When we’re in the habit of constantly comparing ourselves to others and making snap judgments about how we measure up in comparison to ‘her’, we can never be in our true power and feel truly at peace.
And we must realise something. This behaviour can sometimes be very subtle. We may not even think we’re doing it. But know this, the more vehemently we deny that we’re competitive, the more underground and insidious it is.
Our need to compete even a teensy bit must be owned and integrated in order for us to make peace with it and get it under control. It’s not always bad, it’s just that cultivating an attitude of oneness is a more productive way to function.
We’re at our most creative, loving and joyful when we live from the belief that we’re all equal.
How does this play out in your life? Here I am revealing my personal struggle with competition…
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You’ve done the work, the inner searching, healing, and forgiving. So are you ready? Ready to really start living as though you are free, courageous and bold?
Read on and I’ll share my 5 signs you are ready to live your truth, for real!
I know how it is. Some days it’s a resounding YES! Then some days I just feel like staying home and retreating from the world completely. That’s normal and to be expected. We can’t always be forging ahead, torches blazing, hearts on fire…
It’s the natural flow of things to have those quiet, introspective days. Days for reflection, catching up on all the changes that have happened within and gathering strength for the next outward expression of who we really are.
We’ve all just been through a big opportunity for shedding old skins and out-moded beliefs. Here’s a magical feather I recently manifested with the assistance of some beautiful red-tailed black cockatoos. I asked them for one and four days later, it materialised in my path.The birds’ message to me was:
“Know your power and live it”.
Have you felt yourself changing?
If you haven’t been letting that over-protective ego of yours hold you back, I’ll bet some of the following shifts have happened and had you dropping your old reactions and ancient stories about lack, victimhood and failure like hot coals from the forge of your soul…
Here are my top five signs you are sooo ready to begin living your truth and your potential for greatness in this here life of yours:
No more drama – quitting creating drama in our lives and relationships as a distraction from facing up to what needs attention within ourselves is a sure sign we are ready to be more honest about what makes us happy. When we have a life full of satisfying activities, loving people and calm, peaceful intentions, we no longer court drama. We’re too busy getting things done and loving our lives.
No more excuses – when we take full responsibility for how we create our lives in every moment from our thoughts, beliefs and choices, we cease making excuses for why we aren’t doing what we know we would like to. Excuse-making prevents us from being healthy in our bodies, facing up to unhappy situations at work and in relationships and tackling the big changes we’d like to see in our lives. When we no longer make excuses for ourselves and others, we can look at what’s really happening and see it for what it is.
No more apologies – finding ourselves constantly apologising to others for our beliefs, short-comings, or behaviour is a sure sign something is seriously out of balance in our lives. When we’re ready to come clean and be our amazing, authentic selves, we get to feel more relaxed with everyone around us. There’s no one on this planet you need to justify yourself to. I give you permission right now (provided your intention is to be loving, respectful and considerate 🙂 ), to stop apologising for who you are.
No more blaming – one of the hallmarks of emotional maturity in a fully grown adult is the awareness that we are all responsible for how we live. Blaming others for what we think we can’t do, have or BE is the ultimate in giving our power away and playing the victim. Oh don’t worry, I’ve done this many times and still play this card on the odd occasion I’m not prepared to own up to my own role in the scenario at hand. Awareness is the key.
No more playing small – when we are ready to really live our true potential as dynamic, creative sparks of the divine, we simply can’t persist with the idea of staying small and unseen. Nope, you’ve got to stick your head above the ramparts in order to shine your light and share your gifts. Just know you are safe. You have many seen and unseen supporters just waiting to share in your jubilation and victory. And the victory doesn’t have to be a leading role in a Hollywood film or a international best-selling novel. No no no, it might simply be joining the local choir, dusting off that keyboard and playing with some creative writing ideas or buying some art supplies and having a dabble.
It’s time. No more delaying or worrying. Just take your first step and feel the magic begin to unfold around you.
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I’m not sure what’s happened to me these past few weeks but I think it may have started with getting a new camera for my birthday. I love my new camera and the much funkier photos it can take compared to those from the compact digital model I’ve used for the past ten years.
I really love my new camera.
Have I felt like writing a blog post? No, not at all. And this feels weird because I’ve written a post almost every week for four and a half years and then nothing. No inspiration? Well, there were still ideas but they felt old, already covered, not exciting or worth writing.
Then a couple of weeks back I did a painting workshop…
And bOOm! Suddenly painting is my new passion and the camera’s been left sitting on the shelf.
I got it out today and gave it a pat though because I’m sure photography and painting will become great friends in my life before too long.
Now don’t go thinking this means my aim here is to become a professional artist or photographer, no, that’s not it. I’m just loving exploring these crafts as mediums through which to experience my world (both inner and outer), and enjoying being immersed in the process of creation.
One of the amazing ways I connect with the women I coach in my individual sessions is to help them acknowledge their creative selves.
I’ve seen so many women instinctively respond with a shake of the head when I talk about creativity. They tell me; “Me? No, I’m not very creative.”
And yet this is the sort of guidance I receive for so many of them…
Your unique creative energy is the source of your power to make your life better.
This is not about us all becoming professional artists, writers or healers (because healing is a creative art in my world too).
No, this is about each of us embracing the reality that when we are engaged in any creative activity and we open up to all the possibilities that moment of being ‘in the process’ can offer us, we tap into a wellspring of creativity around how we want our lives to feel and look in a more global sense.
I’m pretty sure a lot of my new creative confidence has sprung from the momentum I’ve created this year by running my weekly women’s dance class. Spontaneous, free-flowing dance is wonderful for the body, mind and emotions.
Any type of creative expression opens our awareness to more of who we are and creates a deeper connection to what we are here to do, be and feel in our lives.
All you need to do is find a creative outlet that appeals to you. Try something out, see if you like it. I’ve been recommending those adult colouring-in books to clients for over a year now and suddenly they’re everywhere. Something like this is a great starting point…. You, a cup of tea, a clear table with plenty of light, a colouring page and some good quality coloured pencils. Voilá! You’ll have made something pretty in no time at all.
Here’s some other ideas:
join a local choir
learn a musical instrument
start writing a daily journal
do a painting or drawing workshop
dance around your lounge room to loud music
take some private singing lessons
learn to sew,knit or crochet
Learning something new at any stage of life can be an uplifting and very enlightening experience. You’ll learn a lot about yourself, how you feel in your creativity and chances are, if you’re learning in a group, you’ll find other like-minded souls to share the journey with.
Taking the first step can be as simple as asking the universe for guidance and then seeing what next pops into your awareness via an email, Facebook post, invitation from a friend or a notice board flyer. Say ‘yes’ and watch the magic happen.
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That house: “If I lived there, I’d be truly happy”
Her hair/figure/face: “If I looked like that, I wouldn’t have a care in the world”
A partner more…you know, just better than the one we have: “If my partner was more romantic/caring/wealthy/sensitive/sexy/all of the above, I would be so much more content”
But what if, now stay with me here…What if all of these imagined ideal people, things and scenarios were just signposts, metaphors if you like, for what’s missing within ourselves?
What would that mean?
Let me put it to you like this:
You don’t need much of what you think you need to be happy in this life of yours
The things you desire, want and yearn for are simply invitations to look within yourself and create a life more authentically you from the inside out.
Here’s some evidence: I’m not sure if you’ve noticed this, but how many times have you gotten that new yearned-for thing and then after a fairly brief period of elation, joy and fulfillment, you go back to feeling the way you did before you had it and you begin yearning for something else?
It’s happened to me many times and I’m telling you, it’s better to look within and discover ways you can creatively express yourself in the world.
Find that fulfillment and enjoyment in your work, creative pursuits or in being of service to others rather than turning your attention to the next new purchase, relationship or holiday.
Enough with the writing…
Gift yourself ten minutes now to listen to this very nice guided meditation for activating your creative centre; your sacral chakra. I recorded it just the other day down by the ocean and the sounds of the water are quite beautiful.
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“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” — Maya Angelou
I love the simple truth of this quote. Go on, read it again and then breathe in and breathe out.
Last week, after feeling the urge to do some art for quite a few days, I got out the soft (and very messy) pastels and kneeled down with my little girl on the rug at our big rustic coffee table and we did some pastel painting.
Here’s what we created in about 30 minutes of fun creative freedom. I’m showing you what we did to demonstrate that the outcome of sitting down to create is less important than the process of doing it. Genius artists we are not.
We seem to have gotten to a place in our society where even small children, by the age of six or seven, have absorbed beliefs about what they are “good at” and what they are “bad at”. And as for us adults, well my guess is that for many of you the words; “draw me a picture”, “sing me a song”, or “get up and dance” are some of the most frightening phrases you could imagine hearing.
So, here’s a newsflash for us all:
Creative expression is not about being an expert! It’s not about getting it right, being the best, being a professional or making it your life’s work.
Creative expression is about being in your body, releasing tension, being completely yourself, allowing something unexpected to appear or happen, having fun and being absolutely, completely in the present moment.
There’s something else here too. Know that spreading your wings and trying forms of creative expression that are out of your comfort zone can be very therapeutic.
I love expressing myself through the written word and this comes quite naturally for me. However, I also love singing, dancing, photography, baking, drawing and the occasional painting session because I’ve noticed how all these different activities bring me pleasure and release in very different ways.
We can all play with creative expression and enjoy the benefits.
Make sure you have some basic tools close at hand like music, paper, crayons or coloured pencils. Then just follow your daily creative urges and allow the process of being caught up in a moment of creation be far more important than the end result.
Be three years old again! Can you remember how that felt?