The sun is out and the birds are singing.
It’s easy to be happy on a day like today in my beautiful corner of the world. This morning I went on a little walk along the bay and sat on a rock for ten minutes to enjoy the spectacle of a young humpback whale slapping its tail joyfully on the water a kilometre or so from where I sat.
So how do we enjoy those not so good days when we feel tired, the sky is grey, we have pain in our bodies, are worried about something or just feel generally flat? Hard isn’t it?
Well let’s have a little think about what enjoyment really is. It feels to me that like our concepts of love, fun, freedom, comfort and abundance, the meaning we ascribe to the word “enjoy” could do with a bit of a re-jig. In a nutshell, I think we need to un-Hollywoodize these terms, tone them down, calm them down and make them more attainable.
All of the spiritual teachers I connect with are sending out much the same message right now. Find any way you can to connect with what you love, what brings you joy and what lifts your spirits multiple times each day and your capacity to enjoy life and attract more of the same, will increase exponentially. For me right now this means being in nature, meditating, being completely present with my children, partner, family, friends and clients, listening to my body and caring for myself well.
Where we all seem to fail in following through on this advice is in thinking,”nah, that’s too simple.”
“I want to make big changes in my life, these little daily pleasures are so minor compared with what I think will really make me happy. I need that new job, new home, new partner, overseas holiday…..,then I’ll be happy.”
We get all muddled up thinking that before happiness must come suffering. Isn’t that true? We have been indoctrinated by western culture to think that true happiness only comes about after many trials, challenges and crises. It’s like we imagine that if we just settle into feeling good about what is enjoyable in our lives right now, we’ll take our eyes off the “main game” for just a little too long and somehow miss out on the big prize.
In fact the opposite is true. There is no paradox here. Just the one we have mistakenly created. Happiness begets happiness. Yearning begets yearning. And misery begets misery.
So, take a moment right now. Look around you, feel how you feel and notice what is good in your life. A lot right?
Enjoy this moment and make some different choices today to do more of what brings you joy in those small subtle ways.
For this is the only and true path to more of what you want. Start now! 🙂