optimise my health and well-being.

I respond without question to sometimes unusual urges like; having some peanut butter on celery, drinking a cup of licorice, fennel and peppermint tea or dropping my long-held habit of eating as soon as I wake and drinking a green tea or water with lemon instead.

And yes, I still eat cake, chocolate and drink a glass of wine now and again. These indulgences are actually good for us in small doses.

So how do I know what my body needs to keep it functioning well?

It’s a skill we all naturally posses, it’s just that sometimes we get confused and fail to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy cravings and between unconscious habit and conscious choice. Here’s what I’d recommend:

Three Steps to Access Your Intuition

Step One – Meditate

Learn how to be still and go within because this is where you will access your quiet inner voice and become familiar with the language it uses.

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I know it’s hard to create a meditation practice, heck, it took me ten years to begin mine.

All I can say is, it’s not that hard once you realise that this one action will transform your life in many ways. Do it first thing in the morning for just ten minutes to start with. Set the intention to simply sit still and pay attention to your breath and the sounds you can hear around you.

Like any other activity worth learning, practice might not make perfect, but it will make you better.  In just one week of daily meditation you’ll notice some amazing improvements in your focus and motivation.

Step Two – Determine your personal intuitive signals

We each have our own personal intuitive style.  My mode of guidance is physical sensation and what I call a ‘knowing’.  I just suddenly know what I need and then I check in with my body to confirm the hunch.

The way I check in is to ask a clear and direct question like; “Would green tea be beneficial now?” I then wait for a buzz of energy to rise upwards in the region between my navel and heart.  If the answer is ‘yes’, the energy vibrates upwards and if the answer is ‘no’ I feel energy draining away or simply an absence of any sensation.

You might hear or see a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ in your mind or heart, see an image of the optimal choice in your mind’s eye or receive any number of stimuli particular to your own signature style.

After a while, your daily meditation will enable you to instantly go within and access your inner voice whether you’re standing before an open fridge in your kitchen or perusing the shelves in your local supermarket.

I now walk through the aisles of my local store, tuning into the produce and gauging whether it’s good to buy or not.  Those perfect looking strawberries often get a ‘no’ from my intuition, and I select the perfect butternut pumpkin simply by asking my guidance to locate it among the other identical looking specimens.  It works!

Step Three – Practice, practice, practice and TRUST

My intuitive abilities are now in their ninth year of development and I wouldn’t have the level of confidence I now have in them if not for all those years of practice and a devotion to building my own trust in their accuracy.

It all began for me as a student of kinesiology in 2007 when I learned how to muscle test myself and others to gain information about muscle and meridian function, emotional states and nutritional requirements. It only took me a couple of years of practicing kinesiology with people to realise there was another layer of innate wisdom bubbling just beneath the surface and ironically enough, being masked by my reliance on muscle testing.

Once I accessed my own unique intuitive style and then spent five or six years honing it and learning to trust in it, my life improved in so many ways and began to flow with so much more grace and ease.

It needn’t take you this long to develop your intuition.

Allow me to assist you in just three sessions to connect with your own intuitive wisdom and begin using it on a daily basis.  Read more about my session work here and telephone me for a free 30 minute pre-session chat.

Much love, Tricia

 

 

 

 

A New Moon Blessing – Guided Audio

Posted in Trust The Universe

Our words are very powerful.

We create our lives from our word-form thoughts, our written word and our spoken word.

When we utter a blessing for ourselves and others it holds great power and can influence our lives in magical ways.

At every new moon we are given extra support and encouragement from the universe to start again, set some fresh goals and create our very own new beginning.

The silver princess flower essence helps us with life purpose and direction.
The silver princess flower essence helps us with life purpose and direction.

This morning I woke up, sat up on my bed and meditated and then grabbed my journal and wrote out a new moon blessing in honour of this new moon day.

A New Moon Blessing

Dear universe of love and benevolence

Bless my body and bring me bountiful health

Bless my loved ones and bring me harmonious relationships

Bless my home and make it safe, welcoming and beautiful

Bless my work and bring me fulfillment and prosperity

Bless my creative endeavours and help them flow with ease and grace

Bless my daily travels and pave the path I tread with peaceful intentions

Bless all beings and help them see their divinity and perfection

May I be peaceful and joyful

May I be humble and filled with gratitude

May I be of service to others

May I emanate love in all I do

Bless us all dear universe at this new moon

Thank you

Thank you

Thank you

And so it is

I wanted to share it with you in an audio format so here it is dear ones, have a listen. Enjoy this new moon time and every new moon into your sparkling future. Much love, Tricia

A New Moon Blessing – Guided Audio (Click to listen now)

 

 

 

 

 

Meditation Saved My Sanity When I Was a New Mum

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

How good are you at making your own health and happiness your highest priority?

I’ve always been fairly focused on looking after my own health and emotional well-being, it’s just something I managed to hone as a young woman. I worked out quite early in my adult life that I’m quite sensitive to stress and that my health goes downhill fast in response to bodily neglect or mistreatment.

I have never been one of those people who can party all night and then with only a glimpse at the pillow, proceed with reasonable normality through the following day.  Okay, I’ll come clean…I’ve only ever had one hangover in my life.  Boring?  Perhaps, but the truth is, I just didn’t like the way it felt and resolved to never do it again.

Simple for me I know but hey, I’m not much of a party animal or risk taker.  I like home, routine, comfort, safety and also… (might as well come completely clean with you), not wasting my money, nor being in vast clouds of cigarette smoke – it was the early nineties and people still smoked in pubs and clubs.

Anyway, fast forward to me in my early thirties and having my first child…

I thought my commitment to good self-care was right on track.  Then I became a mother.  Early motherhood for me was very rewarding, exhausting and emotionally….shall we say, demanding, draining?

Back then I thought getting out for a walk once or twice a week on my own, or getting a haircut, or hold the front page, doing the grocery shop without baby in tow, were living it up.  He was my world and I loved him intensely but I wasn’t so good at spending much time looking after myself or letting others do things for me. And to be honest, my marriage suffered some neglect too.

Not much changed when our daughter came along. In fact with a newborn and a toddler, I found even more to do in my mummy role and found it even easier to push away thoughts about what I wanted and needed for my own happiness and well-being.

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I certainly loved being a mother and felt so grateful for having two gorgeous healthy children but I wasn’t really enjoying my life.  I felt stressed every day, put silly amounts of pressure on myself to keep a perfect home and have perfectly healthy and well-behaved kids, and didn’t really take a healthy amount of time out just for myself.

Things began changing for me a year or so later when my children were both toddlers and bless them, still sleeping in the afternoons. I listened to my inner wisdom and calling on my memories of a Buddhist meditation course I’d done with my mum as a 25 year-old, I began meditating each day for 30 minutes while the children slept.

Hey, it only took me a decade to implement what I’d learned, not too bad.

Here’s what daily meditation gave me:

  • A rest from my over-active mind
  • Connection to my inner wisdom
  • An access point to my own source of peace and calm
  • Renewed faith in my own goodness and adequacy
  • Increased patience with my children
  • Inspiration and guidance regarding who I was at a deeper level and what my true passions were
  • Much needed perspective on my roles of mother and wife in relation to who I am as an individual…

There’s so much more I could tell you and that was just what I noticed in those first few weeks of beginning my daily practice.

If you’d like some help with getting started in your own meditation practice, you might benefit from a session (or three) with me. Click here to learn more or go to my Free audio meditation page and listen to one of my guided processes.

Much love and lightness to you all,

Tricia

Winter Solstice Healing – A 12 Minute Meditation

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

If there was ever a perfect time to take a break and quiet things down in our lives, then this is it.  We’re days away from our longest night here in the southern hemisphere.

Can you feel yourself wanting to slow down and hibernate this week?  Many of us get colds and flu around this time of year and I don’t think it’s just to do with the colder weather.  Our bodies crave rest and rejuvenation at this mid-point of the year and just like the animals do, we could benefit from flowing with what feels natural for each of us.

How often do we do that?

How easy is it to gracefully respond to what our body tells us and flow with what feels good and nurturing?

Not so easy is it.  We’ve all been programmed to behave as though each day is identical to the next.  Get up with the alarm clock, eat breakfast, go to work, do household chores, deliver and pick up children etc, etc.

In reality, we’re all subject to the ebb and flow of energy levels, physical and emotional urges and bodily needs that come with all the natural cycles of life.  Here’s just a few:

  • The moon phases
  • The seasons
  • The ocean tides
  • For women, our menstrual cycle
  • Our sleep cycle which is guided mostly by the night and day cycle
  • The weekly, monthly and annual calendar cycle
  • The hours and minutes governed by clock hands moving in their cycle

Then there’s also the wider cosmic cycles of planetary orbits, comet movement and so much astronomical complexity it blows my tiny mind.

We’re all influenced in small and also significant ways by all of this and it’s no wonder to me that when the mind and emotions give us the signal to slow down and rest and we don’t listen, that the body eventually caves in and succumbs to a virus of some sort.  Not that being sick is a failure, it’s just a nice clear sign that we need to stop.

This week I recorded a gentle little meditation to celebrate the solstice and to honour the need for us all to rest and fully relax now and again.  Grab a blanket, settle into a comfy chair and have a listen….

Solstice blessings to you all, Tricia

 

 

 

Finding it Hard to Meditate? Listen to This…

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

Many of you think you can’t meditate don’t you?  Tried it…too hard…not worth the trouble, right?

That monkey mind just won’t shut up. It’s a constant stream of unpleasant thoughts and feelings, memories and worries amid the shopping lists, reminder to self to phone Mum, and that awful realization you forgot a friend’s birthday last week.

I know, I feel your pain because this happens to me when I meditate too.  Yes, I’ve been a daily (well almost), meditator for oh about nine years now and I too get distracted by my mind.

So do you know what I did to help myself become better at meditating?  I started a women’s meditation circle and began channeling guided meditations for the group within a few months. Fun huh?

That was two years ago and the good news is that running a weekly session with other people has certainly improved the quality of my daily meditations and I love doing it. The not so good new though is some days I still don’t find it easy to settle the body and calm the mind and some (very occasional) days, I don’t make the time to do it at all.

Hey, I’m only human and life has a funny habit of shifting and changing beneath our feet, right?

So, short article today because I want you to take fifteen minutes for yourself right now and listen to this easy and simplified guided meditation I recorded today.

Allow me to gently guide you within your heart space and feel those beautiful glimpses, those soft little moments of stillness and peace.  I guarantee you’ll feel better for doing it.

Much love, Tricia

Thanks so  much for taking the time to listen to this little audio.  Feel free to listen again and share with your friends and if you’d like to meet with me in person or over the telephone for a coaching session, just take a look at this page and contact me for a conversation before you make your appointment.

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Be a Success Without Sacrificing Your Joy

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

I’m feeling jubilant, relieved and successful right now and it’s all because I cleaned our bathrooms this afternoon. It’s been one of those strange weeks where I’ve been placing a lot of extra pressure on myself and finding the time to do those pesky household tasks has been tricky.

You see it all started last weekend when I headed up to the big smoke to attend a two day course on writing great quality media releases to get some free publicity in the mainstream media for my coaching business.

I’m a keen student because I love learning and I love demonstrating my new found knowledge and gaining recognition from my teachers.  Square huh?

Trouble is, in this grown up world, far, far away from the childhood classroom, it’s not so simple to take what we’ve learned, get ten out of ten on the pencil and paper test and declare ourselves a success.

Plus, as a result of the unique blend of nature and nurture in which I was raised, I received (or interpreted all by my lonesome), some pretty clear messages that led me to believe that anything worth doing must involve quite a lot of:

  • Striving
  • Struggle
  • Intelligence
  • Hard work
  • Luck
  • and, the biggie, Sacrifice

The good stuff I picked up though included persistence, focus, attention to detail, pride in a job well done and pleasure in seeing the final results.

This love and mastery of learning has carried me faithfully through two university degrees, a post-grad. diploma and countless short courses in subjects as diverse as flower essences, painting, creative writing and teaching.

What I noticed this week after completing my media release course was that while I felt pumped with confidence, enthusiasm and motivation to succeed, I also placed a lot of pressure on myself to get the results I desired, and fast, instantly if possible.

So now that it’s five days later and I’m yet to see my article published or even speak to a journalist, I’m actually feeling fine and a lot more relaxed about the pace of my progress because I’ve actually done okay amid a week full of the regular work, family and personal demands.

And I’ve clung with clear determination and focus to the self-care rituals I do daily to keep myself, happy, healthy and in balance.  I’ve walked, meditated, danced, had tea catch-ups with three girlfriends and gone to my weekly yoga class (hence, the bathrooms went to the bottom of the ‘to do’ list).

I just have to get outside and enjoy what's on my doorstep.
I just have to get outside and enjoy what’s on my doorstep.

Years ago, this wouldn’t have been the case. I would have been head down, tail up, working and pushing my way to success regardless of the cost to my relationships, sanity or well-being.  I most likely would have been terrible company for my family and may have ended up coming down with a cold.

And, here’s the reality check I’ve discovered that supports my new approach:

The old me wasted a lot of time responding to my busy mind and heading off down dead end routes instead of understanding that all happens for a reason and a season.  While we must make an effort and take action, the timing of our success is not really determined by our steadfast focus or our stress-laden need for it to be completed…NOW if possible.

Nope, not at all.  There’s more to it and we can harness the power of universal support and our own divine inspiration all the better when we’re in an attitude of co-creation rather than solo grunt.

I could tell you a whole heap more but that’s enough for now… If you would like some personal guidance and support with any of this stuff, please read more here and contact me for a chat.

Much love, Tricia

A Guided Audio to Bring You Home to You

Posted in Live Your Passions

When I cast my mind back to when my children were a lot younger and I was a lot more tense and stressed, I remember often feeling that whatever I was doing, it wasn’t what I wanted to be doing.

My internal dialogue went something like this:

I don’t want to be hanging washing right now.  I wish I didn’t have so much washing to do. What’s that noise?  Where is that little one? Oh no, she’s gotten into the kitchen cupboard. Why do I always get interrupted?  I’d better go inside and stop her from pulling everything out.  Oh, look at the time, it’s almost kindy pick-up time and I needed to get to the shops….”

And so on and so on.

I felt that I was always running from one task to another and not achieving very much.  A few different stories were running regarding how I was evaluating my own worth as a mother and housekeeper and then there was this whole other perspective to do with thinking things simply should be different than what they were.

I wanted to do things methodically, calmly, within my time frames and with no interruptions.  That was how it worked much of the time I was in the paid workforce.  Why wasn’t it happening now?

For many of us, motherhood is the time of our lives we’ve dreamed of being in.

It was for me and then, although I completely adored my children and found being with them mostly enjoyable and fulfilling, there was another part of me that found it hard to be fully present with them and embrace the unpredictability and’ busy-work’ they brought to my life.

Also, what I didn’t understand about myself in those early years was that I still needed to make time for myself every day and to learn more about how I could seek out small pockets of time to do the things that made my heart sing.

What ended up saving my sanity was meditation.  I made the time to sit and meditate for thirty minutes each day while my children had their afternoon sleep.  It wasn’t easy to do at first but the results were so immediate that I knew it was worth sticking with.

I’ve created a little ten minute audio for you this week to guide you into a deeper awareness of what it is to be fully present with yourself and to help you define a passion or natural talent that lifts your spirits and may end up leading you into your next career or hobby.

I absolutely love helping women get to know themselves and their natural talents and passions better. Take a look here to learn more…

Enjoy the recording and enjoy your day, whatever it may bring.