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Glimpsing The Crone As We Mother

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

The crone phase of life is drawing closer and to be honest, I’m not ready.

I’m possibly being a bit alarmist.  Most texts describe the crone stage as beginning after menopause and I’m not even in peri-menopause yet.

I guess I’m feeling into the aspect of crone that’s always been with me.  I believe we carry the archetypes of child, maiden, enchantress, mother and crone (plus many others), within us from birth and all the way through our lives.  The stages of life that bring us into the full expression of these roles are quite fluid and overlapping.

It’s been four weeks since I turned 47 and I’m still coming to terms with this ‘late-forties’ status.  I colour my hair to cover the greys, I look after my health and my body so I still feel and look youngish, plus I still have school-aged children, so how can I be moving into the wise woman phase already?

Well to be real, we’re a bit messed up in our modern lives when it comes to living out the ancient female archetypes.  For one thing, we’re having our children later.  A couple of hundred years ago I would have been welcoming grandchildren into my life at this age instead of still parenting my own teenagers.

In a tribal scenario I would be winding down, being cared for my my adult children, imparting my wisdom and being revered as an elder.

Instead, I feel like I’m winding up into the most productive era of my life.  In my fifties and sixties I see myself writing books, speaking at events, leading women’s retreats and guiding people on their paths in coaching and counselling programs.  And there’s certainly some crone-like wisdom emerging as I embark on this phase.  I can feel it.

So how do the gifts of the crone archetype fit into this modern era?

The crone is the old wise woman.  The hag in the cottage in the deep dark forest.  In the traditional Russian tale of Vasalisa, Baba Yaga is the wild and unpredictable keeper of female intuitive power and magic.  She’s the observer, holder of energy, subtle healer and sage who has seen much and is ready to turn away from societal expectations to enjoy her life with less burden and pressure.

How we might embody the crone archetype while we’re still actively mothering our children is an interesting dilemma but one worth nutting out.

In her article describing the crone energy, Miranda Gray outlines ways each of the four feminine archetypes correspond with the four phases of the menstrual cycle.  The post-menstrual phase is represented by the blossoming maiden, the time of ovulation with the mother, the third phase is for the enchantress and as the menstrual flow begins, the crone.

The Crone energies are like the winter, quiet and still. Her outward face is hidden, and she is turned completely inward. She lets go of the need to interact with society and to conform to its requirements. The Crone doesn’t have the physical energy to make things happen; instead she watches and, in her stillness and being, allows events to evolve. She is the weaver of Universal Energy, who creates with intention and flow.Gray, January 2015

So not only is the crone energy within us always, and most especially after menopause, we also might dwell in this energy during menstruation to make the most of its deep and interesting gifts.

To live in a mindset of embracing change feels more useful than resisting it.  Sure, there’s a part of me that wants to stay young and fears the advancing years but hey, what choice do we have.  I want to be here in twenty years.  I want to see my grandchildren arrive in the world and I want to be an active participant in my own long life.  I want to own my crone years.

I have beautiful friends in their mid-seventies who embody it all, maiden, mother, enchantress and crone in their lives right now.  I see it when they laugh, cry, dance, impart wisdom, sit and listen, paint, write and speak.  I also see it all in my 13 year old daughter.  She can be wise, funny, silly, wicked, wild, nurturing, intuitive and alluring all in one day.

So perhaps we may turn our attention to embracing many of these archetypes at any stage of life?  We need not wait for the years to age us before we claim at least a small portion of crone status and we may retain a little of the younger archetypes in later life as well.

What do you feel?  I’d love to know.

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How to Evolve Without Making Yourself Wrong

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

You know you’re here to grow and change right?  But are you like me? Do you find it hard to evolve without feeling that everything that came before this new fresh moment has been wrong?

When we make those sudden leaps of growth and suddenly see how flawed our thinking has been, it’s very tempting to judge ourselves harshly.

We all go through times of rapid transition and evolution.

Sometimes it makes my head spin.

One minute we’re rolling down a road we set out on years ago, and then suddenly, we come to a screeching halt, look back, look forward and decide to take a left turn.

Then, not surprisingly we come over all self-critical. We sometimes question why we were ever on that dusty old road to begin with.  “What was I thinking?”, we say to ourselves.

Any first marriages spring to mind? Mine does

Then we spend energy and time pointlessly beating ourselves up over all the past decisions, plans, beliefs and dreams that failed to make us happy. It’s so easy to see how wrong we were. But where would we truly be without having taken that risk, forded that river, climbed that hill?

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My gorgeous risk taker.

Is looking back with regret really helping us to enjoy life? No, I feel it undermines the new life we are aiming to create and more…

My top five reasons why it’s so important to stop indulging in self-criticism when we evolve:

  1. It prevents us from acknowledging how far we’ve come and celebrating our successes
  2. It keeps us stuck in the past and unable to enjoy the present
  3. It deters us from continuing to improve our lives because we become fearful of making a mistake
  4. It stops us gleaning the gold from the tough times we’ve experienced and being able to forgive
  5. It reduces our capacity for self-love and self-compassion

Your marriage ended. So what? Your business failed. So what? You didn’t get your dream job? So what?…..You learned some cool things right? You certainly evolved.

Life’s not about being perfect, being right all the time or having 100% clear foresight.

The people who play it safe and stick with the decisions they made in their early twenties only because breaking out of that world feels way too risky, are the ones who end up unhappy later in life.

Those of us who run headlong into adventure, change, new experiences and new ideas on how to live are the ones who I see thriving and living more vibrant, engaged, fulfilling lives.  Mistakes and failures are all part of the ride.

So to wind this up, let’s look at the alternatives.  As I see it we have three choices:

  • Never change
  • Change and beat ourselves up about getting it wrong the first time around
  • Change and celebrate our freedom and flexibility to be adaptable.

Easy choice right?

If you’d like some help with your capacity to evolve and feel good about it then just contact me here for a session. (Click here). I’m available for bookings right through the festive season.

Much love, Tricia

But I Thought I was Someone Else… Integrating the Shadow

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

What if the person you thought you were, was just an illusion?…….Just a mask or overlay, and there was a whole different YOU that you needed to get to know?

Let me explain:

Who I thought I was and what I valued about ‘her’ as a person is slowly dissolving before my eyes.

Uh, hold on, that sounds a little melodramatic.  What I’m about to describe is more about full integration than dissolution.

It all began quite recently when I received my first ever astrological reading.  I’ve always been intensely interested in astrology and numerology but for some reason, it took me until now to get a birth chart done.

And as my learned astrologer Renee said; “Maybe there’s a reason for that”, because what I discovered about my chart, totally destabilised who I thought I was.

First things first, I’m a Virgo with my Moon in Cancer, and Mars and Black Moon in Leo…. but enough of that.

Now, I thought that as a Virgo, I had all the Virgo qualities and nothing else.  Turns out it’s not that simple, there’s so much more to discover when you take a proper look.

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In fact, despite thinking I was a model Virgo – oh so methodical, organised, health-conscious, discriminating, neat, caring, analytical and wise – when Renee told me my birth chart reflected quite a chaotic set of influences, I was floored!

Me?

Chaotic?

Then over a period of weeks, it slowing began dawning on me and settling into my core…..

I’ve been battling against my true nature ever since I was a small child and it’s all related to my anxious personality, which when I look deeper, was a coping mechanism I created to hide from my natural gifts of sensitivity, creativity, empathy and intuition.

Many of us with these gifts face challenges around anxiety and depression due to our fears of being discovered, exposed.  We come to believe that it’s safer to withdraw, keep our perceptions and wisdom to ourselves and be isolated in our awareness, than it is to speak up or respond to the guidance we are receiving.

This is nobody’s fault, life just seems to do that to many of us, no matter the circumstances, and in my belief system, I feel these fears are based on experiences we’ve been through in other lifetimes.  I believe it’s my journey in this lifetime to consciously reclaim these parts of myself and to use them in the service of others.

I’ve always had a feeling of confidence when with I’m with people I know and trust.  But as child I would completely shut down and panic if I was taken somewhere new and forced to interact with strangers, even if they were other children. I was chronically shy.

In my childish efforts to handle my nervous disposition I focused on being as good and as nice as I could at school and at home and prioritised creating harmony, approval and peace around myself.

I also got good at doing things well and gained self-esteem from my school and sporting achievements. Oh, and my Mum and Dad loved and supported me as well. That helped 🙂

It was only when I finished high school and stepped nervously out into the wider world, that my confidence and faith in my abilities started to wobble.  My twenties were a very uncertain and bumpy time as I discovered that the ‘Tricia’ I had created as a child didn’t readily translate into the ‘take charge’ kind of woman I longed to be.

I was too concerned with keeping others happy and not assertive at all in expressing my needs.

Thank goodness that’s all over!

 

The fact is we change. We’re constantly changing and the more consciously open to change we are, the faster it happens.  What I’ve recently bumped up against is the reality that my perceptions of who I am are out of date.

I’ve been faithfully (more like doggedly) clinging to quite a few traits that are wearing thin from overuse and masking the deeper me.

Let me give you an example; feeling attached to the qualities of being organised and punctual has left me in denial of my natural tendencies to reject routine and repetition and run five minutes late to just about everything.

Anyone else with me here?

I’m ready to own my shadow qualities so I can relax more and just be myself.

It’s in the shadow qualities of selfishness, greed, envy, chronic tardiness, arrogance, nastiness and the gigantic catalogue of fears most of us have, that we find some of our deepest, most rich and fascinating experiences, opportunities for growth and creative ideas.

Don’t you think?

Anyway, I’m putting it out there for you to take a look at your shadow side and allow the darkness to balance the light.  I’ll be right there with you.

And it’s all there within each of us anyway, so we might as well acknowledge it fully and embrace the contrasts.

So much more to say here but that’s enough for now.

Much love, Tricia

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A New Kind of Normal

Posted in Live From Intuition

How would a younger you feel about the way you live your life right now?  Is what’s ‘normal’ for you now the same as it was ten or fifteen years ago?

During a very enlightening astrology reading the other day, I was drawn back in time to when I was 31.

I remembered in a new way what I was like at this age and how different I am now…

At 31 my first child was born and my whole life changed…in a good way but also in a very unexpected and challenging way. You see the birth was nothing like I’d hoped it would be and it threw me the biggest curve ball in my life to date.

My two day labour ended with a C-section and although our beautiful baby son was perfectly healthy and seemed none the worse for wear, it was an intense experience for us both.

Three weeks after delivery still looking a bit shell-shocked.
Three weeks after delivery still looking a bit shell-shocked.

Who I was before his arrival, and who I was after, and indeed who I am now almost 14 years later, are vastly different.

What I thought was normal at 31 resembles nothing like what I feel is normal now…

When I was 31, normal felt like this:

  • Work hard and you will succeed
  • Deny your feelings, be sensible, be realistic
  • Set high standards and try to meet them every day
  • Don’t let anyone down, even if you are unhappy with the status quo
  • Maintain a persona that is compliant and non-threatening so people like you
  • Use your powerful mind to analyse, weigh up the pros and cons and make logical decisions
  • Adhere to society’s idea of success and focus lots of energy on financial security and ‘getting ahead’

And hey, in the grand scheme, my life was actually pretty darn good.  I was stressed, dissatisfied, longing for more meaning in my life and not particularly grateful for what I had, but yeah, I was an averagely happy 31 year old white Australian mother.

So you know, time went on, another beautiful child arrived into our family and I slowly began to wake up…

The road was pretty long and yes, it absolutely winds on into the distance to this day. But boy have I changed!

Now that I’m 45, this is my new normal:

  • My own health and happiness are my highest priorities
  • My personal standards have relaxed and I’m much more loving and forgiving to myself
  • I treat work as a gift and know I will succeed because I’m living my passions
  • I’m more comfortable to assert my point of view and not so scared that people will reject me
  • I listen to my inner voice, value my feelings and respond to their guidance every day
  • I live from intuition and although my mind is still a powerful force, it plays second fiddle to my heart.
  • I value friendship, family, love, creativity, freedom, service, nature and community much more highly than material wealth or career success

We all change, grow and evolve through our lives.  That’s a given.

How much?

Well, that’s our choice.  The sky’s the limit people.  There is no ceiling to how much happier, healthier, more free, more creative, more generous, more loving, more open-minded, more forgiving, more abundant… we can become.

It’s all about acceptance and gratitude.  Bless it all and you will find your bliss.

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Enjoy your day.  Much love, Tricia

 

 

 

You’re Not Wrong and Neither Are They

Posted in Heal Relationships

We think we’re aware right?  We think we know ourselves and all our foibles pretty well by now. Yes?

Well I’m sorry to say this, and of course I’m speaking just for myself here 🙂 , but I feel many of us still have a long way to go before we can claim any sort of seniority in the AWARENESS stakes…

Find yourself complaining about certain people in your life?

Still have one or two family members that really know how to push your buttons?

Get so caught up in your reaction to what someone has said or done that you aren’t able to be the compassionate person you are deep down?

Welcome to humanity, I guess…AND also, we are making some progress aren’t we?

Well you know and I know that this month of December right here, right now, is THE month of the year for family get-togethers and family explosions (either silently muffled or loudly proclaimed). Bring it on I say.

What I find in my sessions with the gorgeous humans who come and sit with me each day, is that while we may understand we are always an active participant in any unhappy happenings between ourselves and others, it’s far easier to just want the other person to change.

True growth and freedom begins with the realisation that in some way or another, that person you are cursing and criticizing is actually being of service to you via their behaviour. And it’s often those we love the most and have most meaning to us that have the power to really tick us off.

What they are showing us is usually one of the following things:

  • An aspect of ourselves that we may benefit from embracing and loving instead of denying and condemning.
  • An unmet need from long ago that we can most often meet for ourselves rather than demanding they meet it.
  • A strong fear or belief we are suppressing and projecting onto them as an excuse for not confronting it. For example; “Oh no, we couldn’t possibly go on an overseas holiday, Mary is such a scrooge.”
  • A demonstration of how we don’t honour and respect ourselves enough with regard to speaking our truth, looking after our own well-being or saying ‘no’ to the things we don’t want to do.
  • A need of theirs to feel heard, more valued, acknowledged or forgiven by you. Maybe this will smooth the way?

Here’s a little exercise we can all do this holiday season to bring a greater sense of peace and calm to every interaction: Notice how you are feeling, acknowledge it and ask yourself this beautiful question posed by Neale Donald Walsch.

“What would love do now?”

Coming from this perspective can only soothe us and return us to our gentle selves where we are more able to breathe, welcome the realities of others and bless them for their humanness.

Also, make time and space for yourself in the coming weeks to go outdoors alone, take a rest during the day or just doing any small or big thing that makes you feel nurtured and relaxed.

Being in nature is my best therapy, just look at this cute ball of fluffy baby bird I photographed just outside our home this morning. So sweet.

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When all is said and done, just be yourself and let others be themselves and love will be the victor.

For some personal assistance with all of this relationship stuff, read about my session work here and feel free to phone or email me so we can get to know each other a little before your appointment.

Many blessings, Tricia

 

 

 

It’s a New You

Posted in Trust The Universe

The rain is falling.  Autumn has settled in and before we know it there’ll be a fire in the hearth and extra blankets on the beds.  The seasons, as they play out in the natural world, bring us vivid demonstrations of change, renewal, stagnation, decay and growth.

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As I see the world outside my window change, I also feel I must be changing too.

Nothing stays the same, everything must change

How do you handle change?

Do you seek it out eagerly with an optimistic grin?

Do you pretend it’s not happening and drag your heels every step of the way?

I guess we all do a bit of both.  Some change we beckon with open arms, other change (when it’s not what we’d expected), requires a little more time and adjustment before we fully accept it.

The change of season encourages us to get out different clothes, maybe buy some new things, and clean out and organise our wardrobe.  We exercise, eat and entertain ourselves differently from Winter to Summer.  It’s fun right? Nice to mix it up, have a change?

As a result of my passion for being connected to nature, I respond to the changing seasons with excitement and wonder.  The first rains turn the brown earth into a barely-there green tinge and then a lush carpet of grass for our local kangaroos to feast on.  Locals who depend on rain for their water supply clap their hands together in glee and we town dwellers enjoy turning our garden reticulation off for a few months.

So, whether you’re in northern, southern or tropical climes, nature shifts and aspects of your life shift with it.

For me, noticing nature helps me to be in deeper contact with myself.  I’m calm when I’m outdoors and I gain lots of insights and inspiration as I walk and sit among the trees or upon the granite rocks by the water.

Nature heals us and brings us home to ourselves.

And nature isn’t just what’s here on Earth.  The natural world includes our moon, the sun and all the stars and planets. The vast cosmos influences and changes us day by day, year by year.

The two eclipses we’ve just witnessed created some beautiful energetic openings for us to release the past (yes, again) and shift anew into the lives we’ve dreamed of and planned for over the last few years.  Each morning since the lunar eclipse on Saturday night I’ve woken from dreams that have flushed out old fears, pulled together past and current relationships and revealed remnants of deeply held insecurities.

I’ve found it hard to stick with my meditation routine and have felt the need to clear out cupboards, put together the photo book from our holiday to Spain and take a break from my work schedule.

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Early this morning I went for a grey-skied walk to the ocean and sat with shoes off on a rocky outcrop above the water.  I chanted the Om mantra, stared at the sea and drank in the clear, cool air.  And I felt new.

You’re new too, just take a moment to pause and feel it.

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Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing, and Trust The Universe

Change is a good thing right?

What I’ve noticed is that when a big change is around the corner for me, the little changes that precede it often turn from molehills into mountains right before my eyes.

This is what happened last weekend when, with the help of a very handy techie-woman from Fiverr.com I transferred my website from the WordPress.com platform to WordPress.org.

The reason for doing this is so I can do more businessy type stuff on my site and have more control over how I use it.

Well I won’t go into the details, but it would seem the universe conspired to add some twists and turns to this seemingly straightforward process just to test my mettle, or was it to help me to fully embody my commitment to this business of mine?  I don’t know.

All I know is that as a result of me zigging, and undoing what my techie-woman had zagged for me, I completely erased my website – containing four years of blog posts – from visible existence.  And so it stayed for three long days while I waited for her to come back to me over the weekend.

My natural urge to keep working away at it (in complete ignorance) came rushing forward and it took all my deeper awareness and intuitive insights to prevent me from making the problem even worse by trying to fix it myself.

The sun still came up each day.
The sun still came up each day.

I have to say, this is where my morning meditation practice saved the day.  Getting up each morning to meditate on those difficult three days allowed me to:

  • Be present with how I was feeling
  • Be in a reasonable level of acceptance around what had happened
  • Be open to however it was going to work out in the end

My intuition kept telling me all was well and that the website would be restored but gosh it was hard to let go and trust this would really happen.

So I’m on the air again with all my posts and most of the images intact and I’ve learnt a lot about trusting universe, feeling helpless and letting go of the past.  Ahh, the benefits of a tricky experience, they’re so much richer than the easy ones.

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Clap Along If You Feel…

Posted in Live Your Passions

Few things make me happier on a summer’s day than being at one my local pristine, near-deserted beaches with my family.

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I love the sight of the crystal clear, aquamarine water, the feel of diving under the surface and being refreshed and invigorated by my favourite natural remedy, and hearing the sound of my children chatting happily together as they spot a fish darting away or wait for the next wave to ride in to the shore. I also enjoy seeing my husband emerge from the water smiling and relaxed, ready for a short walk up the beach with me while the kids play in the shallows.

This is summer holidays for us: mornings at the beach, swimming lessons in the ocean, the skate park, water slides, bakery morning teas, locally made ice-creams, fish and chips under peppermint trees by the bay and watching the local kangaroos make their daily pilgrimage to sip water from our bush-placed bird bath.

Now I don’t mean to boast, really I don’t, and of course you know there’s also the normal arguments, flat days, illnesses and mundanity that we all experience.  I’m simply describing what I’ve chosen for my life at this time and while many of you might be thinking; “yes, that sounds like a life I would like“, just as many will be saying; “how boring and unpleasant, I wouldn’t like to do any of that”.

My point is that at least five years ago I began refining my concept of what makes me happy and when we moved to this beautiful, nature-filled part of the world, my dream came true.  I live in a place I love – it feels like my spiritual home – and truly, all I did to get here was first, believe it was possible and second, allow life to guide me little by little to make it a reality.

We’ve now lived in our beach-side locale for three years and it’s become home for all four of us.

When I talk about wants and desires with my coaching clients there seems to be two main barriers that prevent them from talking openly and confidently about what makes them happy:

One – Not feeling they deserve to even ponder (let alone have) more joy, freedom, love, pleasure or prosperity in their lives.

Two – Not knowing in a clear sense what a happier life might look and feel like for them, perhaps as a result of subscribing for too long to what other people thought was good for them or allowing others to have what they liked in exchange for those people’s approval and support.

I need only cast my mind back seven years to recall how this feels.

When my children were aged five and three, I too had great trouble sorting through the complex network of thoughts and feelings that made up what I thought I needed in my life to make me happy.  I knew I wanted change and a new direction but it was a slow process to unpick the various personas I’d tried on for size since reaching adulthood to get down to the truth of who I really was and what brought me fulfillment and joy.

To be honest, it’s a process still unfolding, as it should be. After all, this life we have is not a journey with an ultimate destination, it’s an ever-evolving adventure where the more open we are to change and new opportunities, the more we get to truly be alive.

So how to start?

Ask yourself this question and write the answer down in as much detail as you can…

When I last found myself feeling free, relaxed, inspired and fulfilled, what was I doing?

Examine the elements that brought these feelings to you and seek them out again as soon as you can.  Keep doing this and you’ll attract more and more opportunities to be in that happy zone, like attracts like and happy breeds happy.

If you’d like some help and intuitive guidance from me with all this, take a look here and contact me for a free thirty minute phone coaching session before you book in.

Much love, Tricia

 

 

Motherhood – How to Care Less

Posted in Heal Relationships, and Self-Care and Self-Healing

Today I visited my son’s new school (he’s starting high school next year), for the first time.  As I picked out his new T.shirts and shorts in the uniform shop I thought, with a little tear in my eye; “My little boy’s moving on, stepping into a new stage of life”.

It’s natural isn’t it for a mother to grieve, just a little, the passing of her children’s childhoods? Just how much we grieve I think depends on how much we’ve retained or re-created, as it was in my case, our own sense of self amid the mothering role.IMG_9324

Because, let’s face it, being a mother, much like being a daughter, wife, sister, friend, or aunt is a role you fulfill as part of your life.  It is not you with a capital Y.  You are a mother yes, but you are first and foremost a person, yes, an individual human being who existed before her little bundles of joy and believe it or not, will continue to sparkle and dazzle the universe with her brilliance long after the said bundles have flown the nest.

We feel happy/sad when we wean them, when they begin school, lose their first tooth, experience their first major disappointment and then recover, miss out on a party invite or don’t get much of a game when playing their first team sport.  Honestly, raising children can be exhausting and heart-breaking. It’s not for the faint-hearted.

I for one, took the ‘jump in feet-first, total immersion‘ approach to motherhood.  For five years that’s who and what I was, their mother.  Other roles like wife (my poor husband), daughter and sister took a definite back seat. When I came wandering, stumbling out of that period it felt like I’d returned from a long absence from my own life.  I felt a bit like a time-traveller cast randomly into a foreign land at an unknown point in time.  Well perhaps that’s a little dramatic, but not awfully so.

I was ‘mummy’ and that’s all I really identified with.

I’d lost who I used to be, and to be honest that wasn’t a bad thing because I hadn’t overly enjoyed being her.  I just wasn’t sure who, apart from ‘mummy’, I was now. I wasn’t even the qualified psychologist I’d embodied just three years prior.  Sure, I knew I had been her and could role-play that job again, it just didn’t feel like ‘me’ anymore.

So not being able to figure it out in my mind, I eventually followed my heart into some short courses in writing, art and natural therapies to flush out the real ‘me’.  I knew she had to be in there somewhere…

And it worked. It’s taken many years, around seven in fact, but I now understand who I am at a deeper level and have work and other activities in my daily life that support and express that real me.

So when I witness the growing up and growing away-ness in my children, I don’t feel too sad because I have this rich and varied life that’s quite separate from them.  I am ‘me’ independent of the mother role and it feels good.

To care is beautiful, to care too much is painful and stifling for those we love.  Love yourself a little more and you’ll find you care just the right amount for everyone else with ease.

If you would like some assistance to discover your true path in your work or creative endeavours, take a look at this page: Contact Tricia for Your First Session and let me know when I can phone you for your free fifteen minute session.

Much love, Tricia

 

When You Dream You Create Reality

Posted in Live Your Passions, and Trust The Universe

Do you have a dream?

I’ve got a stack of them and as one dream comes to fruition, another one emerges to take it’s place.  This is what I call, living in flow with all that life desires for you.

One of my dreams is to one day build my own (our own)  home by the beach, I’m not sure when this one will happen, but based on how my life’s expanded and flowed for the past few years, I reckon it might happen sooner rather than later.

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image courtesy www.idesignarch.com

In the meantime I’m happy with where I’m at and making the most of my current home.  I can let that dream go for now and trust that it will be delivered in divine timing.

“How does she get to be so relaxed and confident?” I hear you ask.

Well, I’m not all the time, nowhere near.  It’s just that since I learned how to follow my inner guidance a few years back, I’m finding it easier and easier to imagine my dream life, write it down, feel it, see it in my mind’s eye and then let it go with a request to the universe:

“…This, or something EVEN BETTER please” 

What I’m also hearing some of you say is: “Dreams? I don’t have time for dreams, I wouldn’t even know where to start.

That’s how I felt before I began this journey and I understand how you feel.  Life can feel overwhelming, especially if you are over-committed to caring for children, running your career, caring for an elderly family member or if you’re stuck in the emotional quagmire of having stress, worry, resentment, responsibility or boredom as your daily emotional default.

You just need to make space to imagine and dream… like you did when you were a child.  It’s okay to fantasise and make-believe.  When we have a dream and visit it often in our imagination in a joyful and expectant way, we’re sending an order out to the universe saying:

“Hello universe, here’s what I like, this is what makes my heart sing and feels in resonance with my soul”

And universe, or as I sometimes like to call it, life, responds by edging us ever so slightly closer to that imagined reality.  Of course the speed is actually up to us.  If we believe it can happen overnight and feel rapid change is something we and our families can handle then that can be what occurs.

The main point here is, you won’t get if you don’t ask.

The other point is that although life actually does want us to be happy, we over-ride the natural flow of this when we think we are stuck in doubt, fear and confusion about what we really want.

I realise it can be hard to break those patterns of feeling over-burdened and lacking in inspiration, courage and optimism.  It’s a process worth beginning though, as we all have the potential within us to break free of those old patterns and begin to really enjoy life.

To more fully explore what your dreams are and how to begin living your passions, take a look at my Book A Session With Tricia page and contact me for a chat.  I’d love to help <3