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Month: November 2014

You Are Not What’s Happened to You

Posted in Live From Intuition, Live Your Passions, and Trust The Universe

In a couple of sessions with my beautiful clients this week I’ve found myself talking about the big versus the small view of our lives, well perhaps more our existence than our ‘lives’.

You know, the idea we are on this planet, a spiritual being having a physical experience for this finite time period and then, well then, who knows but I’ve got a feeling we continue to exist as spiritual beings beyond and indeed did prior to this lifetime we are currently in.

So if that’s true and hey, it’s just my belief, you are very welcome to register a skeptical facial expression right now…

Anyway, so I feel this is true and yet this life I’m having right now does feel very important, very absorbing and you know, I really identify with me as a person in this lifetime and all that I have experienced, not to mention all my dreams for the future.  So how do I put that all into perspective with regard to my belief that I am an eternal being not who but that will exist beyond this human life?

image courtesy www.telegraph.co.uk
image courtesy www.telegraph.co.uk

What I’m talking about here is living life from the viewpoint (the very liberating viewpoint I think), that what we know about the story of our time here in this current life is not the full story or the whole picture and that we have a bigger story, a more expansive existence that goes on beyond the comprehension of our limited human minds.

Now I’m not suggesting for a moment that our human lives here and now are not important or not to be revered and valued immensely, no, not at all.  We are certainly here to experience all that our souls very carefully set out to explore, discover, sense, feel, enjoy and endure when we made the choice to come and have this life.

What I’m hoping to elucidate (cool word), is that although we must take these lives of ours seriously enough that we engage, learn, relate, embrace, evolve and create as a direct result of all that we experience, perhaps from time to time, we could also take an imaginary step back from what we are feeling, suffering with, recovering from, catastrophising and even celebrating and realise…

This is not all there is to me, this is only my small story, I’m bigger and the infinite universe that is my true home is far bigger than this life event.

Phew, profound huh?

Wait, there’s more…

The things that have happened to me in this life have nothing at all to do with my inherent goodness as a divine soul, nor how I am loved beyond the stars and back again by the love energy that created All.

When we have the capacity to take this mental step back and view our lives from a more objective, less personal standpoint we are more likely to have the courage to chase our dreams, speak up for what we believe in and make choices that well, put simply, make us happy.  We are less likely to live in automatic pilot, put up with abuse from others or go on punishing ourselves with regret and guilt over past actions.

It’s all been happening for you, you can see that more easily when you take the BIG picture perspective. You’ve gained far more than what you may feel you’ve lost.  And ultimately, what it all boils down to is this:

You are loved

You are loved

You are love

That’s all <3

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Motherhood – How to Care Less

Posted in Heal Relationships, and Self-Care and Self-Healing

Today I visited my son’s new school (he’s starting high school next year), for the first time.  As I picked out his new T.shirts and shorts in the uniform shop I thought, with a little tear in my eye; “My little boy’s moving on, stepping into a new stage of life”.

It’s natural isn’t it for a mother to grieve, just a little, the passing of her children’s childhoods? Just how much we grieve I think depends on how much we’ve retained or re-created, as it was in my case, our own sense of self amid the mothering role.IMG_9324

Because, let’s face it, being a mother, much like being a daughter, wife, sister, friend, or aunt is a role you fulfill as part of your life.  It is not you with a capital Y.  You are a mother yes, but you are first and foremost a person, yes, an individual human being who existed before her little bundles of joy and believe it or not, will continue to sparkle and dazzle the universe with her brilliance long after the said bundles have flown the nest.

We feel happy/sad when we wean them, when they begin school, lose their first tooth, experience their first major disappointment and then recover, miss out on a party invite or don’t get much of a game when playing their first team sport.  Honestly, raising children can be exhausting and heart-breaking. It’s not for the faint-hearted.

I for one, took the ‘jump in feet-first, total immersion‘ approach to motherhood.  For five years that’s who and what I was, their mother.  Other roles like wife (my poor husband), daughter and sister took a definite back seat. When I came wandering, stumbling out of that period it felt like I’d returned from a long absence from my own life.  I felt a bit like a time-traveller cast randomly into a foreign land at an unknown point in time.  Well perhaps that’s a little dramatic, but not awfully so.

I was ‘mummy’ and that’s all I really identified with.

I’d lost who I used to be, and to be honest that wasn’t a bad thing because I hadn’t overly enjoyed being her.  I just wasn’t sure who, apart from ‘mummy’, I was now. I wasn’t even the qualified psychologist I’d embodied just three years prior.  Sure, I knew I had been her and could role-play that job again, it just didn’t feel like ‘me’ anymore.

So not being able to figure it out in my mind, I eventually followed my heart into some short courses in writing, art and natural therapies to flush out the real ‘me’.  I knew she had to be in there somewhere…

And it worked. It’s taken many years, around seven in fact, but I now understand who I am at a deeper level and have work and other activities in my daily life that support and express that real me.

So when I witness the growing up and growing away-ness in my children, I don’t feel too sad because I have this rich and varied life that’s quite separate from them.  I am ‘me’ independent of the mother role and it feels good.

To care is beautiful, to care too much is painful and stifling for those we love.  Love yourself a little more and you’ll find you care just the right amount for everyone else with ease.

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Much love, Tricia

 

Feel The Fear but Don’t Let it Run Your Life

Posted in Live From Intuition, and Live Your Passions

Two whole years ago I launched a dance class for women in a community hall in my town.  I’d only been living here for six months when I began this bold new venture and to be completely blunt, it failed.

Sure, a few women turned up, I had some fun (in only slightly greater measure than the terror), and I met the most lovely and inspiring 73 year old woman who became a friend and meditation buddy.

I wrote this post: The Healing Power of Dance as I began this short but sweet journey in 2012

These feet just wanna dance!
These feet just wanna dance!

So, here I am again, I’ve booked the space, created a flyer and started publicising it in facebook.  In just under two weeks I’ll be leading a healing dance class for women in my little country town.

This time I have a much bigger network of contacts to invite, I am more in tune with my inner guidance and open to receiving spontaneous inspiration moment by moment AND I’m still scared.

The fear is with me every time I think about it, when I ponder the music selection and when I tell anyone about it.

And….I’m doing it anyway.  I’ve spent decades wanting to dance for a living and now, at the ripe-ish age of 44, it would seem, now is the time.

My message here is that we all have creative energy and for many of us, it’s our life’s work here on planet Earth to uncover, release and live that energy every day.

I haven’t achieved anything yet, my first women’s healing dance class is running on Saturday 22nd November at 8.00 in the morning (wish me luck).  And yet I feel proud and calm and certain that this time it will take off and fly and that I will be along for the ride with joy, passion and freedom.

In essence, feeling fearful about a new idea, project or business venture just means we care a lot about it and ourselves.  All that’s needed is baby steps.  Take that first step and see where it leads.  Don’t let fear stop you from trying because what I’ve discovered is the more we face our fears and move ahead anyway, the more daring we become.

Keep these three things in mind:

  • Our fears can also be our excitement
  • Our fears can be our ego/mind just trying to keep us safe
  • Fear is just another emotion that when acknowledged, blessed and felt, is then free to morph into another expression of who we are.

Our family holiday in Spain took me right out of my comfort zone and everything turned out great. What I took from that experience was that’s it’s safe to take risks and why not simply trust that it will all be okay?

Small success leads to bigger success

Oh and by the way, that friend of mine in her seventies, well she’s booked her place to dance with me on the 22nd.  Cool huh?

For some personal support and guidance with facing your fears make an appointment with me .  We can connect over the phone or on Skype at a time that suits you.

Blessings, Tricia

Five Spiritual Secrets for a Better Life

Posted in Live From Intuition

Not so long ago I crossed the bridge from “Mainstream, Mind-focused Logical Land” and entered “Intuitive, Spirit-guided Magic-can-happen Land”.  And guess what, my life is sooo much better.

My mission now is to lead as many willing adventurers as I can across the bridge to join me here in the land of infinite possibility, freedom and fun.

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So this week I’m debunking some myths about embracing this way of life by sharing my top five spiritual secrets to a better life.  Here goes…
  1. You don’t need to meditate or pray in order to connect with Spirit/the Universe – it certainly helps me when I do, but as long as you spend time alone in nature, playing or listening to music (maybe not death metal), journaling or creating anything artistic, you are putting yourself in the zone to receive inspiration, healing and support.
  2. Forget fad diets, forcing yourself to drink that green smoothie you only sort of like and feeling bad that you aren’t drinking enough water – Place your trust and awareness in your wise, clever body and listen to what it wants each day. We all need different foods and varying amounts of fluids. There’s no right or wrong when you rely on your intuitive self to guide your choices.  As soon as you begin going with what you feel like, your body will course correct and find its own way to a healthy weight.
  3. Add healing power to everything you consume by simply being present and aware  – The tradition of saying grace or blessing our food before a meal goes back millennia because it actually activates the ever-present healing energy in our food and water. So just be mindful and appreciate whatever it is you’re receiving and your food will be your elixir.
  4. You are not responsible for anyone’s happiness but your own – This is especially relevant for us women.  No, dear feminine ones, you are NOT responsible for your children’s or partner’s happiness.  Save yourself first.  In other words, focus on creating your own happiness and the wonderful souls around you will feel freer to pursue their own bliss in turn.  Focus only on others and I assure you, nobody wins.
  5. Your creative and sexual expression are one and the same energy – if one is blocked or suppressed, your enjoyment of the other will be diminished. If you have hang-ups or fears around your sensuality, sexuality, creativity, or artistic talents, making progress in one of these realms can trigger instant healing in the others. So paint, make love, dance, sing, draw, sew, cook, get or give a massage, do yoga, write or sculpt yourself ALIVE!

For some extra help or further explanation of any of these concepts contact me for a personal consultation in-person, over the phone or on Skype. Go to Book A Session With Tricia in my website for more details.

Be your intuitive and natural self and create a life more ‘you’. <3