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But I Thought I was Someone Else… Integrating the Shadow

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What if the person you thought you were, was just an illusion?…….Just a mask or overlay, and there was a whole different YOU that you needed to get to know?

Let me explain:

Who I thought I was and what I valued about ‘her’ as a person is slowly dissolving before my eyes.

Uh, hold on, that sounds a little melodramatic.  What I’m about to describe is more about full integration than dissolution.

It all began quite recently when I received my first ever astrological reading.  I’ve always been intensely interested in astrology and numerology but for some reason, it took me until now to get a birth chart done.

And as my learned astrologer Renee said; “Maybe there’s a reason for that”, because what I discovered about my chart, totally destabilised who I thought I was.

First things first, I’m a Virgo with my Moon in Cancer, and Mars and Black Moon in Leo…. but enough of that.

Now, I thought that as a Virgo, I had all the Virgo qualities and nothing else.  Turns out it’s not that simple, there’s so much more to discover when you take a proper look.

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In fact, despite thinking I was a model Virgo – oh so methodical, organised, health-conscious, discriminating, neat, caring, analytical and wise – when Renee told me my birth chart reflected quite a chaotic set of influences, I was floored!

Me?

Chaotic?

Then over a period of weeks, it slowing began dawning on me and settling into my core…..

I’ve been battling against my true nature ever since I was a small child and it’s all related to my anxious personality, which when I look deeper, was a coping mechanism I created to hide from my natural gifts of sensitivity, creativity, empathy and intuition.

Many of us with these gifts face challenges around anxiety and depression due to our fears of being discovered, exposed.  We come to believe that it’s safer to withdraw, keep our perceptions and wisdom to ourselves and be isolated in our awareness, than it is to speak up or respond to the guidance we are receiving.

This is nobody’s fault, life just seems to do that to many of us, no matter the circumstances, and in my belief system, I feel these fears are based on experiences we’ve been through in other lifetimes.  I believe it’s my journey in this lifetime to consciously reclaim these parts of myself and to use them in the service of others.

I’ve always had a feeling of confidence when with I’m with people I know and trust.  But as child I would completely shut down and panic if I was taken somewhere new and forced to interact with strangers, even if they were other children. I was chronically shy.

In my childish efforts to handle my nervous disposition I focused on being as good and as nice as I could at school and at home and prioritised creating harmony, approval and peace around myself.

I also got good at doing things well and gained self-esteem from my school and sporting achievements. Oh, and my Mum and Dad loved and supported me as well. That helped 🙂

It was only when I finished high school and stepped nervously out into the wider world, that my confidence and faith in my abilities started to wobble.  My twenties were a very uncertain and bumpy time as I discovered that the ‘Tricia’ I had created as a child didn’t readily translate into the ‘take charge’ kind of woman I longed to be.

I was too concerned with keeping others happy and not assertive at all in expressing my needs.

Thank goodness that’s all over!

 

The fact is we change. We’re constantly changing and the more consciously open to change we are, the faster it happens.  What I’ve recently bumped up against is the reality that my perceptions of who I am are out of date.

I’ve been faithfully (more like doggedly) clinging to quite a few traits that are wearing thin from overuse and masking the deeper me.

Let me give you an example; feeling attached to the qualities of being organised and punctual has left me in denial of my natural tendencies to reject routine and repetition and run five minutes late to just about everything.

Anyone else with me here?

I’m ready to own my shadow qualities so I can relax more and just be myself.

It’s in the shadow qualities of selfishness, greed, envy, chronic tardiness, arrogance, nastiness and the gigantic catalogue of fears most of us have, that we find some of our deepest, most rich and fascinating experiences, opportunities for growth and creative ideas.

Don’t you think?

Anyway, I’m putting it out there for you to take a look at your shadow side and allow the darkness to balance the light.  I’ll be right there with you.

And it’s all there within each of us anyway, so we might as well acknowledge it fully and embrace the contrasts.

So much more to say here but that’s enough for now.

Much love, Tricia

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5 Ways To Relax Into The New Year

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I think I’ve finally kicked the habit.  For many years I’ve been placing an enormous amount of pressure on myself to begin each new year soaring…achieving, pushing, working and striving to make it all happen and make it happen NOW.

And I can safely say, it never works.  All that happens is I end up with lots of neck and shoulder tension and this annoying itchy eye condition that I’d rather not experience.

What is it about January that makes me feel this way?

Being quite fascinated with numerology, I guess it has something to do with the energy of the number 1.

‘One’ energy resonates with achievement, singular focus, new beginnings, creativity and confidence. It reflects the masculine traits of action, ego and individual success. Aha, my urge to get working suddenly makes sense.

The contrast to this ‘1’ energy is that January is summer holiday time for us here in Australia. The necessities of entertaining children, taking a break from routine and actually enjoying our glorious summer weather means not a lot of “real work” gets done.

This is the first year since our children started school that I’ve been able to let go of the need to “chop chop”, be productive, get on with the business of the year and simply embrace the reality that yes, I can do a little bit of work here and there, but primarily, January is a holiday month for our family and I might as well enjoy it.

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Staying with the numerology theme, this is a universal year 9 which means it’s the final year in a global nine year cycle. A year 9 is a good time to complete projects, begin and end relationships, start new businesses and jobs, move house and reflect upon how far you’ve come over the past eight years.

Nine energy is also about taking action on humanitarian fronts, looking after and being responsive to others and creating a vision or set of ideals about how we would like our lives to progress as we begin a new cycle later this year. It’s also a great time to cleanse, release and de-clutter in all life areas.

So, now that the new year has begun, how do we create a balance of forward momentum and relaxed living?

Here are my top 5 ways you can begin the new year feeling more relaxed (and still get stuff done):

  1. Take the pressure off – we have a whole 12 months ahead of us, think of January as your launching place and use it to set intentions and goals for the coming year.  No need to get it all done this month.
  2. Honour your intuition – I’ve learned to respond to my intuitive urges each day and do what feels good. When I’m aware that there’s something I need to do such as making a phone call, paying a bill or going to the shops, I wait until the timing feels right and I flow with that energy.  This approach always serves me better than forcing myself to tackle a job when it’s feeling like a burden or an effort.
  3. Set up good self-care rituals –  the start of a year is a wonderful time to release old habits and begin new and ones.  I had a massage on Christmas Eve which I really enjoyed so I booked another for this week and I’m really looking forward to it. This year I’m committed to looking after my own well-being even better than I did last year.
  4. Embrace the value of blank space – we all need time away from our achievement-focused selves.  Despite having strong desires for my personal life, business, relationships and family for this year, I can drop it all in the moment of diving into the ocean, walking in the bush or reading a novel. Seek out some blank space moments and enjoy them.
  5. Acknowledge how far you’ve come – we’re all completing a nine year cycle of existence this year so create a spirit of celebration around all the progress and positive changes you’ve made in your life over this period.  It’s been an amazing time for you, I know it has. Take a breath at the summit and enjoy the view.

May this January deliver a gentle start to the year for you and I.  Go softly and listen within for your path forward and it will be SO.

I’m available for appointments this month so check out my session work info here and give me a call to make your booking to bring a sweet, loving and fresh focus to your life.

Much love to you, Tricia

Love Your Body and Ignite Your True Power

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I like my body.  I can even conjure up a gentle feeling of love for it most days of the week.  But you know what? I love it more when I hold my tummy in and when I don’t look too closely at my hips or the backs of my thighs.

I’m really sick of these feelings of judgement and dissatisfaction.  It feels nitpicky and petty at my age to be pin-pointing body parts to dislike and wish were different.  Haven’t I got more important things to give my energy to?

Well most of the time I do, but then I walk past a window or mirror and accidentally see my reflection and that little voice in my head says; “Oh look how my tummy bulges” or, “Man I’ve got a solid rear” or, “Can I still wear shorts in public?”

You with me?

Just try to imagine right now in this moment, how it would feel to instantly relax and simply know your body is perfect? **(read right to the end to learn about the big benefits of loving your body)

Because as I step into ‘observer’ role and look at myself from the outside, there is absolutely nothing wrong with my body.:

  • It works well
  • It fits quite comfortably into all the clothes I own
  • I feel good most days – that’s my body I’m feeling good in right?
  • My husband often tells me I look great

So what’s the problem?

I fear the problem is this little thing called social conditioning.  I grew up in the era of the super-skinny super-model, the first fashion magazines aimed at teens, a burgeoning weight loss industry and the biggy, AEROBICS. Can we, teens of the eighties blame all of our body image issues on those nasty g-string leotards? Okay, probably not but they were pretty bad right?

I know most of my issues of body dissatisfaction come from my culture rather than my family because food and weight-loss were non-issues for my tall, slim parents.  My mother was never on a diet, we always ate hearty meals, had a block of Cadbury’s in the pantry for Friday nights and had takeaway fish and chips every now and then.  I’ve always looked after myself fairly well and the largest I’ve ever been is a size 12 (um, that’s about an 8 in the U.S.).

What I’m saying is, my body and I suspect your body, isn’t the issue, the problem is how we feel about them.

We’ve been brainwashed at an impressionable age to believe it’s normal to criticise ourselves and be unhappy about how we look. And it’s all a load of complete nonsense.

All I can recommend is, stop the negative self-talk by monitoring your silent and spoken language about your appearance and cut out the insults.  Also, notice how you silently judge others by their appearance and use emotions like envy or disgust to mentally place them in limiting boxes labelled by how they look.

It’s time for a clear out of how we view and rate our own appearance and the appearance of others. How amazing would it be if we were all free of the superficial labeling and assumptions we create about the way we each look?

Here are some truly wonderful benefits you can look forward to manifesting in your life when you make peace with your appearance…

  • You will fully EMBODY your essence, beauty and divinity and make a deeper connection to your inner wisdom.  Our bodies are an extension of our spirit and soul, not separate and not ‘less than’.
  • You will instinctively begin to look after your body better with the food and exercise it craves
  • You will feel more confident to be yourself, dress how you like to dress and relax into your own personal style
  • Your relationships will be richer and more loving because you won’t be holding anything against yourself or others for how you or they look
  • You will feel free to get on with all the creative and work projects you’ve been procrastinating over because you will be in a state of higher energy, love and respect for yourself.

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Told you it was worth reading right to the end.

If you’d like some personal help from me with any of this please feel free to read more here about how I work with people individually or phone me on 0418 698 305 for a chat.

Enjoy your day. Much love, Tricia

How To Turn Trauma Into Triumph

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Have you ever realised that your most traumatic life experiences just might be the greatest gifts you’ve ever received?

How we feel about the ‘bad things’ that have happened in our lives has the power to make or break us in ways that are far reaching and sometimes life altering.

When we feel victimised by what life has handed us, we relinquish our power to fully recover and see the gifts in the event.  When we can eventually come to terms with what’s happened and even manage to feel grateful for it, we increase our capacity to bounce back from future crises as well as life’s daily hassles.

Trauma and crisis make us humble, compassionate, grateful and resilient.

The birth of my son more than 13 years ago would rank right up there as one of the most traumatic experiences of my life and yet, it was clearly one of my most treasured gifts because once it was all over…he was alive and healthy, I was alive and fairly healthy considering what I’d endured, and most importantly, I’d become a mother.

Not only that, I’d been humbled and brought into a truer alignment with my soul’s path. Experiencing that very difficult birth allowed me to disassemble much of what I’d previously thought about who I was and how my life was supposed to be and then bit by bit, to create a more authentic and richer version of myself.

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And you know, even though I’ve gotten over the grief, regret and strong sense of failure I felt for a few years (yes years), after the event, this strong memory still has the power to get me fired up.

What makes me cross is that as a society we persist in the belief that all trauma is bad, to be regretted and that if crappy things have happened in a person’s life it somehow means they are faulty or deficient.

One of my very wise and resilient clients who has experienced a difficult marriage separation in the last year says to herself and her children:

“This is just something that’s happening to you it’s not who YOU are.”

I love this because it’s so true and so simple to understand.

We don’t need to identify with or be fully defined by the challenging episodes in our lives. And until we’re ready to see and feel the blessing in what’s occurred, it’s perfectly acceptable and even desirable to express how we feel with honesty and courage.

So here’s what I’d recommend for turning your perspective of loss, failure or resentment over what’s happened into feelings of inner strength, optimism and gratitude:

Step one: Honour the emotions that are there and feel them. Try not to attach any judgments to the feelings as classifying emotions as negative or positive is actually pretty flawed and unhelpful.

We feel what we feel, that’s all.  None of it is wrong or bad.

Step two: Talk, write, sing, dance, cry, draw and paint about how you feel until a feeling of peace and acceptance washes over you and the feelings soften a little (even if only temporarily).

Step three: Look for just one blessing in the event and write it down or tell someone about it.

Step four: Take yourself into a meditative state – just sit down, close your eyes and bring your attention to within the centre of your being – and see yourself being an objective observer of what has happened.  Then try seeing all of the other players in the event and how each of them has had their own experience and received their own gifts.

Ask within yourself to be shown the deeper significance of this experience and hold an intention of wonder and curiosity about what you might discover.

We’re not here to avoid trauma and crisis at any cost because to be quite honest, we can’t. Plus, there is a greater mystery in motion that is completely out of our control. And when we realise that our challenges and crises make us rather than break us, may we bless them all and revel in their divine beauty.

For some personal attention with coming to terms with a difficult time in your life, contact me for a chat and book an in-person, telephone or Skype session with me sometime.  Read more here about how I work…

Blessings abound, Tricia

How Are Your Adrenals? Four Tips For Slowing Down

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We live in a pretty crazy world don’t we?

I mean honestly, what’s with all this rushing around, moving and shaking, getting the job done?

We’re not designed to live at the pace we have deigned (in the west at least) to be “normal modern life”. Anyone remember the “slow food revolution”?  What we really need is a ‘slow life’ revolution.

And I’m not sure if you’ve heard about the unhealthy imbalance this racing about can cause in our bodies, but it’s real, it’s widespread and the implications for how our bodies will function into older age and how that will impact our enjoyment of life are concerning.

So dear sisters, if you are in your thirties or forties and maintaining a life where you are often heard to say, “I’m so busy, I haven’t got time to scratch myself”, or something similar, then I’m guessing, you’re not devoting enough time to relaxing, sleeping well, or you know, just sitting down and doing nothing for a little while every day.

I’m a recovering ‘rush-around woman’ myself, so I know what this sort of life feels like. Even nowadays, in our more relaxed country lifestyle, I still occasionally get pulled back into that old pattern of “so much to do, so little time.”

Our bodies, minds and emotions need regular down time.  Daily rest is not a luxury, it’s a necessity for each and every one of us.

What’s happening is that by placing all this pressure on ourselves to:

  • Be productive
  • Do everything well
  • Be infallible and perfect
  • Be a support for others
  • Be approved of by others etc, etc…

…we are burning out our endocrine system, starting with our adrenal glands.

You’ve all heard about the fight or flight response? Yes? Well here’s a recap; you see we humans were designed to be in the stress-response state for around maybe thirty seconds per day. You know, walking through the jungle and, “Oh hell, there’s a leopard over there, RUN!”….(thirty seconds later)…”Phew. That was close, wow, my chest is pounding hard.”

May the animals be our teachers.
May the animals be our teachers.

These days, due to our modern lifestyle, we are placing ourselves in the fight or flight state on and off all day long and our adrenals, which secrete many essential hormones including cortisol which helps us recover after stress or crisis, are just plain over-worked.

Here are my top four suggestions for changing our ‘rush fast’ mindset to something more gentle and nurturing:

  1. Release the need to be approved of by others in every moment of every day.
  2. Redefine your idea of the word ‘selfish’ and realise that good self-care benefits everyone around you.
  3. Stop obsessing about what’s next and how long your ‘to do’ list is and just BE in the present moment – when we do this and then ask ourselves if everything is actually okay right now, the answer is usually ‘yes’.
  4. Remember to breathe and enjoy your life. There’s no point in putting yourself last for the twenty years or so it takes to raise children and then look back with regret and resentment AND have to live with the legacy of chronic ill-health caused by stress.

So take it easy this weekend, slow down, do less and take stock of how you might re-jig your weekly routine so you have more space, ease and even some help from the other people in your life.  Delegation is not a dirty word 🙂

Here’s what medical intuitive, Caroline Sutherland has to say on the matter: Adrenal Fatigue – The 21st Century Disease (click to read more).

I love helping people navigate these sorts of changes in their lives. I’m available for sessions on either a single session basis, or you can buy a three session package.  Read more here and phone me for a chat.

Much love to you all, Tricia

Meditation Saved My Sanity When I Was a New Mum

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How good are you at making your own health and happiness your highest priority?

I’ve always been fairly focused on looking after my own health and emotional well-being, it’s just something I managed to hone as a young woman. I worked out quite early in my adult life that I’m quite sensitive to stress and that my health goes downhill fast in response to bodily neglect or mistreatment.

I have never been one of those people who can party all night and then with only a glimpse at the pillow, proceed with reasonable normality through the following day.  Okay, I’ll come clean…I’ve only ever had one hangover in my life.  Boring?  Perhaps, but the truth is, I just didn’t like the way it felt and resolved to never do it again.

Simple for me I know but hey, I’m not much of a party animal or risk taker.  I like home, routine, comfort, safety and also… (might as well come completely clean with you), not wasting my money, nor being in vast clouds of cigarette smoke – it was the early nineties and people still smoked in pubs and clubs.

Anyway, fast forward to me in my early thirties and having my first child…

I thought my commitment to good self-care was right on track.  Then I became a mother.  Early motherhood for me was very rewarding, exhausting and emotionally….shall we say, demanding, draining?

Back then I thought getting out for a walk once or twice a week on my own, or getting a haircut, or hold the front page, doing the grocery shop without baby in tow, were living it up.  He was my world and I loved him intensely but I wasn’t so good at spending much time looking after myself or letting others do things for me. And to be honest, my marriage suffered some neglect too.

Not much changed when our daughter came along. In fact with a newborn and a toddler, I found even more to do in my mummy role and found it even easier to push away thoughts about what I wanted and needed for my own happiness and well-being.

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I certainly loved being a mother and felt so grateful for having two gorgeous healthy children but I wasn’t really enjoying my life.  I felt stressed every day, put silly amounts of pressure on myself to keep a perfect home and have perfectly healthy and well-behaved kids, and didn’t really take a healthy amount of time out just for myself.

Things began changing for me a year or so later when my children were both toddlers and bless them, still sleeping in the afternoons. I listened to my inner wisdom and calling on my memories of a Buddhist meditation course I’d done with my mum as a 25 year-old, I began meditating each day for 30 minutes while the children slept.

Hey, it only took me a decade to implement what I’d learned, not too bad.

Here’s what daily meditation gave me:

  • A rest from my over-active mind
  • Connection to my inner wisdom
  • An access point to my own source of peace and calm
  • Renewed faith in my own goodness and adequacy
  • Increased patience with my children
  • Inspiration and guidance regarding who I was at a deeper level and what my true passions were
  • Much needed perspective on my roles of mother and wife in relation to who I am as an individual…

There’s so much more I could tell you and that was just what I noticed in those first few weeks of beginning my daily practice.

If you’d like some help with getting started in your own meditation practice, you might benefit from a session (or three) with me. Click here to learn more or go to my Free audio meditation page and listen to one of my guided processes.

Much love and lightness to you all,

Tricia

Winter Solstice Healing – A 12 Minute Meditation

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If there was ever a perfect time to take a break and quiet things down in our lives, then this is it.  We’re days away from our longest night here in the southern hemisphere.

Can you feel yourself wanting to slow down and hibernate this week?  Many of us get colds and flu around this time of year and I don’t think it’s just to do with the colder weather.  Our bodies crave rest and rejuvenation at this mid-point of the year and just like the animals do, we could benefit from flowing with what feels natural for each of us.

How often do we do that?

How easy is it to gracefully respond to what our body tells us and flow with what feels good and nurturing?

Not so easy is it.  We’ve all been programmed to behave as though each day is identical to the next.  Get up with the alarm clock, eat breakfast, go to work, do household chores, deliver and pick up children etc, etc.

In reality, we’re all subject to the ebb and flow of energy levels, physical and emotional urges and bodily needs that come with all the natural cycles of life.  Here’s just a few:

  • The moon phases
  • The seasons
  • The ocean tides
  • For women, our menstrual cycle
  • Our sleep cycle which is guided mostly by the night and day cycle
  • The weekly, monthly and annual calendar cycle
  • The hours and minutes governed by clock hands moving in their cycle

Then there’s also the wider cosmic cycles of planetary orbits, comet movement and so much astronomical complexity it blows my tiny mind.

We’re all influenced in small and also significant ways by all of this and it’s no wonder to me that when the mind and emotions give us the signal to slow down and rest and we don’t listen, that the body eventually caves in and succumbs to a virus of some sort.  Not that being sick is a failure, it’s just a nice clear sign that we need to stop.

This week I recorded a gentle little meditation to celebrate the solstice and to honour the need for us all to rest and fully relax now and again.  Grab a blanket, settle into a comfy chair and have a listen….

Solstice blessings to you all, Tricia

 

 

 

It Doesn’t Matter What You Eat

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We all seem to be obsessed with food, cooking, and diet these days and I’m not convinced it’s making any of us healthier or happier.

We spend so much mental energy on what to eat and buy and then how to cook it.  For some people this food fascination is almost a full-time job and indeed a whole industry has sprung up around it.  People now become national celebrities because they can cook well. What?

Does it stress you out?  Do you wonder if the ingredients you have in your green smoothie really are the optimal blend of cancer-fighting, metabolism-boosting and hip-slimming goodness, or is someone else’s recipe better?

I’ll declare my position right now…I have never had a green smoothie in my life.  Why?  Well I just don’t think that’s what my body needs and since my intuitive abilities with regard to my own health are pretty strong, I’m following what my gut says.  It says no.

So let me flesh out my argument a little more:

  • Food fads come and go
  • Research proving certain foods are good or bad is often later proven to be false
  • We’re all different with regard to our dietary needs depending on body size, age, activity level, gender, digestive function and hormonal make-up.
  • We all need less food than we think we do and our needs change with the seasons
  • Our bodies are always trying to tell us what we need, we’ve just stopped listening to them
  • What we focus on expands, so if we make food the central focus in our lives, chances are, we’ll waste a lot of time choosing, cooking and eating our meals when all we really needed was some wholemeal toast with peanut butter.
  • When we over-emphasise the importance of food we eat more and we get less done in the other, perhaps more creative, fulfilling and life-enhancing realms of our lives.
Enjoying a walk with my family....not caring at all about what's for lunch.
Enjoying a walk with my family….not caring at all about what’s for lunch.

That all sounds convincing right?

But what I really wanted to convey here relates directly to the title, “It doesn’t MATTER what you eat”.  Quantum scientists have known for years now that there is actually very little matter (solid stuff) in the universe, when examined at the quantum level, there is far, far more space in everything than there is matter.

Stay with me here because what I’m about to tell you is true and may have the power to change not only how and what you eat but how you feel about lots of other things in your life.

Everything is ENERGY

What you feel and think about what you eat has an overwhelming influence on how your body treats it.  If you think what you are eating is bad for you your body will fail to perceive and absorb the nutrients in that food. Similarly, if you hate your body and feel that every mouthful you swallow is making you fat, your body will play along.

Did you know there are brain cells in your stomach and intestinal tract?

So hey, I don’t want to bore you with all the science (mainly cause I don’t know it all), but what I do know from my intuition and wisdom channeled from Source is that we are constantly creating our experience of life via our thoughts and feelings. Not all of it sure, but most of the day to day stuff.

Put simply, when we love the body and listen to our desire for this or that, it doesn’t take too long before we begin reaching for a carrot to snack on rather than a packet of crisps, or we stop at one or two cookies instead of eating five.  Our body is incredibly wise and straightforward when we honour it properly.

So here’s my tip for the week: Enjoy what you eat, eat what you enjoy and be present with every bite.  Slow down and appreciate your meal with awareness and your body will tell you when it’s satisfied.

That’s all for today and if you’d like to spend some time receiving some guidance and healing from me over the phone, take a look at my Sessions with Tricia page and call or email me.

Much love, Tricia

 

Finding it Hard to Meditate? Listen to This…

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Many of you think you can’t meditate don’t you?  Tried it…too hard…not worth the trouble, right?

That monkey mind just won’t shut up. It’s a constant stream of unpleasant thoughts and feelings, memories and worries amid the shopping lists, reminder to self to phone Mum, and that awful realization you forgot a friend’s birthday last week.

I know, I feel your pain because this happens to me when I meditate too.  Yes, I’ve been a daily (well almost), meditator for oh about nine years now and I too get distracted by my mind.

So do you know what I did to help myself become better at meditating?  I started a women’s meditation circle and began channeling guided meditations for the group within a few months. Fun huh?

That was two years ago and the good news is that running a weekly session with other people has certainly improved the quality of my daily meditations and I love doing it. The not so good new though is some days I still don’t find it easy to settle the body and calm the mind and some (very occasional) days, I don’t make the time to do it at all.

Hey, I’m only human and life has a funny habit of shifting and changing beneath our feet, right?

So, short article today because I want you to take fifteen minutes for yourself right now and listen to this easy and simplified guided meditation I recorded today.

Allow me to gently guide you within your heart space and feel those beautiful glimpses, those soft little moments of stillness and peace.  I guarantee you’ll feel better for doing it.

Much love, Tricia

Thanks so  much for taking the time to listen to this little audio.  Feel free to listen again and share with your friends and if you’d like to meet with me in person or over the telephone for a coaching session, just take a look at this page and contact me for a conversation before you make your appointment.

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Be a Success Without Sacrificing Your Joy

Posted in Self-Care and Self-Healing

I’m feeling jubilant, relieved and successful right now and it’s all because I cleaned our bathrooms this afternoon. It’s been one of those strange weeks where I’ve been placing a lot of extra pressure on myself and finding the time to do those pesky household tasks has been tricky.

You see it all started last weekend when I headed up to the big smoke to attend a two day course on writing great quality media releases to get some free publicity in the mainstream media for my coaching business.

I’m a keen student because I love learning and I love demonstrating my new found knowledge and gaining recognition from my teachers.  Square huh?

Trouble is, in this grown up world, far, far away from the childhood classroom, it’s not so simple to take what we’ve learned, get ten out of ten on the pencil and paper test and declare ourselves a success.

Plus, as a result of the unique blend of nature and nurture in which I was raised, I received (or interpreted all by my lonesome), some pretty clear messages that led me to believe that anything worth doing must involve quite a lot of:

  • Striving
  • Struggle
  • Intelligence
  • Hard work
  • Luck
  • and, the biggie, Sacrifice

The good stuff I picked up though included persistence, focus, attention to detail, pride in a job well done and pleasure in seeing the final results.

This love and mastery of learning has carried me faithfully through two university degrees, a post-grad. diploma and countless short courses in subjects as diverse as flower essences, painting, creative writing and teaching.

What I noticed this week after completing my media release course was that while I felt pumped with confidence, enthusiasm and motivation to succeed, I also placed a lot of pressure on myself to get the results I desired, and fast, instantly if possible.

So now that it’s five days later and I’m yet to see my article published or even speak to a journalist, I’m actually feeling fine and a lot more relaxed about the pace of my progress because I’ve actually done okay amid a week full of the regular work, family and personal demands.

And I’ve clung with clear determination and focus to the self-care rituals I do daily to keep myself, happy, healthy and in balance.  I’ve walked, meditated, danced, had tea catch-ups with three girlfriends and gone to my weekly yoga class (hence, the bathrooms went to the bottom of the ‘to do’ list).

I just have to get outside and enjoy what's on my doorstep.
I just have to get outside and enjoy what’s on my doorstep.

Years ago, this wouldn’t have been the case. I would have been head down, tail up, working and pushing my way to success regardless of the cost to my relationships, sanity or well-being.  I most likely would have been terrible company for my family and may have ended up coming down with a cold.

And, here’s the reality check I’ve discovered that supports my new approach:

The old me wasted a lot of time responding to my busy mind and heading off down dead end routes instead of understanding that all happens for a reason and a season.  While we must make an effort and take action, the timing of our success is not really determined by our steadfast focus or our stress-laden need for it to be completed…NOW if possible.

Nope, not at all.  There’s more to it and we can harness the power of universal support and our own divine inspiration all the better when we’re in an attitude of co-creation rather than solo grunt.

I could tell you a whole heap more but that’s enough for now… If you would like some personal guidance and support with any of this stuff, please read more here and contact me for a chat.

Much love, Tricia