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Month: December 2015

You’re Not Wrong and Neither Are They

Posted in Heal Relationships

We think we’re aware right?  We think we know ourselves and all our foibles pretty well by now. Yes?

Well I’m sorry to say this, and of course I’m speaking just for myself here 🙂 , but I feel many of us still have a long way to go before we can claim any sort of seniority in the AWARENESS stakes…

Find yourself complaining about certain people in your life?

Still have one or two family members that really know how to push your buttons?

Get so caught up in your reaction to what someone has said or done that you aren’t able to be the compassionate person you are deep down?

Welcome to humanity, I guess…AND also, we are making some progress aren’t we?

Well you know and I know that this month of December right here, right now, is THE month of the year for family get-togethers and family explosions (either silently muffled or loudly proclaimed). Bring it on I say.

What I find in my sessions with the gorgeous humans who come and sit with me each day, is that while we may understand we are always an active participant in any unhappy happenings between ourselves and others, it’s far easier to just want the other person to change.

True growth and freedom begins with the realisation that in some way or another, that person you are cursing and criticizing is actually being of service to you via their behaviour. And it’s often those we love the most and have most meaning to us that have the power to really tick us off.

What they are showing us is usually one of the following things:

  • An aspect of ourselves that we may benefit from embracing and loving instead of denying and condemning.
  • An unmet need from long ago that we can most often meet for ourselves rather than demanding they meet it.
  • A strong fear or belief we are suppressing and projecting onto them as an excuse for not confronting it. For example; “Oh no, we couldn’t possibly go on an overseas holiday, Mary is such a scrooge.”
  • A demonstration of how we don’t honour and respect ourselves enough with regard to speaking our truth, looking after our own well-being or saying ‘no’ to the things we don’t want to do.
  • A need of theirs to feel heard, more valued, acknowledged or forgiven by you. Maybe this will smooth the way?

Here’s a little exercise we can all do this holiday season to bring a greater sense of peace and calm to every interaction: Notice how you are feeling, acknowledge it and ask yourself this beautiful question posed by Neale Donald Walsch.

“What would love do now?”

Coming from this perspective can only soothe us and return us to our gentle selves where we are more able to breathe, welcome the realities of others and bless them for their humanness.

Also, make time and space for yourself in the coming weeks to go outdoors alone, take a rest during the day or just doing any small or big thing that makes you feel nurtured and relaxed.

Being in nature is my best therapy, just look at this cute ball of fluffy baby bird I photographed just outside our home this morning. So sweet.

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When all is said and done, just be yourself and let others be themselves and love will be the victor.

For some personal assistance with all of this relationship stuff, read about my session work here and feel free to phone or email me so we can get to know each other a little before your appointment.

Many blessings, Tricia